How Do You Dissociate From Unfriendly Friends?

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   Justjedposted 14 years ago

   There are some supposed friends who you think have your good interest at heart. But you later discovered that this friend of yours does not have your good interest at heart. Breaking up with this person has been a problem because of the background and history you both shared, Any useful advice on how to go about this?

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   Pearldiverposted 14 years ago

   Sure... But you won't appreciate it's honesty!
   
   You approach the entire situation as if you have their best interest at heart! And in that way you won't be or considered to be so shallow!

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   Phelckyposted 14 years ago

   I think you have to talk your problems through. Ending a long time friendship can be extremely hard. I don't think you should just erase that person from your life. Maybe just get some distance don't contact the person to often. Maybe that person won't contact you. And then you slip apart in a peaceful way Good Luck

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   Stacie Lposted 13 years ago

   Start making plans with other new friends. Always be busy when they call.

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   Diane Insideposted 13 years ago

   I actually had a "friend" like that once. 
   
   She always was around and talked to me plenty when she needed something or had drama going on and needed a shoulder to cry on. But if I needed anything or felt the need to talk with a friend, she became very busy and had no time for me. It got to the point where I began to feel used.
   
   A fairweather friend, is what I knew she was.  I stopped talking to her or taking her phone calls after awhile.  Once she realized what was going on she confronted me with it.  I was honest with her and told her how I felt.  She apologized and said she would do better but she didn't.   I broke all contact except maybe a hi here and there. She finally got the hint and we dont talk anymore. 
   
   I actually feel better now, she was very draining and seemed to always have drama in her life.  She was one of those people who would have a great aunt die, which she only saw once in her whole life when she was three and was devestated when she died.  Someone who she hasnt seen in 35 years. Now I was sorry she died but this should not have been a traumatic event.  She acted like it was her own mother who died.  Grieving for weeks. It became too much.  I didnt break off the friendship then, but it helped me realize that every little hiccup in life was going to be a disaster, and I was going to be dragged into it.
   
   Anyway be honest, tell them why and move on.

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