Why sometimes the children of same parents grow up to be so different from each

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   Sundeep Katariaposted 11 years ago

   Why sometimes the children of same parents grow up to be so different from each other ?
   
   Quite a few times it is observed that one of the siblings is an extra ordinary success in life / career / health while others are below average in the same domain. Why is it so?

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   peachpurpleposted 11 years ago

   my bro is more like my mom, hot temper, has diabetic and lots of negative thoughts. I am more like my dad, takes things easy, lack of temper and very patient. So i guess siblings characters and behavior got to do with parents gene or behavior?

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      Sundeep Katariaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hello peachpurple! Thanks for sharing. Are there any observations which can completely make us understand this phenomenon of nature ?

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   I have seen this in many families well even in my own each child has  a different character and so different from the other in every other way one child is like the father while the other is like the mother.

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      Sundeep Katariaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Do you have an idea DDE that why is it so ? Since they get the same environment, same education, same love from the parents.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It is so because each child reflects each of their parents genes and  raised in the same home  makes them want to  be different   while listening to their  parents family history  the child  picks up new information.

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   cjaroszposted 11 years ago

   I think it has to do with a couple of things. 1. The person in general. Peopla are naturally differnt. 2. Influence. Many people do what they havebeen taught or evern shown. What they know to be in their lives. Things such as anger, and quiet. 3. The opposite. Many people come from situations that they did not like. Causing them to work harder to actually do better, or do differently. It gives them a reason to work hard for where they are or visa versa. 4. Nature: Sometimes nature is the part. Somehow it is made up in our genes to be a specific way. People who have certain problems tend to be angrier and so on.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 11 years ago

   They have different social coping mechanisms.

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   jada67posted 11 years ago

   That is a hard question to answer why children with the same parents are indifferent. There are so many answers but no one really knows,  except the good lord. jada67

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   April Garnerposted 11 years ago

   The source of children's personalities and altitudes is complex.  There's the influence of nature (genes) and nurture (environment.). In the case of genes, even children who are siblings express different genes, though they have the same parents.  And, even children who are raised in the same family experience different environmental circumstances.  Being a first born is, for instance, a different experience from being the baby of the family.  I have participated in several seminars on birth order and found it amazing how much you can predict behavior based on it.  To complicated matters, there is an interaction between nature and nurture where they influence each other.  A child's personality will somewhat affect how you treat that child, and your treatment will also affect the child's personality.  In short, the source of our adult personas is very complicated, and it's hard to discern where particular characteristics come from.

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   fpherj48posted 11 years ago

   Good question, Sundeep...and not difficult at all, to explain.  Each and every individual is expressly unique...even siblings.  We each have our own specific DNA, unlike a single other human being.  DNA is responsible, in large part, in developing our personality and WHO we ultimately become as adults.
   Throughout history, we can clearly see that even identical twins are rarely like one another in most ways, other than appearance.   I recently became aware of this reality, up close and personal.  I have 3 month old fraternal twin grandsons.  Even at this very early stage of their life.....they are as different in personality and behavior as night and day!
   Hate to be the bearer of disappointing news....but we parents are not as "influential" as we think we are!!  LOL
   "Success," btw....is in the eye of the beholder and comes in many many forms.

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      Sundeep Katariaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You are a magician with your words. Thanks Paula.

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   myeffortsposted 11 years ago

   There are a lot of factors involved here. I have observed that the attitude/behavior of parents is not same with all children, though they try their best to do so but I think it is natural. The first kid in the family is often much cared about, possibly because of the first experience of the parents. Situation is similar with the last kid. He/She gets some special attention because he/she is the youngest one. After that, the social circle of the children further defines, what they are going to aim for their future. Friends play a major role.
   I believe there are a lot of other factors as well.

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      Sundeep Katariaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good observations Asif. Thanks

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