my boyfriend still hasnt introduced me to his parents after 1 year, should i be

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   Brit2010posted 14 years ago

   my boyfriend still hasnt introduced me to his parents after 1 year, should i be worried?
   
   He still keeps pictures of his ex, is this a sign?

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   milesofjazzposted 14 years ago

   Wow, I am sorry to say that you might be with the wrong guy. I don't know about the parents thing (they might just be weird, who knows) but keeping pictures of the ex is not a good sign. Just my two cents.

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   Road Trip Amyposted 14 years ago

   The parents thing kind of depends on what his relationship with them is like.  If he's close to them, then I'd be worried.  If he's not, it might not be something that's important to him.  But I agree with milesofjazz -- keeping the pictures of his ex is a bad sign.  Especially after a year.  I didn't get rid of all of my "ex stuff" immediately upon meeting my boyfriend, but over time I did (the final remnants were found and disposed of when we moved in together).  After a year, the only pictures of an ex he should have are ones you haven't seen -- meaning ones that are packed away somewhere, and that he only still has because he forgot about them.

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   wychicposted 14 years ago

   Pictures of the ex depends on the situation, though it's probably a little more cut-and-dry than the parents bit...I know I still have pictures of my ex and he still has pictures of me -- we're both remarried now -- but they're all ones associated with something significant in our son's life and we keep them so we can show them to him, even if he wasn't in the pictures. Sometimes people do stay friends, and don't see any pressing need to throw out the old pictures. Either way, if it's bothering you then definitely talk to him about it.
   
   As for parents...there are so many variables here it's impossible to call without knowing the people involved. Some people just aren't close to their parents, or don't want their parents involved in their personal lives, or have their own reasons revolving around their relationship with their parents rather than their relationship with you. My husband met my mom after we were together six months, but due to a number of different factors I know that I will probably never meet his adoptive mother, and he will probably never meet my dad. In our case it has absolutely nothing to do with our commitment to each other, being ashamed of the significant other, or anything else...it's just a matter of being independent adults who really have no reason to revisit less-pleasant parts of our lives, or the people who are from them.

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   umairabidposted 14 years ago

   I think he is just waiting for the right time and the right situation or may be he is not mentally prepared for it and it doesn't mean at all that he is playing with your emotions it happens and it is not so easy for all the people to inform their parents about your partner specially for those who don't have good and open communication with their parents or for those who have some shyness. But I would suggest that you should talk to him on this matter and tell him straight forwardly that because of this you sometimes think that he is not serious with you.

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   POULOMI DUTTAposted 14 years ago

   look everybody isnt that open and frank with parents and 1 year is too early to worry about introducing you to his parents.
   but the fact that you have posted your worries online and have mentioned that he keeps pics of his ex, shows that there is something fishy going on.
   i can talk about my own experience. i introduced my ex bf 2 my mom 6 months after i fell in love with him, and gradually i introduced him 2 rest of my family members bcoz i was committed 2 him and wanted 2 marry him.
   but he didnt introduce me either 2 his parents or 2 his friends and cousins, even 7 years into the relationship. everytime i requested him, he made up sum excuse and avoided the issue. we finally broke up after spending 7 1/2 torrid years and now i know he was a crook, a scoundrel, a womaniser who had been taking me 4 a ride and having affairs on the sly, rather shamelessly!
   moral of the story : if he continuously avoids introducing you to his parents, he is probably not serious about you. forget all about marriage. he is probably sleeping with other girls behind your back.
   
   but first talk to him openly

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      Brit2010posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      This was the most honest answer everything turned out to be true...he was everything you stated... Thankfully i left 5 years ago... And i am now engaged to the most amazing man a woman can ask for.

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   padmendraposted 10 years ago

   If you really love him and on the other side he also has the same feeling for you, then it appears to be a normal cause. But still keeping photograph of his Ex. girlfriend with him is a question to worry. I think he has not yet come out of his past association with his Ex. or he has not yet made up his mind to introduce you to his parents due to this very reason.
   It is better to clear the doubt which is bothering you now. For a healthy relationship, keeping things in mind without giving yourself a  chance to remove the doubt from your mind, is not a good sign.

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   adrianna vaughnposted 9 years ago

   no maybe his parents doesn't know and he doesn't know how to tell them

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