What to do when your child throw tantrum in public?
Kindly advice how to deal with a child who throw tantrum publicly followed by screaming, shouting and kicking. What is the right technique to handle such child temper tantrums?
Each child is different, as is each parent and I think what works for some may not work with others, nonetheless I can tell you what I usually do with my son and you can decide if you should give it a try: basically I sit him down on my lap and tell him that untill he stops all that he will have to be right there and can't go anywhere. At first he is screaming and trying to break free, but as soon as he realizes I'm not letting him go he starts calming down... Only when he is calmer and after we talk for a while and he apologizes, do I let him go off and play again. The other way is to ignore it, but if you are in a public place, everyone will be staring and that isn't too nice, so when in public I usually go with the first...
Oh God I deal with this all the time! Simply take evil monkey child (I'm being very seriously by the way) and whether or not daddy is around, let him know, we are going to the car. He/she is being this way for a reason. Small child-diaper,thirsty,hungry,sleepy, teething. Older child (5 and up)-You might not want to hear it but my parents beat the crap out of me from 6 months old to 13 years old. Just saying.
When my son was four or five he wanted an expensive toy in a store we were shopping in. I said no. He laid on the floor having a royal fit. I walked away from him and went just out of his sight and watched him. He thought I left him there. He got up looked around and yelled "MOM". He never did that again. He's 34 now. I'm not sure if he remembers this, but I never forgot it.
Time out in some form helps to redirect the child. For example, the lady who suggested holding the child in her lap or taking the child to the car are ways of redirecting the child. I would also tell my daughter and now my grandchildren that if they act inappropriately they will not be able to go with me the next time. I would make some type of arrangements for them to have to stay at home for the next trip and discuss appropriate behaviors. Immediately, when the behavior is occurring it is necessary I think to help the child take a time out and re-collect themselves. I also discuss with children that they are reponsibile for their choices of behavior. I try to help the child gain the knowledge and power they can choose different behaviors. This will be actions that will probably have to be repeated time and time again. Consistency and calmness on your part as the authority figure is very important and a necessity to change the child's behavior. At least, these are concepts that I have found to work.
With my kids I would not say a word to them and walk just out of there site ( but still in mine) worked every time. If I could not do that I would ether act like they where not there or if got to out of hand stop what I was doing and take them to the car until they could behave.
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