What is the worst possible thing your child could ever grow up to be (in your opinion)?
Your pride & joy walks through your front door one day and announces "Mom, Dad, I'm a ______." Fill in the blank. What is the one thing that would just shake you to your core & make you cringe.
As much as it terrifies me to even consider it, patriotism is as important in our house as spiritualism and family.
Phenomenal question that made me really think.
Unfortunately, I don't have any kids, but I always wonder how people cope when their kids turn out to be serial killers. Are they awful parents, who caused their child to be so emotionally twisted, or can they be decent, caring parents yet something still went wrong in their child's mind? Maybe the child was a psychopath and it wasn't the parents' fault at all, but how do you come to terms with that?
If you're really just talking about what job they would choose to do (because I think it goes without saying that none of us want our children to be criminals?), then I can't think of any job in the world that I wouldn't be happy for them to do, if it made them happy. They could clean windows, they could perform juggling in the streets for a hatful of coins, they could be MPs, doctors, teachers, administrators, they could work in a mortuary, or be fast-food outlet operatives! As long as they were happy, could earn enough to take care of themselves, and had integrity in whatever they chose to do, I wouldn't mind what they did.
When I worked for the Probation Service (Parole Office) I met people who DID raise their children to be criminals:) Not murderers, admittedly, although they didn't even seem to mind too much about that.
I think that also goes without saying - I know there are people in the world like that (I know people who encourage their children to steal, for example). But that's not what the question was asking, do you think?
No, of course you are right. People like that don't generally write on Hubpages.
Clever, clever... I'm going to take it a touch further because the 1 job I would hate for my kids to come home & tell me they have gotten or want to get - is to be a politician (criminals who dress well in my opinion)
Thanks for you answer!
Ah, but what if your child could manage to pull off the ultimate challenge? To be a politician with integrity? Then you would have cause to be proud, if their work could bring about real positive change.
I think the worst thing would be unhappy. I know killing people is worse, but that's on another level. Chances are much higher that a child grow to be an unhappy adult than a killer. So dealing with most likely possibilities I wouldn't want my children to grow up to be unhappy adults. If they are it would mean I failed somewhere with parenting. On a not very likely level, I would say a pediophile. That would be the only thing that would truly make me cringe.
Similar to Peeples, the first words that came to mind when I read the question was "sad" or "depressed" but after clicking on it and reading the rest of it I assume you meant occupation so I would have to say if either my son or daughter came home and announced they were a "prostitute" I would probably pass out.
I would be proud of them if they scrapped gum off the floor in Grand Central Station if it made them happy and earned them as honest wage but happily selling themselves would cross the line. But even if they did announce they were a prostitute, I would still love them was I was revived.
lazy, non caring jerk
I have always envisioned that my children would take a different path than I have chosen. This is the very thing that I did to my folks.
They have always been free to stand for their choices..........even when they are different from my own. In fact, I have challenged them to do this thing.
Whatever their cause, their opinon, their stand...................I have strived to teach them to stand behind it, throw it in my face, defend it, make it into a reality.............
APATHTY is the ONE thing that I can not endure.................
That my child does not care about any single thing..........................yeah, that would make me question my person, as a guiding parent.
Some people aren't paying attention to the question. Obviously, someone's pride & joy isn't going to walk in one day and say, "Mom, dad, I'm a serial killer!" Or, "Mom, dad, I'm a terrorist!" Come on, people!!
I think the worst possible thing a child could ever grow up to be (in my opinion) is something that overbearing and overambitious parents forced them to become, regardless of the level of success, ultimately leading to unhappiness. Peeples is absolutely right. Seeing your kids grow up to be unhappy would be the worst, I think.
Thank you for your answer Hector. The first 1/2 made me laugh. I appreciate your take on this & agree that it is a terrible thing to see your child unhappy.
Well it seems obvious....we are trying very hard to make sure my stepson does not become a criminal or drug dealer. The worst thought is that he could end up in jail for a lifetime. Otherwise, I hope he doesn't end up like his real mother who uses the state welfare program as her living (After she used all child support money on drugs instead of her child). I think it's awful the way people think of this as a "I don't need a job" kind of thing.
"person who will never do anything with their life" would be the worst answer. As long as they followed their dreams and were happy, I would not care what they grew up to be.
I think the worst thing would be for them to grow up in no way different from their Dad and me. I want them to be their own person, with their own ideas, and values, and goals - not just little duplicates of us.
Beyond doing illegal things like killing, molesting, or stealing, I would be the most saddened if they became sex workers -- strippers, porn actors, escorts, etc. I know some parents try to have an open mind when their kids come out and confess how they earn a living like that, but I think most sex workers are deeply unhappy. Not to mention, how desensitized they are and how exposed they are to violence and disease. It wouldn't disgust me so much as make me deeply remorseful and worried for their safety.
A medical doctor who practises conventional allopathic medicine. It would just break my heart. Other than that, I would be upset if any child grows up and does not realize their potential for whatever reason. I believe everyone has a purpose in life and too many of us don't actually do what we're supposed to do.
To be a trans-sexual. I couldn't help but feel responsible (to a point) for making a mistake of this magnitude, even though I have no control. I could never understand it and not sure I could accept it. I would still love my kid but would feel awful that my child was so uncomfortable in their own skin that they would take such extreme measures.
Mom, Dad... I don't know how to tell you this, but, I am a Republican.
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Well, not just WHAT, you can also say, WHY would that be 'the ONE thing' you could change about your past? It may be an incident, a behaviour, an attitude, a day or a night..simply anything!
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