Why many childless couples do not adopt, while some with biological children ad

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   Anish Nrkposted 11 years ago

   Why many childless couples  do not adopt, while some with biological children adopt another kid?
   
   Many couples who are childless, do not adopt
   Many parents who also have biological kids adopt another one
   Many orphans are waiting for an adoption
   why such paradox?

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   Grey Templesposted 11 years ago

   In America adoption is very expensive and couples are opting to go childless more these days.  I wish they would at least consider being foster parents and be loving parents to children who need guidance, love and a family.  It is such a shame.

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      Anish Nrkposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, Grey. I also feel that its such a shame thousands of children are waiting for their turn in care homes expecting an adoption that rarely comes. But expense is not the sole reason as most of them are well settled. There may be other reasons

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   peeplesposted 11 years ago

   It really makes no sense. I think a lot of couples give up before they even try simply because of misinformation being spread. Foster children can be adopted from anywhere between $0- $3000. That cost is minimal and doesn't even compare to infertility treatments or surrogacy.
   On top of that there is a selfish, while natural, need for some people to adopt a baby. With the average age of foster children being around 9 and only 1% being under the age of 1 there really just aren't enough little babies in foster care for the parents seeking infants. People who already have children do not have as much of a need to get an infant so it makes more sense for them to adopt.

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      Anish Nrkposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Your answer that children can be adopted with almost nil expense if true is an eye opener for many.How is that possible? But if we compares the max cost of adoption to the  amount needed to  raise a child for  4 yrs, there won't be any big difference

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      peeplesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It is cheaper for our government to offer close to free adoption of foster children, than it is for the government  to raise those same foster children in foster care. They even give small payments after adoption is final and often healthcare.

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   sockiiposted 10 years ago

   Many childless couples have no interest in raising children. They may know that they are not suited for being parents. They may have no interest in parenting and wish to contribute to society in other ways. There is no requirement that because two people are together in marriage or long-term commitment that they need to be parents in order to be happy or be considered "fulfilled" in life.
   
   Other couples may not be on the same page about being parents. You can love your spouse and know he/she is the love of your life but they may not want to be a parent and you do. So a person may have to be in a position of choosing to stay with their best mate in life or losing that relationship to purse the possibility - not the guaranty - of being a parent (either by birth or adoption). It is NOT an easy choice to make.
   
   Other couples may try to adopt, or foster, and be told they are not "suitable". No, it is NOT as simple and easy and inexpensive as some people want to make it sound like. If you are an older couple who did not meet until later in life...if you are not willing to have all of your finances and private life examined and exposed in detail...then fostering or adopting is not nearly as easy as just getting "knocked up" as can happen without thought to those who do not face fertility problems.
   
   Do not judge those who end up not adopting or fostering even if they may have had desires or dreams of being a parent at some point in their lives. Unless you have been in that position you do not know the personal struggles some of us face and the difficult decisions we may have to make. And even if you HAVE been in that position, your life is not my life. This should not be about judging those who choose not to or find they cannot easily adopt or foster.

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