How do I handle my sister?

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   jessiek9393posted 11 years ago

   How do I handle my sister?
   
   From the time I was 9 till the time I was 16 my brother in law molested me. About 2 weeks before I turned 18 my father confronted him. My sister turned against me and has been spreading lies and rumors about me I am so aggravated because now most of my family has turned against me. Please help!

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   Angela Jeterposted 11 years ago

   Jessie,
   
   I am so sorry to read of your hurt. First thing, NEVER blame yourself for being taken advantage of.
   
   Rejection is GODs protection and your sister may not want to believe the accusations, so you will have to meditate on the universe healing that relationship, if that is what you want.
   
   I hope your brother in law is in jail for his crimes against you.
   
   Maybe call one of those 1 800 hotlines swore to confidently so you have someone to talk too beyond the internet.
   
   I am speaking into reality that your hurt becomes their pain....I want HEAVEN for you NOT hell.

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   peeplesposted 11 years ago

   Sweety, I am going to speak from experience. Drop your sister. Cut all ties. The end!! No point in adding hurt to an already hurt person. I was sexually abused for over 10 years by my father and when the truth came to light a lot of people either did one of two things. They either talked crap or stopped coming around because the idea made them uncomfortable. I went into foster care as a teen and when I aged out of the system there were still some people who would talk negative. I eliminated those people from my life and have been very happy with the decision. It wasn't easy and on holidays and important life events it still hurts that those people can't be in my life. However nothing would hurt more than to have people I loved hurting me more. It is easier to let go of them than to continue to go through the pain over and over. There is no way to move forward completely as long as we keep negative people in our lives. I encourage you to find an outlet. For me a lot of it has been this community. I have written many articles about my past in hopes of helping others.
   Hold your head up, eliminate those who don't support you, and enjoy the family you are creating with your husband. You set your destiny. No one or nothing else. It's all up to you to make your life what you want it. Good luck!

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I support this answer.  Cut off all ties with unsupportive family members who are not there for you.

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