I vote yes. Your children should respect you just like your mother...
I think parents should be in charge of discipline and discuss with the grandparents what kind of discipline is appropriate for them to administer. Personally no one disciplined my children but me and my husband. That was our job.
If you have to discipline it's ok to do so. I've never spanked my grandson but I have come close. As grandparents you want to show them love and support. We watch are grandson at least 2 days a week so you have to let them know that you will punish them if needed or they will walk all over you. Once my grandson realized that I would spank him if needed, he decided to listen. We play almost anything he'd like to do within reason and would do anything for him but they have to give you respect and listen in return.
If my grand daughter is in my care, I think it is necessary that I correct or discipline her when the need arises. She knows that there are rules and accompanying penalties for breaking said rules. Indeed, primary discipline is the responsibility of the parents but I will not tolerate my grand child running amok and not do anything about it. That would be irresponsible in my opinion. Discipline could be as simple as denial of a snack/treat or a time out, to get my message heard.
I think that it is appropriate for a grandparent to discipline a child, especially if the grandparent is left as the one "in charge" while the parents are out/working/whatever. It's important that kids learn who the adults are in their life that are looking out for their well-being, and offering them structure and teaching them to comply with rules is one important way of teaching a child that they are secure and cared for.
That said, I do think it's important that the grandparent respect the parents' wishes in terms of the mode of discipline. For one, the parents are the people entrusted with the child's overall care and well-being, and their wishes should be respected. (Meaning if the parents say no spanking, the grandparents should respect that and not use spanking as a punishment). Also, if there is consistency between the rules AND the consequences at home and at other places the child is cared for (such as the grandparents' houses), the child will have an easier time following the rules - if they get a time out at home when they misbehave, they'll understand when grandma or grandpa says "Do that again and you'll get a time out."
Especially when they're young, kids spend a lot of their energy trying to make sense of the world, and one of the ways they do this is through looking for patterns, and therefore, consistency is really important when it comes to discipline!
A grandparent should discipline a grandchild if the child is left in the care of the grandparent; however, if the parent is present, that job should fall to the parent.
Usually grandparents spoil their grandchildren which sure is a delight for the kid but NOT for the parents.
I think as a grandparent there is no harm in enjoying the company of your grandchild but also be there to discipline him since; having fun and disciplining always go together. And the kid will not feel the pressure.
by cfin 4 years ago
Is a parent right to cut a grandparent out of their life if they constantly undermine the parentSo if a grandparent was never around when the parent (Mrs.X) was a kid, is a real piece of work, manipulative, a liar and has been bringing the grandchild to places that the parent specifically told them...
by Elayne 8 years ago
Do you have any ideas of how a grandparent can be more relevant in the lives of their grandchildren. Some only have the reputation of being amusing.
by Twila Nelson 7 years ago
With single parent homes and two income families, I know that being with loving Grandparents is a safe place for small children and babies. I do have a concern about when it is fair for the grandparents to be paid. And how much money is fair for grandparents to be paid. What is fair for...
by TheCraftyPens 6 years ago
Do you respect your child/ children? How much?As elders, we 'expect' respect from our children/ youngsters. But do we respect them back? Do we get down to their level and try to understand what they have to say? How many times have we overlooked a child's need to speak out? Are we really respecting...
by Kim Kennedy 2 years ago
What would you do if you saw someone smack a child?Out shopping, I challenged a grandmother who smacked her toddler grandchild alongside me, because he was whingeing. We ended up having a row in the street, which I've never done with anyone before. How would you have acted?
by capricornrising 2 years ago
How did your parents discipline you as a child?
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