Why is so many grown adults children attacking their parents?

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  1. Darknlovely3436 profile image72
    Darknlovely3436posted 12 years ago

    Why is so many grown adults children attacking their parents?

    I wish I had the answer to this question,

  2. izettl profile image88
    izettlposted 12 years ago

    When they reach adulthood they confront their parents. Many people have to wait until adulthood to have enough freedom and life experience to understand their childhood and when they question their parents about it, the parents view it as attacking. I know my parents do this. It's a power control. My parents still believe they should not be questioned and take offense to it. Its the old authoritative figure of do as I say! It's the veiw of attacking- is it really attacking or are the parents taking it a little too personally?

    Parents treat them as children even when they are adults. Many parents don't transition well from being a parent to letting go of that role when kids become adults. Some adult kids get tired of their parents input as if they were still kids. I know when I visit my parents, they have their own house rules and when they visit me, it's still their house rules.

    Also, we have access to a lot more information and people can find out what other parents were like or what what was done "wrong" according to the plethora of "experts" online. Self-help books suggest we have our problems now because of things in our childhood. Many adult children focus ontheir childhood problems and place blame on them for their inadequacies now.

  3. Shahid Bukhari profile image61
    Shahid Bukhariposted 12 years ago

    In an "Ignorants-composed Society" ... the Physically Superior, Parent, or Child, both have the Rights of the Powerful ... Since there is no one to Explain such things ... as to what it takes a Mother, to Bear, and the Father  ... to raise their borne Child ... and that while
    Parents may Raise, their borne in such Societies ... but cannot impart the higher values of being Good Humans.

    And since Children must Grow up into Adults. And the Parents must get old in all human Societies.

    So children Growing up in Direction-less Societies, only know one thing ... that his or her Mother, had some fun with his or her father ... whether inside, or outside, Marriage ... that she got Pregnant in the process, and had no options, but to Deliver the conceived child into this world ...

    Such a child grows more or less, in what could be called a "Foster-Society" ... Its a Jungle ... where Jungle Laws are followed ... where there are no Real Relationships ... between one individual and the other ... between the Parents and Child ... generally, between one Human and the other human.

    And though animals may respect their Parents ... Humans don't ... this is the Gift of a Lawless Society ... where grown adults children learn to attack their parents rather early ... like many other early stars they take in a Valueless Physicals based  Society.

  4. shampa sadhya profile image76
    shampa sadhyaposted 12 years ago

    I believe, both parents and children are equally responsible for such a problem. Parent's rule should be used in moderation along with children should enjoy a limited freedom at a certain age. Too much of anything evokes repercussion so arrogant attitude at any age must be avoided. Both the sides must keep it in mind and act considerably.

  5. haikutwinkle profile image60
    haikutwinkleposted 12 years ago

    I wish I had the solution to this issue.

  6. profile image35
    LORD ENKIposted 12 years ago

    It's simple in these fast times of materialisim and capitalisim and monetary gain,child abuse and child neglect are on the rise.What do you think happens when a dog is abused as a pup.It usually growes up to bite.Humans are no different.Kids have good memories and they don't forget!

  7. Darknlovely3436 profile image72
    Darknlovely3436posted 12 years ago

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PlQAPYmS … r_embedded
    I often wonder why so many children turned on the one their love.

  8. Lastheart profile image65
    Lastheartposted 12 years ago

    It is written in the Bible "They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law." Luke 12:53 and in Matthew 24:12 says: "Because lawlessness is increased, most people's love will grow cold."

  9. Hezmyjoy profile image61
    Hezmyjoyposted 12 years ago

    There is a guide to life that tells the answer of what you are asking. It is because it is prophetic. If you look at the matter from how life has progressed to this point, you would understand. It began when church allowed state to intervene and take prayer out of the schools. They then took the very matter that formed North America out of the public venues - scripture. When things started changing for the worse after that, no one said, "you know it wasn't like this when prayer was still in the schools." So they continued. Next thing there were national cases about child abuse, infidelity, and the divorce rates went through the roof. Children were being raised in single parent homes and the silly parents were saying that children are resilient and will be fine. Well they were wrong. Crime increased because of those single parent homes. The mother wasn't home she was working a job and going to school to get a better job. She got tired fast and needed help, but where was she going to get it? Guys weren't finding quality women anymore and they knew they weren't going to marry just anyone so they suggested living together instead of the commitment of marrying. She settled because you know, a girl has to eat and there the children are trying to make sense of the whole thing. Families and integrated families with one mother and five different fathers. Two come and see their children while the rest see the children as mistakes. Those children get angry because they begin to realize that no one loves them. Why were they born, they wonder. And then it happens, the shoe drops. The one thing that got on their parent's nerve for the parent to say the one thing that the child didn't need to hear. He/she really was a mistake and the parent wishes he/she was never born. Is what I just described an isolated incident? You know it isn't.

