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Is it right to defend your ideas or points against your parent?

  1. Evane profile image51
    Evaneposted 21 months ago

    Is it right to defend your ideas or points against your parent?

    You are between 18-30 years old. Now, your parents are saying something that you think is wrong, would you say to them that they are wrong and fight with them?

  2. threekeys profile image80
    threekeysposted 21 months ago

    Depends..do you have said or unsaid rules where to have a point of difference is encouraged? Or if you disagreed would it be seen as betrayal or disloyalty? You know what the "rules" are within your family. If your home is liberal then yes! you have every right to voice your point of view. Acknowledge though, how they perceive things may be true and valid from their range of personal experiences but say not its not so from your personal experiences yet. And I would encourage you to argue/debate above the belt-that is, speak and argue respectfully. No one likes to be shredded to pieces.
    All the best!

    1. Evane profile image51
      Evaneposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Point noted. But how do you actually speak and argue respectfully?

    2. threekeys profile image80
      threekeysposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      It depends what you call "respectful" . That may differ to me. First I wouldnt drag up the past. I wouldnt use known personal weaknesses to fire back at them. And if I got too angry id say I "need time out.Can we resume tomorrow at 1 pm?"

    3. Evane profile image51
      Evaneposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      @ThreeKeys Hahahaha! Funny yet insightful. smile

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    ezba29posted 21 months ago

    We can't say every time parents will be right at the same time not every time our decision will be right. So sometimes if you think you are doing right then you can convince them by explaining truth there is no need to fight with them. Parents always do good only for us, they are pointing our mistakes because after we had pain they are the only person who is crying with us. Think twice or thrice before fighting.  Surely if you explained them again and again they will listen you. Sometimes we can't change few people only by fighting we can succeed but it gives more pain.

    1. Evane profile image51
      Evaneposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I got your point. But what if you have been explaining the truth to them again and again, and again, and again, for a year and so, but still they are not listening, they are ignoring your point of an issue.

    2. profile image59
      ezba29posted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Again and again means whether explained for 1000 times. Try to the core definitely you can succeed

  4. alancaster149 profile image86
    alancaster149posted 21 months ago

    With each generation the ground shifts. I don't have any hard and fast rules. If I'm right I'm right, if I'm proved wrong so be it. I've got three offspring, who have university education to similar levels, but they're not always right on general issues. We don't argue much anyway, and they have 'the drop' on me with their IT knowledge. If I need assistance and any of them is around they'll help if they can.
    The story was different between me and my parents or other elders. They were brought up under different circumstances and saw the world from an angle we'd call 'archaic' these days, although my Dad and Grandad largely held a different outlook to many of their generation.

    1. Evane profile image51
      Evaneposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      I got your point. So is it right to defend your ideas or points against your parent?

    2. alancaster149 profile image86
      alancaster149posted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Parents can be wrong - as I pointed out in the second line. We co-operate, we don't go all out to control or rebuff one another as that's counter-productive. My offspring are equals and they respond positively.

  5. word55 profile image74
    word55posted 21 months ago

    Parents that support or have supported their children and are instrumental in raising their children should be respected for knowing what is best. It all depends on the situation but the parents should not be challenged especially if they're under the same roof. If it is about immorality then the parents should advise against such an issue  especially if it is a Christian family.

    1. Evane profile image51
      Evaneposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      What if the issue is about immorality?

    2. word55 profile image74
      word55posted 21 months agoin reply to this

      If the child was raised as a Christian then how can immorality be allowed? How could the child be left alone to commit immoral acts? There are severe consequences for such acts that go beyond the opinions of the parents. What about God?

    3. Evane profile image51
      Evaneposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      What do you think about cohabitation? Is this moral or not in the eyes of God?

    4. threekeys profile image80
      threekeysposted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Family is our first taste of what society will be about for us. Children do not ask to be born or to be born into the family they have been. For me a parent can share their experiences of the World but not say "this is the way" and be authouratarian.

  6. Matthew Woolsey profile image67
    Matthew Woolseyposted 20 months ago

    I would let them see my point of view, but not fight with them about it. If your right prove it. Parents are not always right and make just as many mistakes that you will. Most of the time though they will argue because they are just trying to look out for you and want the best for you.
    Anyways that has been my experience in your question.

 
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