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Do you believe that children do as we say do or do as we do?

  1. loveofnight profile image80
    loveofnightposted 5 years ago

    Do you believe that children do as we say do or do as we do?


  2. Diana Lee profile image84
    Diana Leeposted 5 years ago

    Children are more than likely to do as we do. Our word is only as good as what we practice doing ourselves.

    1. loveofnight profile image80
      loveofnightposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I too believe this

  3. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    Do as you do. Just like monkey see, monkey do. There has been research on children learning an influence.

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    Garifaliaposted 5 years ago

    Both. Don't you remember when you were a child?; you did as you saw adults do (I took and puffed my dad's cigarettes at the age of 8), yet you were told to do otherwise when seen doing as that adult. Have I confused you? Well, that's exactly how a child feels. So, best thing is....do as you preach in order for your child to do as you teach.

    1. loveofnight profile image80
      loveofnightposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      "do as you preach in order for your child to do as you teach" I like that,thanks

  5. Escobana profile image73
    Escobanaposted 5 years ago

    Children do as we do and do as we say.... until a certain age.

    The impact of imitating my mother is far greater on my life as an adult woman than the messages she tried to tell me. I knew how to mute her out when necessary.

    I've become a perfect clone of my mother if it comes to nagging your partner because I saw and see her doing this for the last 25 years in her marriage.

    My dad is a dominant and stubborn man who turned me into an even more dominant person than he is.

    We do like our parents do and hope to be wiser with those same imperfections than they were. We hope to be more accepting of our flaws and more forgiving of them towards ourselves and our partners.

    1. loveofnight profile image80
      loveofnightposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      It seems that there is no getting away from our parents,thanks for the input Escobana.

    2. Escobana profile image73
      Escobanaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oh Wow! Thanks for giving my answer so much credit! You made my day:)

  6. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Neither. Children do what makes (them) feel good.
    Parents have to teach children to (share, love, sacrafice, be patient, considerate, shame/guilt, and follow the rules). A child left to his/her own devices will always do whatever pleases him/herself in the short run.

  7. Efficient Admin profile image93
    Efficient Adminposted 5 years ago

    I would think do what we say, because we've already been there and done that and know they shouldn't do what we have done. For example smoking cigarettes or hanging around the bad crowd -- sure we've done that but I don't want my children doing those things.

    1. loveofnight profile image80
      loveofnightposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      do what we say do is what my mom and dad said.they felt that we were not suppose to do big people stuff because we were kids (little people). as much as i know they loved us i could not wait for them to leave the house just to try my hand at smoking.

  8. lifetips123 profile image60
    lifetips123posted 5 years ago

    Affirmative.  The children not only imitates what they see in everyday life or what we say to do, but will also become adjustable to some behaviours. We will be astonished many times watching there tolerance to some activities and we will be doubting "from where, they learned that?"
    So they wont necessarily do what we say them to do and they will be doing those things from their own fantasy. It is important to keep in mind that it was not from the television that they will be learning all these things.  So the necessary tip for this is "Always Watch What the Children Watch."

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    supreme upbeatposted 5 years ago

    imitation is what is the most suitable and appropriate learning process in time of childhood.This method will be implemented through direct or indirect application.
    (1)A child can imitate a lesson directly from his parents,brothers,sisters,friends,relatives directly  .
    (2)Or else it can learn things from watching cinema,tv,computer games,advertise,dramas,plays, which I have categorized as indirect influence.
    (3) I believe that children do as we say do.But this is a passive motivator.This process of influencing a child for instructing new and innovative lesson has less impact than the former twos.

  10. Team Wiseman profile image82
    Team Wisemanposted 5 years ago

    If you wanna know what's wrong with you, just look at what you think is wrong in them and you will certainly find out!

  11. Beata Stasak profile image84
    Beata Stasakposted 5 years ago

    Just as Escobana said, children learn very quickly that often there is a big difference between what we say and what we do....they are 'mirrors of our own making' if we like it or not. Being a parent means much more that just merely taking care of and protecting from danger another growing human being...it also means that our own flaws are under very close radar and we have to accept that...being honest with yourself and your child is the key:)

  12. Tnagaria profile image59
    Tnagariaposted 5 years ago

    Believe it or not your child is your mirror, He/she will mirror exactly what you believe anout children. Another truth is that the parent, wether they like the way they were brought up by their parents in their childhood or not will end up behaving in the same way their parents behaved with them, that's because that's the only way their subconscious knows to bring a child up.
    Children until a certain age will do what their parents expect them to do, until the age 5 that is, after which their attachment towards their parents will decrease and towards themselves will increase. When a child reaches this age, its important for the parent to understad that the child is going through huge emotional development and the foundation of their life is being made at this age. Its important for the parent to understnad the childs emotions and desires and encourage them allowing them towards a healthy future, if this is not done effectively the child will still continue to do what he wants but the fear created by his parent will make him sabotage his desires, after he grows up he might unconsciously sabotage his career or relationship out of that fear smile
    Idk if this was the kinda answer you were looking for but I though it would help.
    Good luck

    1. loveofnight profile image80
      loveofnightposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You are so right in that our children are our mirror.I still see myself in my own child, both the good and the bad of it.