  10. Rusti Mccollum profile image60
    Rusti Mccollumposted 12 years ago

    Mine were just plain mean like their dad, one attacked me said she wished I was dead, because I didn't "gift" her ten grand. All my grandkids have been kept from me and noone understands why. I thinbk  in my case its an abuse gene.That money was for my broken back, it wasn't money that fell from the sky.I have to live on that the rest of my life. I did take our boy to disneyland. I asked to take my granddaughter and was told instead of driving we fly, AND I take her whole family all expenses paid, when I refused the money and was not going to be ordered to change my vacation by my child. As a result she wrote an email telling my mom if I take that vacation, I will never ever see my grandkids again and she even gother brother to lay down rules of how and when I could  see my other one, He started acting like my dad.I refuse to let children be pawns in an adult arguement. Mine just try to hurt me or steal, they are both theives too.
    It could just be that generation...

    1. profile image57
      Cross-Eyed Marcyposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      It is the parents who set the tone for family interactions, not the children.  Sounds like you are not taking responsibility for any of this...which is a sign you might be the problem.

  11. OswaldLuis profile image61
    OswaldLuisposted 12 years ago

    Well i think that the reason its because they get mad at their parents because probably they are old and dont understand good than they get angry at that and threat them bad.

  12. onegoodwoman profile image68
    onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

    People tend to take the path of least resistance.

    NO ONE judges you any  harsher than your own children will.  Parents, know this, and accept the charge, without the burden of proof.   Our children have learned..........make the charge, and the charge will follow.  We stand up to this.....

    Is it a tragedy............that we blame our parents, for whatever weakness we find in ourselves.

    I, for one, feel no such need to blame my  own parents.............if things had been different in some manners.........I would have been robbed of my Grandparents enduring influence and wisdom.    The very things, that I TREASURE, would have been lost, had my parents,  ( excuse me) had their shit together.

    My Grandparents, though old, tired, work weary and broken........still held the manafest of " family", taking care of kin..............they had so little, yet gave so much

    My "parents", had so much, yet they gave so little.

  13. mikejhca profile image94
    mikejhcaposted 12 years ago

    Some children develop a "I can take you mentality".  They tend to act out more when they think they can get away with it.  For example if there dad is not around they may attack their mother.  They do not seem to know how to deal with their anger.  If they can not act out because someone stronger is around they leave or behave but they keep the anger.

    People release their anger in different ways.  Some children release it by picking on people that are smaller than them or by destroying stuff.  When they get big enough they may attack their parents.  I think it is a result of how they were raised.  They were not taught a good way to release their anger so they hold onto it until they explode in a fit of anger.

  14. Lawfull Richard profile image59
    Lawfull Richardposted 12 years ago

    fight for power, in my opinion those are some of the consequences of democracy.

  15. xethonxq profile image66
    xethonxqposted 12 years ago

    Because they don't grow up and move away to start their own lives. Poor anger regulation and low frustration tolerance in close proximity to people they know very well in every way is a bad combination.

  16. Felixedet2000 profile image58
    Felixedet2000posted 12 years ago

    because they are experiencing changes in the environment and therefor are more aware of happenings around them, they aren't just attacking their parent rather they are challenging them in what they view as their own way of doing things, it is a normal growing up process.

  17. jeanniedoe profile image57
    jeanniedoeposted 12 years ago

    Probably the reason behind why grownup child attacking their parents because of environmental changes that greatly affect them like peer group pressure or problem inside home. The situation varies on time.

  18. chicagoguy profile image66
    chicagoguyposted 12 years ago

    It will be easier to answer if you are country specific.

  19. riishiii profile image58
    riishiiiposted 9 years ago

    Trust in relationship is now a thing which we read in novels and books. Children fear from parents of getting scolded for a thing which is worth for them at the same time parents think its worthless. Question is not whether the thing is worthy or worthless but this gap which fits in between the child and parents. Our minds are conditioned to see a particular thing in particular fashion so if anyone with a different view come up we suppress by using higher powers. This is very simple to sort out if we the thing as it is and not as it was or as it will be. When we see without propaganda, theories or teachings as the thing is, complexities dissolves.


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