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Have you been estranged from a family member?

  1. pstraubie48 profile image87
    pstraubie48posted 5 years ago

    Have you been estranged from a family member?

    Without revealing the personal nature of it, perhaps suggest ways to reunite with a family member with whom you may not have seen or spoken to because of an argument or disagreement. This happened to me and it took many years for it to be resolved.Sometimes some of those inovolved are ready to forgive and move on, and sometimes the others are not. It can often be dificult to mend the broken relationship. Happened to you??


  2. Laura in Denver profile image81
    Laura in Denverposted 5 years ago

    Yes. The bitter divorice I went through caused me many problems seeing my kids and much anger on my part.

    I had a 5 month estrangement from my youngest daughter when I said something particularly insulting about her father in a moment of stupidity.

    Finally, though, things are getting back to normal.

    1. kathyjones1952@at profile image59
      kathyjones1952@atposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I'm happy to hear things are better between you and your daughter now smile!

  3. Eileen Goodall profile image87
    Eileen Goodallposted 5 years ago

    For over 3 years now my entire family (2 brothers/2 sisters) and partners and all their children (16 in total) have been estranged from me because of one of my sister's husband who stalked me and committed obscene behaviour against me, when he wouldn't stop I eventually went to the Police - since then I have been abandoned and nasty rumours have been circulated about me.  I don't see any way back from that.

    1. Laura in Denver profile image81
      Laura in Denverposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Did you obtain a restraining order from a judge for stalking?

      That can be helpful, but sometimes impossible if there are no witnesses.

    2. Eileen Goodall profile image87
      Eileen Goodallposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      the Police took him to court and we had so much evidence that he was found guilty, but all he was given was an £800 fine.

  4. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 5 years ago

    Certain family members of mine decided to stand against me for custody of my son, apparently because I don't play their game and my ex-husband does. Personally, while I no longer harbor any anger over it, to me it sends a clear message that they no longer have anything to say to me and I can't see any benefit of re-uniting with them. It has been almost four years, and I am very happy with where my life is now without the presence of people who will use or back-stab, and most of the time I don't feel like anything is missing anymore.

    So I'll bring in another example. My husband has been estranged from his brother after said brother married their first cousin, and then cheated on her with my husband's first wife. It is now over 25 years after the fact, and a mere matter of months since he finally allowed another family member to give his brother our phone number. There have been no teary resolutions, just, "You're still my baby brother, I'm ready to talk before our lives are over." It will, no doubt, be a long process, and it's very possible that they will never be on easy terms again, but the lines of communication are slowly opening. His brother put the word out that he'd like to talk to him, and my husband basically just let him know that such a talk would be allowed.

    I'd say that every case of estrangement will be very different, depending on who was wronged and in what way, or what the conditions of the estrangement were. Individual personalities will also dictate just what shape reunion takes, and how long it takes. In many cases it may never happen, and in some cases it never should happen, but each and every one will be different.

  5. cloudy_cool profile image73
    cloudy_coolposted 5 years ago

    Happening in continuation as I type...for the past several years its been in a state of shock - connect the reject with a bang...then connect and it goes on and on...

    They say, time heals...so still waiting...afterall its my mother we're talking about...we haven't spoken with each other since nearly two years now...

    Time is ticking...I wonder if there would be any healing at this rate...

    1. Laura in Denver profile image81
      Laura in Denverposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      It sounds like you desire healing, yet want the other party (your Mom) to make the first move.

  6. Xenonlit profile image60
    Xenonlitposted 5 years ago

    Yes. We will remain estranged because of uncalled for and longstanding abuse and harm. We are not the ones to judge why or how people estrange, even if it is a common desire to have families stick together.

  7. Diane Woodson profile image60
    Diane Woodsonposted 5 years ago

    The bi-polar disorder that I have experience for over 30 years has caused me to be estranged from everyone except my MOM and I am thankful for having her in my life. All of the things that occurred in my life I know are hard for those away from me to understand. It is difficult, sometimes depressing and a terrible thing to experience however I cope pretty well. I am thankful for a wonderful life and have lots of people who do love me no matter if I am bi-polar or not.