Polygamy

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   Gracious Octoberposted 15 years ago

   What are the pro's and cons of this arrangement?

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      prettydarkhorseposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      it gives you headache, financial and emotional problems,,,,and the children too, you are just going to confuse them and they need time and attention, how can you give quality time to those whom you love if you are busy working so that you can sustain them?

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      Lady_Eposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Mmmh.
      
      Pro's - The guy is always pampered and fed. Never needs to lift a hand except maybe to go to work.
      
      
      Con's - Most of the time bad Karma, as "this wife" is jealous of "that wife".
      
      Kids don't always get on.
      
      Valentine's day can be difficult to prepare for.
      
      A lot of Dosh needed for food, family etc
      
      Cons for the woman - You don't really have someone to call your man. He's blimmin shared.
      
      Why do people do it?   

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   TimTurnerposted 15 years ago

   Many on each side.  I don't even know why our government even cares about people who practice polygamy.
   
   As long as women are forced to marry these dudes, then I say let them do it.

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      ediggityposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      So it's ok to force women to marry people?  Man, you're brave.

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         TimTurnerposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I mean't "aren't" force..oops.

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            ediggityposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            I had a feeling, but I thought you might be ready for a showdown.  Good thing I didn't get the popcorn ready.

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   sneakorocksolidposted 15 years ago

   Any man who wants more than one woman on an equal footing in the same house is insane!

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      Fr FtBll Fnzposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Very nicely put.  How can 1 man handle more then 1 woman?  Same goes for the other way too

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   TMinutposted 15 years ago

   Wow, I thought he DID mean that! The only polygamous marriage I know is a woman with two husbands. I can see women not minding if they were raised differently. In America there's pride to deal with - that's MY man, don't touch. But when you talk to women after years of marriage, yes, the women who totally still love their husbands, longingly joke about getting him a second wife so she can have a break for a while.
   
   Don't know how that works for guys.

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   lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

   Women themselves have to love women as well as men and who am I to judge what their preference and morals are?  Who's to say we know or have the right to judge?

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      TMinutposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      This is the post I asked about. I don't know what you mean.

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   TMinutposted 15 years ago

   lyricsingray, What?

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      lyricsingrayposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      what?

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         yoshi97posted 15 years agoin reply to this

         hehe - I think I found the confusion ...
         
         Women themselves have to love women as well as men
         
         I'm not sure that was meant to be translated quote so literally.

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   yoshi97posted 15 years ago

   I already find myself in the doghouse enough with one lady, I couldn't begin to imagine ever leaving the doghouse with two or more.

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   sneakorocksolidposted 15 years ago

   Who's judging? Example: 1-man 3-women
   
   Man: Where would you like to eat tonight?
   
   Women #1: I don't care you pick.
   
   Woman #2: Same here, you pick.
   
   Woman #3: Anything sounds good.
   
   Man: Then it's BBQ!
   
   Woman #1: Not BBQ again, why do you always pick BBQ, you know I don't like BBQ!
   
   Woman #2: Of course you pick what you want. It would be nice if you thought about someone else for a change.
   
   Woman #3: Thats fine I'm not really hungry anyway.
   
   Man: Ok!Ok! How about Italian?
   
   Woman #1: Italians good but not Luigi's that place is creepy!
   
   Woman #2: I don't know if I feel like Italian tonight.
   
   Woman #3: Italian's great! I'm starving!
   
   At the resturant:
   
   Woman #1: Don't be a pig and try not to wear your food!
   
   Woman #2: He'll need a bib!
   
   Woman #3: Don't order an appetizer because nobody wants to share with you because you don't know how to share!
   
   Woman #1,#2,#3: Stop crying! Don't be such a baby!

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      lyricsingrayposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      nice

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   TMinutposted 15 years ago

   Okay, if you mean like THAT...the way I think of it is where each woman has her own house (tent like in middle east, bible, etc.). Otherwise, what's the point? You don't get any break if he's always there.

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    fratjoe18posted 15 years ago

    Honestly, growing up, I never knew it even existed, but I have to say after watching the show "Big Love" It has really educated me on the practices of Polygamy.

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    Flightkeeperposted 15 years ago

    Polygamy, hmmm, more doesn't necessarily mean better.

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    rmcrayneposted 15 years ago

    Hmmm... Just thinking... How about you apply for a marriage license, and marry as many consenting adults as you can get to consent, and you can support.  Male or female.  Civil unions to any consenting adults.  Take the religious bias and judgement out of the formula.  But children are off limits.  No marriage licenses for children. No hiding behind religion to be pedophiles.

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       Daniel Carterposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I totally agree. If it works for you, fine. If it doesn't stay out of the kitchen.

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Em, no.  No sharing here.  (Not that I believe in marriage as it stands, necessarily, anyway.)  Still no sharing.

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    TMinutposted 15 years ago

    And no hiding behind Human Rights and Children's Rights to be pedophiles either.

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    jonettabearmarieposted 15 years ago

    As long as its not just another way for perverts to sleep with under age girls. What's wrong with the men these days? Leave the children alone!!!

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    lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

    You get two turns if you roll an 8

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       lyricsingrayposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Isn't Polygamy a game? 

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          mistywildposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          if you want to call it that

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    RedSonja94posted 15 years ago

    I would just strangle my hubby if he thought he could get away with polygamy.  I would have no part of it.

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    TMinutposted 15 years ago

    Polyandry would be the better choice in today's western world. Before, socially and economically, polygyny was the more feasible option but now with people needing so much money and children being left to the care of strangers because many families can't live on one income, that's changed. More men making money, one woman, fewer children and the mother can be there to care for the children.

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    TMinutposted 15 years ago

    I have to admit though, men seem to feel it proves them to be more manly if they can 'get' more women; only one woman I know of would want to deal with more than one husband in her harem.

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    mistywildposted 15 years ago

    she can do the cooking and cleaning

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    mythological1posted 15 years ago

    To each their own as long as it is all done willingly. Polygamy, swinging, gay, straight, or celebacy, why should it concern anyone not directly involved in the relationship(s) in question. Too many people concerned about what is going on in the neighbors house and not concerned enough with what's happening in their own house. just my two pennies worth

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    Revive@OwnRiskposted 15 years ago

    One of the worst problems about polygamy is inbreeding. You don't hear much about that in the news. There are high rates of various forms of retardation and genetic problems running rampant in religious, polygamist communities.
    
    While the idea "to each his own" is usually fine, I think a bit of knowledge and education along with responsibility go a long way in any sector of society. Best to know what you're getting into in advance, if at all possible.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 15 years ago

    Might as well there's always room for one diviate behavior.

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    thaninjaposted 15 years ago

    I think that we shouldn't place our cultural expecations or norms on someone else.   I don't want to be forced to have more than one wife, nor do I want to be forced to marry a person because the marriage is arranged.
    
    Live and let live.

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