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What would you do if an unknown child invaded your personal space and hit you?

  1. Express10 profile image88
    Express10posted 5 years ago

    What would you do if an unknown child invaded your personal space and hit you?

    While standing in a DMV line a child that appeared to be about 6 or 7 repeatedly went through the line and hit random strangers. Some people enjoyed a closed fist instead of an open hand. One elderly man was hit hard in his private area while the mom could not care less where her child was or what he was doing to strangers minding their business.

    I was fuming but avoided a confrontation because time and again when garbage like this happens the parents get mad when you try to tell them, let alone reprimand their child. It made the wait absolutely miserable for about 8 adults though.

  2. abbykorinnelee profile image74
    abbykorinneleeposted 5 years ago

    It did happen to me.  When my son was 10 and I had him for six months during his dad's iraq deployment, he had pent up abandonment and anger issues.  I restrained him and called 911 requesting a single mother policeman of sons.  I got one.  She came and talked to him about domestic violence.  He has never hit me again.

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Very smart lady! You took charge and addressed the issue. The child was called by the mother a couple of times but he ignored her and went back to pestering and hitting people in line.

    2. abbykorinnelee profile image74
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That was an extreme issue, but if it were like what you were going through, I get eye level, stare directly at them and force eye contact while restraining them by their wrists, I give a warning and if they do it again I leave and deal with them

    3. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I don't have children but I really wanted to knock him one after a couple of hits. I figured the mom would have me arrested if I talked to her or him, rather than address the actions of her assaulting child. That's the tendency these days.

  3. MickS profile image74
    MickSposted 5 years ago

    Crack the little brat and tell the mum to keep her brat under control.  I used to teach and was very adept at being able to turn around, 'inocently' and 'accidently'  catch wrong doers with my elbow.  After a few times they soon learned to behave.

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oh how I WANTED to! But then, I'd be arrested for child abuse even though the child was the one who went through the line several times HITTING people. He hit an elderly man right in the penis! The other men groaned knowing it hurt him.

    2. MickS profile image74
      MickSposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      As I said, I learned to do it 'accidently', the kids soon learn when to stop. You can accidently step on a toe.

    3. abbykorinnelee profile image74
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thats when you go up to the mother and address it and if yu don't feel comfortable the DMV has security guards don't they?  If not?  Call the local police station after trying to handle it yourself...violence isn't ok and scare the shit outta the kid

    4. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Everyone said the mom would overreact whether we spoke or hit back. She ignored us & him. The security person was not paying attention, too busy collecting clipboards. He'd probably already been hit in the penis before we arrived & knew to st

    5. MickS profile image74
      MickSposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Sorry abbykorinnelee, children have been given too much control and know they can get away with anyhting, it is about time adults took back control. A painful reminder is quick and easy.

    6. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I believe that an eye for an eye could have been of use. If I ran up to another person and hit them, I should EXPECT that I'd get hit back at the very least or get arrested, not get away without consequence. Public places aren't babysitting centers.

  4. Li Galo profile image78
    Li Galoposted 5 years ago

    It may not be okay to hurt a child (it really isn't) but it IS okay to restrain a child that is hurting others and march them over to the security guard.  I would have done that without hesitation.  I was a classroom teacher and I know this is not against the law - to grab and child, restrain them and take them to an authority for violence against others.  If the mother had a problem, she could say anything she wanted and deal with the security guard while I wordlessly would walk right back to my place in line.  If the security guard and lady wanted to continue the conversation, they would be outnumbered by my counterparts and me in line.  So, no, I have NO issue correcting a wrong child when the mother won't.  You never know what the real story is.  The child's father could have died, or someone may have abused the child and the child is freaking out and out of control over it.  So, it's best to be firm, fair and respectful the whole time - from start to finish - but still not allowing the bad behavior to happen.  If it was a violent adult, would people have stood idly by and allowed it.  I think not.  At least, I hope not!

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I'd NEVER had this issue before. He truly was a little monster, no doubt being raised by an adult one in my opinion. Unfortunately, I know 2 cases where adults stood idly by and allowed illegal behavior from one (perfect stranger) adult to another.

  5. algarveview profile image91
    algarveviewposted 5 years ago

    Well, I go nuts over that sort of thing and I actually can't keep quiet... My husband tells me I'm dangerous and one day he will probably have to get into a fist fight with someone over stunts like that I pull, but disrespect and lack of manners really drive me mad... Usually, I tell the child she is misbehaving and shouldn't do that, I do it very gently, like "Sweetheart you shouldn't do that... bla, bla, bla"... But I have been known to go up to a parent and tell her what a poor job she is doing... I usually avoid passing judgement on how others raise their children, but that sort of thing is the one thing I can't stand... Because it's not just about a type of parenting or the child, it's about not behaving properly in society and it's messing with other peoples' freedom...

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Amen! Why are there so many parents' that allow their children to go wild? If this EVER happens to me again, I probably will have to whop the kid and the parent because they don't want to hear anything bad about themselves or their kids.

  6. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    Call child services. Obviously someone needs to teach that child a lesson. You might not be able to do it, but that kid and especially their parents need to go to a boot camp. The parents more than the child because they are the fools that created that child through horrible parenting.
    And yes, I grew up around a family who would let their children get away with behavior like that.

    1. Express10 profile image88
      Express10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Glad you commented! No one has perfect parents but this woman completely ignored the child and the adults that were trying to get her attention. A LOT of bad things could have happened to that kid while he was out of her sight and out of her mind.

    2. lburmaster profile image82
      lburmasterposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Frankly, I don't think she cares what happens to the child. She might think it's one less mouth to feed.

 
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