Do we as parents spoil our kids to much now of days ?
It seems as though now of days kids get what ever they want. Or parents like me want so much for our children that we tend to go over board without even noticing it. Giving them this an that when they don't even ask for it and can some times care less.
Yes, and I have been guilt of it in the past as well. A lot of parents will buy their children many things they do not even need. I have to be honest here, and I'm sorry if I offend anyone, but why does an eight year old need a brand new laptop? They really don't. And by parents giving children every little thing they want, and most things they don't, it teaches children not to take no for an answer (because they never hear the word no) as well as poor work ethic because they do not have to work for anything. My niece's birthday was a couple months ago. I told my daughter a month in advance if she wanted to buy her cousin a present just from her she could start doing chores to earn money.
i don't think parents spoil them more, i just think parents are lazy these days and give kids what ever they want so they don't have to do as much with them. i'm proud to say that my wife and i do as much as possible with our kids including playing sports with them, go camping and hiking with them, read books with them etc. we don't buy them every thing they want and they don't expect us to.
I think because we have access to so many things (stores, internet, etc) we are able to purchase more as a whole and because of that we tend to give more to our children. I think most importanly, I try to use "things" as rewards for something that they do that is either really hard for them or for something they do that makes me exceptionally proud. They earn their things and they are now learning the value of money and what things cost. And for me - I am also learning a valuable lesson - they do not NEED to have everything even though I would give them the world if I could!
with the many opportunities that the world offers today especially when it comes to dealing with the desire to be luxurious, children become accustomed to wanting for so much more than what they actually need. This is the reason why there are instances when parents simply cannot say 'no' and mean it.
Nevertheless, if children are used to the culture of simplicity and contentment, then perhaps they would be able to catch on the idea of weighing what is more important in life. Of course, such matter starts with the parents. "teach by example" as they say.....
I remember two helpful hubs about this located at :
The Pursuit of Happiness: the Desire for Wealth Vs the Desire for Contentment: http://rutheddavid.hubpages.com/hub/The … ontentment
The Meaning of a Good Life
http://rutheddavid.hubpages.com/hub/The … -Good-Life
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