For generations we all have been face with some tough choices that could have,or did change the way we viewed life. I know for me,I dealt with a giant that everyone rather knowingly or unknowingly had to face PEER PRESSURE. The influences of my peers played a major role in my life. The decisions I made just to fit in with the crowd,the clothes I chose to wear,even the way I talk told something about the people I hung around.In still today this is going on in our kids life. But as parents what are some clues,are early warning signs we should look out for? by LaDerrick Williams
When you see or smell one of these.
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I'd keep an eye out for any deviation from the kid's typical behavior - self isolation, skipping school, slipping grades, etc.
On the other hand, not all peer pressure is negative peer pressure. I was with a pretty good group of kids and the peer pressure enforced academic success (helps when you're a geek and your friends are all geeks, too). In other words, if your kid is being influenced by the chess club, try not to worry too much.
Teens mood often times will change with negative peer pressure. Some cannot eat, concentrate or ever have difficulty carrying on an in-depth conversation due their mind being preoccupied. The only true way to know is to continuously talk to your child and provide an atmosphere that conducive to your child feeling comfortable talking with you. Children are pros at recalling our response the last time they brought a similar issue to us.
Many times as parents we look at peer pressure as a bad thing. Peer pressure can also be used to convince one’s sphere of influence to engage in pro-social behavior. When a child convinces his/her friends to send get well cards to the teacher or make a new kid feel welcome into a new class room. I believe we as parents play a huge role in the manifestation of this concept. I am in no means trivializing the negative side of peer pressure. I do however promote positive social behavior. The only way to get rid of bad habits is a life style change. Your positive influence is contagious!
Yes, there are many teens who succumb to peer pressure because they want to belong and be part of a group. Many teens will do anything to belong to a crowd because being part of a group give them status. The worst thing in many teens' lives is to be excluded from their peer group. In the eyes of many teens this will make them losers.
However, there are stronger teens who are quite individualistic and nonconformists. These are usually the so-called unpopular ones who refuse to succumb to peer influence, often going their own way than to mindlessly follow the crowd. I was one of those teens. I have cut off many friends because they were doing what I thought was wrong. Yes, I went my own way and I was happy that I did. When I was young, my main influences were my parents, not my peers and as I get older, I was my influence.
Building confidence, sending kids to help other kids in need and support for them is essential. I find my girls not so easily swayed if their confidence is not waning.
by Renee' D. Campbell 6 years ago
Why do we blame peer pressure as the cause of bad choices we make?I find that we take the easy road and blame the situation, or the people around us for making bad decisions. We do not want to take responsibility for our actions - good, bad or indifferent.
by Paula 5 years ago
As an adult, what advice do you offer to today's teens, for avoiding the pitfalls of peer pressure?When in a position to influence/guide teens, what do you tell them about "peer pressure?"
by retellect 6 years ago
How can I deal with peer pressure?
by PhoenixV 6 years ago
How Should A Child Deal With Peer Pressure?What is some good advice on how a child deal with peer pressure? There are so many negative things out there in the world, what are some good tips or advice on teachings kids about peer pressure?
by shanaya 6 years ago
Have you ever came under Peer pressure and done something wrong which you still regrets?IPeer pressure is very common in Youths. Teenagers does things which are against their parents wish And just to be counted in that particular Cool Group. Etc etc
by N.E. Wright 7 years ago
I could have been a smoker, and I almost was. The person who pressured me into trying it once was a relative. Nice, huh?
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