What are your thoughts on young parents trying to raise a child?

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   arreed15posted 9 years ago

   What are your thoughts on young parents trying to raise a child?
   
   Is there a good outlook on the youth having children or is it just youth is  bound to fail in life based on their decion?

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   arreed15posted 9 years ago

   Hello, to start myself off with a push I'm going to answer my own question. I think being young is a big challenge and we face obstacles in life that will either make us or break us.

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   Matthew Woolseyposted 9 years ago

   being a young parent is tough. You don't have patients, seems like you are always on edge. I have two now 11 and 2. he first was the hardest and still is, but your first you don't know what to expect. After 9 years of experience you get a better handle on how to raise the second, but even then they not the same. at the very least you have more wisdom with the second than you had with the first.

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   tamarawilhiteposted 9 years ago

   The best way to guarantee that you won't be in poverty are: don't get married before the age of 20, don't have children out of wedlock, finish high school, work a full time job.
   If they are under 20 or unmarried, the child is better off being adopted by a married two parent home than raised by parents who lack the skills and foresight to stay out of poverty. And unmarried is NOT as good as married - 75% of married parents are together until the kid is 18, while 75% of unmarried couples split before the kid is 7. If they are not willing to get married, they have given the baby a near guarantee of poverty - and the 2-3 times greater odds of dropping out of school, becoming addict or mentally ill and being poor themselves.
   Hence the adoption advice.

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      gmwilliamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      BETTER YET, DON'T get married & have children until one has attained the highest education possible, explorer life options, sow one's wild oats,  & become established in one's career. WAIT AT LEAST until the mid-30s to marry & have childr

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   
   
   People shouldn't have children until their middle to late 30s.  Anyone who has children in their 20s is totally bereft of intelligence, even stupid.  Couples who have children in their middle to late 30s are more relaxed parents.  They also explored various relationship options before they married & had children.  Besides being more relaxed parents, they are also the happiest parents.
   
   Couples in their middle to late 30s have attained the highest education possible.  They are also highly established, even ensconced in their careers.  With their life, education, & career experience, not to mention their socioeconomic affluence, they have far more to offer their children.  They have grown up because they have children as opposed to couples in their 20s who haven't established themselves yet so they are in a very precarious position to be parents.  They have very little to teach & offer their children as they haven't fully lived yet.
   
   Couples who have children in their 20s have unresolved issues.  They didn't fully explore relationship &/or lifestyle options.  They aren't settled in their careers & perhaps, haven't attained their highest, possible educational levels.  More likely or not, their parents have a major part in raising & supporting these children socioeconomically.  Many grandparents play a major role in raising the children of couples in their 20s because the latter aren't fully committed to their parenting role.  They want to party & hang out w/their friends, not be parents.  They also resent being parents as they feel tied down.  They tend to take out their frustration on their children shouting & heaping other forms of abuse on them because they haven't fulfilled their lives yet.   They are CHILDREN raising children, not ADULTS raising children.

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