Would a loving woman put her husband/partner first over her children? Or put her

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   threekeysposted 7 years ago

   Would a loving woman put her husband/partner first over her children? Or put her children first?
   
   Some say one makes better parents if the marriage/partnership is prioritized . What have you found?
   
   

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   tamarawilhiteposted 7 years ago

   It depends on what she's doing to prioritize.
   Letting a husband beat her so she is still married is bad for the kids and her.
   Always doing what the kids want and letting them override the father's desires as if the family is a democracy is bad for the marriage (and the kids' world view).
   Not giving her husband enough time with her while she has a lot of quality time for the children and "me" time is selfish AND will hurt the marriage.

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      threekeysposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Its a balancing act. And I do know females who put their husband above their children too much so.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   It depend on what the situation is.
   Naturally society would expect a mother to put her young children or babies needs ahead of her husbands.
   However we've learned over the years this practice can lead to infidelity and sometimes divorce. Striking a balance is the key.
   After all there will come a day when a couple has an empty nest.
   If all of one's energy has been spent prioritizing their children they may discover they are lost when their kids move on.
   It's not unheard of for couples to realize they have nothing left between them without the children or grandchildren.
   For most men having children is equivalent to being demoted in the house. However they usually don't demote their wives.
   They see them as a "bundle package". In fact some men who aren't happy with the mother of their children will oftentimes not have anything to do with "their children". They don't separate the two.
   It's not fair to the children but that is not unusual.
   The men see the children as being "offspring" of the relationship/marriage not the main attraction.
   Some women have admitted to preferring to be a mother over being a wife. In fact for some marriage was a means to an end.
   They've always wanted to be mothers.

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      threekeysposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Valid points...In the main? I still don't "get it" how a mother can rationalize to herself that it is okay for her husband to have sex with their child. But then again if you are unskilled or lack faith in the goodness of life..maybe I can understand

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      dashingscorpioposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I didn't see anything in your question about fathers having sex with their children!
      I thought we were talking about women who put more emphasis on being a mother over being a wife and how it effects marriage. Naturally a child's safety is #1.

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   peter565posted 7 years ago

   I think it really depends on people, but I believe most parents would put the safety of their children ahead of the safety of their partner, under most circumstances.

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      threekeysposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes Pete it depends on people but I feel, like you, most people will tend to put their children first.

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