should i stay with him or not

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   klaudiababyxposted 13 years ago

   should i stay with him or not
   
   hey i am 19 and my fiance is after leaving me i have a child &im18weeks pregnant again my 2nd son died in my amrs when he was only 30min old and he seems to be blameing me for it he have a drinking problem he swear down in his sons grave that he wasnt drinking when his friends told me he was there is also loads of other girls telling me that he is cheating on me i told him to chose me and his child or drink and he chose drink on the day of my brithday he dont get that i am worrie about him he just go of partying most of the time.i dont know what to should i stay with him or not someone help

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   Jaggedfrostposted 13 years ago

   A period and a comma or two would do a lot of good towards letting us help you sort this out.  I would really like to understand what you are trying to think your way through.

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   Evan G Rogersposted 13 years ago

   i had trouble reading what you wrote...
   
   but i think the important parts are "I have a jerk of a boyfriend/fiance" and "I'm going to have a baby" and "i'm 19 years old"
   
   So...
   
   I dunno, if you want you and your child to live the rest of your lives with an alcoholic jerk... then...

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   Pollyannalanaposted 13 years ago

   You owe your child and yourself better than that. If he wants you and a family back he will change and come to you and I don't mean promise of change, life is too short to spend it all possibly solving an unsolvable problem.

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   Spider Girlposted 13 years ago

   Leaving him or not is determinant of your children and your own future. Come on you're just 19! Just leave him or ruin your future altogether, at least not after you know such things about him!

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   destiny4885posted 13 years ago

   i dont have to read your questions to know what your asking, if theres a child involved then you need to leave him. if he has thoughts that its your fault your son died than he is not someone that loves you. You dont want your kid growing up around drinkind, fighting, accusing, and bad parent.

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   traffordposted 13 years ago

   If you already gave him a choice to pick the family or the drink and as yew said, he selected drink, so that's sounds clear to me that he has no interest in his family, how he can be a great father, what will you tell your baby when he will asked why my father is like this....so leaving him is the better choice for you, for your son and might be for your husband....may be this gape can change him and make him a good father who doesn't drink and take care his children....so try it...you have a big life remains...Don't ruin it

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   stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

   Leave him. You and your child and your unborn child deserve an environment free of worry of cheating and from being involved with an alcoholic.  You'll do better without the drama's and heartbreak he'll cause you.

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   ThussaysNanaMarieposted 12 years ago

   Cut your losses and get the hell out of there while you are still sane, staying on is self abuse. You will survive.

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