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What was THE WORST thing your parents did to you regarding your life goals and a

  1. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    What was THE WORST thing your parents did to you regarding your life goals and aspirations?

  2. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    They did nothing as they passed away when I was a girl. But education was never mentioned prior to their deaths, or any mention of the future. Living with my aunt and uncle following that was much the same. There as no discussion, encouragement, discouragement. I was pretty much on my own.

    1. Billie Kelpin profile image87
      Billie Kelpinposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Someone once told me you have two chances in life for a happy family life - once when you're little and then when you create your own.  May you're second chance have turned out WONDERFULLY, Duffsmom.

    2. duffsmom profile image59
      duffsmomposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You know that is true. My husband and I made conscious efforts to have a happy family because or our own childhoods. Our kids had a great upbringing.  Thanks for you perspective--I appreciate it.

  3. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 4 years ago

    told me start working and give up day dreaming about my goals because our family is short of cash...

  4. Billie Kelpin profile image87
    Billie Kelpinposted 4 years ago

    THE WORST thing my father did (lovely, adorable, caring human being that he was aside) was to tell my school counselor/advisor that despite the counselor's suggestion that I take the college "tract," I was going to take Office Practice, Shorthand, Typing, etc. (the non-college) tract because he thought that was best for me.  I ended up putting my own self through college anyway, but because I didn't have Chemistry or Physics, I felt I couldn't continue in Physical Therapy or even switich to the Psychology degree which I had wanted. (The statistics involved in a Psychology degree scared me).  I ended up as a teacher of the deaf, and later as a Sign Language Interpreter,  both fields in which I was only mediocre. It's a great sadness to me.  Math and Science in high school are CRITICAL to success in certain fields in college.  Not that it can't be done, but not having that background early on makes it difficult.  (At least it did for me).  That decision affected my whole life.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I WOULD have rebelled and insisted on taking the college tract course.  Secondly, I would have DISOWNED my father for interfering with my dreams and goals.  No one is going to tell ME which path and goal I should have.

    2. Billie Kelpin profile image87
      Billie Kelpinposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I like your spunk, Gmwilliams!  My father was really a wonderful man and my problem was thinking that wonderful men were always right and I was wrong.  (It took be about 50 yrs. to figure that one out !!! smile

  5. Moon Daisy profile image84
    Moon Daisyposted 4 years ago

    A lot of answers so far are about careers and education.  My answer is too.  The worst thing they did was probably not to let me follow the path that I wanted to follow, but to follow theirs instead.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Ah yes, the story of many peoples' lives.  Children have certain goals and lifepaths that they want to follow.  Alas, there is the interfering and intrusive parent who decides that the child's lifestyle is wrong and his/hers is correct.  Sad indeed.

    2. Moon Daisy profile image84
      Moon Daisyposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes.  As a result, I ended up in a job I really hated for a while.  Then I was completely confused about what to do next!  Taking away a person's ability to make a decision makes it very difficult for them to ever confidently make a decision.

  6. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 4 years ago

    They focused on security so much that it has left me paranoid. If someone sits next to me, I get nervous. I have security precautions everywhere and backup safety measures. It has harmed my ability to make friends. Also, I am terrified of the dentist and have recognized similarities to what my mother used to do in brushing my teeth. She would sit on me, hold my hands and brush my teeth. Now when I go to the dentist, I always hold my hands, cross my legs, and try to disappear into the chair.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      This is indeed claustrophobic to the multillionth degree.

    2. Moon Daisy profile image84
      Moon Daisyposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Hmm, I can relate to this an awful lot too.  I really don't want to repeat the pattern and do this to my child!

  7. celafoe profile image61
    celafoeposted 4 years ago

    amazing question  .   This question would never have been asked 20 years ago.
    This question is the result of the horrible school indoctrination of the liberal school system.   But at the rate the USA is going this generation is going to learn appreciation for what they have the hard way.  it is going to be worse this time than any previous recession/depression.
    There is no worst thing my parents did for me.  They provided  me  with food, clothing, a shelter and love.   They did the best they could and I have no regrets or criticism of any kind.   I have seen my mother go without food so her children could eat and my father work 6 days a week two jobs,  18 hrs to take care of us.
    Stop finding fault and being so self centered and appreciate what you do have, you may not have it much longer.
    Stop blaming others and be responsible for your own actions.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      YOU have nicely described your parents.  You are one of the people who do not have anything bad to say.  You are an appreciative child.  However, YOU avoided the context of the question at hand.  Please ANSWER this question.

    2. celafoe profile image61
      celafoeposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      i did answer it. They did nothing but encourage and support me.  there is no bad thing so no worst,   and most of my generation will agree, we were taught we could be whatever we wished if we were willing to work for it.we expected nothing to be free

 
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