Does a Parent's Role shift to Friend When their Child Reaches Adulthood?
If so in what ways? If not how do parents become?
I would say no. No matter how old you get there are still things that you don't want to share with parents. At least I didn't. And there are things that parents don't want to share with their children. Unfortunately if parents develop dementia as they age then some of the private moments or events of their lives get revealed. A caring and thoughtful child will keep those ramblings to themselves.
To me cissy I understand what you are saying about personal moments and the privacy of that. And those personal boundaries being held and valued. But yes when one gets elderly and freely chats without realizing it needs the listener to hold all quiet
I disagree with common notions on this issue. Parents can be could friends with the children at all ages. I was a boss and had several employees that were good friends. I was an employee and had bosses as good friends. Humans in general are capable of having different relationships with the same person. I definitely have good friends where sharing each other's love life is basically not done. So boundaries are perfectly acceptable among friends. The concept of TMI applies to friends and family. My children both adult and very young are my best friends. None of us have emotional, social or mental problems because of that.
For me the friends relationship as my children become older simply becomes stronger over time. Mutual trust is essential for parenting, just as it is for friendship.
I've seen it happen mainly between mothers and daughters especially after the offspring has gotten married and had children of their own.
Generally speaking it's the daughter who claims her mother is her "best friend" and not the other way around.
Maybe it's because a daughter has a different take on her mother and newfound respect after having gone through similar experiences and therefore she trusts her more when it comes to giving advice.
I have also witnessed divorced mothers with single daughters out in nightclubs behaving like party girls too. You don't see sons out nightclubbing with their fathers though.
Why do you think sons don't go nightclubbing with their Dads?
Interesting ThreeKeys. My son is a singer in a rock and roll band, actually more California Funk. I have to go "clubbing" in order to support him in his art and listen to his music. Just saying ;-)
When it comes to hitting the nightclub scene most guys would rather hang out with their buddies. It's also possible most fathers have no interest in being seen as the "old creepy guy" in the bar drinking shots and hitting on young girls.
Too funny, how did you know that is how I feel. But I am home in bed with my wife by ten.
Eric, No one would ever accuse you of being the "creepy old guy"!
In bed by 10? That's when young people head out! LOL!
by Le_patty 13 months ago
Should Parents be their children friends, or just a parent?When does friendship with your children takes away your parenthood?
by KevinC9998 5 years ago
Were you your parent's favorite child? If not how did it make you feel?
by rajivnandy 7 years ago
Do u agree that parents and children should learn to respect each other's decisions ?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 5 years ago
If YOU were wealthy, would YOU FINANCIALLY support your children in adulthood orencourage THEM to make THEIR own way in life?
by nightwork4 7 years ago
Do you think parents are trying too hard to be friends with their kids instead of actual parents?i don't think parents should be friends with their kids but rather be parents who show their kids what is right and wrong.
by cardelean 7 years ago
What do you think is a parent's role in the education of their child?
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