Are parents on drugs a legitimate reason to terminate parental rights?
With foster care lacking so much, are there some cases that need to be looked over again to determine if parents could keep the child while working on their issues? Is taking children from their families always the best option? Would providing more parental education be a cheaper and more effective way of handling some of these situations?
I've had quite a bit of exposure to foster kids and their situation - not as a foster parent, but nonetheless many kids/situations over a period of years. Personally, I hate the idea of separating kids from even "borderline-fit" mothers, but the reality is that people from The System can try and try and try to get some parents to straighten up, and if they're determined to be, or trapped into being, involved with drug use they either can't or won't change.
The rotten reality is that there is no good option for children whose parents can't or won't do what they're supposed to do.
I know of two cases in which little girls were in foster care, with their mothers "being worked with" for quite a stretch of time. In one case the mother did something that made the social workers realize that the mother was "a hopeless case". In the other case, the little girl was being prepared for, going through the whole process of, going home to be back with her mother. She was super-excited, and went off with the social worker with all her belongings. They got to the mother's door, and the mother wouldn't open the door. The social worker pretty much knew the mother wasn't in any shape to open that door. That little girl went around crying for I don't know how long - weeks maybe. After having been reasonably happy, very safe, and reasonably adjusted to being in a foster home; she was faced with mourning over having her own mother not answer the door after weeks or months of working toward that aim.
Improving things like screening, testing social workers and potential foster parents, and better training social workers to pick up on the subtle signs of a potential foster parent seeming "a little off" might help.
But, for kids whose parents won't/can't do what they should do there may sometimes be a loving, safe, solid, foster home. For so many others, though, there's just not a good option at all.
Having said that, there's no doubt that some kids would be better off being left with their drug-using/drug-buying parents. One problem is, though, that a lot of iffy parents get a lot of "passes" before the state steps in and takes children away.
I don't think educating these parents more is the answer. They know what's right and wrong and do what's wrong anyway. Substance users know what they're doing, but they can't or won't stop using anyway.
Honestly, I think it depends on the drug. How badly does the drug influence the adult's parenting. A parent on marijuana can function. A parent on meth or cocaine cannot function. Some parents on heroin starve their children because they don't know what time it is or even what day it is. Much like a disorder, it depends on which one. Depression isn't too big an issue, depending on the level. There are borderline parents whose children grow up with pathologies, but their children can still function.
I think it should be on a case-by-case basis, and for just marijuana use, a definite "no". I've seen alcohol use affect families more severely than marijuana does. It's when the user adds the more dangerous drugs, like heroin, crack or meth, that authorities should get concerned. I think we are too quick to call in human services when we disapprove of a person's lifestyle. Foster care is not the answer to the world's problems.
I've said it again and again, I think drugs should be legalized. Legalization would render them less attractive to non-users, and if done right, provide hard core addicts a cheap legal supply and give authorities a way to track those users. For those who argue against legalization, please realize that hard drug use changes a person's physical chemistry, and all the rehabilitation in the world won't change it back.
by SparklingJewel 8 years ago
they claim this is a bi-partisan group, or at least current proposed legislation...i am just starting to read this sites stuff...let me know what you think...http://parentalrights.org/index.asp?Typ … 4490912E8}
by stacies29 9 years ago
My fiance' is going through some issues with the mother of his child where he is paying child support but she will not let him see the child unless they are in a relationship and I am out of the picture. She has served him with papers claiming that he threatened her just so that she can get a...
by igniter8503 11 months ago
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by waterbottle 2 years ago
i feel as if they need another chance, because most of the time it is not their fault for the position that they are in. so tell me how you all think about this topic... and also would You ever become a foster parent?
by Peeples 2 years ago
Do you think being a foster parent should be a good deed or a career?Maybe I'm biased, but after a comment on one of my hubs I wanted to see what others thought. Do you think being a foster parent should be a career or a good deed?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago
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