my hubby is not talking to me from last 10 days though he love me but he shows

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   kucchuposted 13 years ago

   my hubby is not talking to me from last 10 days  though he love me but he shows this attitude...
   
   whenever he gets angry he is very introvert n doesn'tlike to show his feeling or anger everytime when we have clashes i take a step n try to resolve the matter whether i m right or that is my fault just for the sake or our relationship but this happens everytime n again this time even i don't know what thematter is butsurely it is concerned with smaill things.it make me feel as if i m loosing my self respect. only i m thinking for saving our relationship everytime i had to start .he has a attitude that he will never communicate when the thing is wrong but what to do if the hubby wrong this tim

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   Jaggedfrostposted 13 years ago

   While this question would be a bit easier to answer if the grammar didn't make my head ache, it would seem on the outset that acting before communication actually clarifies the issue for resolution will only create more resentment.  If the two of you can't communicate then it would seem any attempt to resolve anything will fall through.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   Without communication there is no relationship.
   
   Someone who is "in love" with you is not going to go 10 days without talking to you.
   
   When a person stops caring about the feelings or concerns of their spouse or significant other the relationship is coming towards an end.
   
   No one person can "save" a marriage.
   Both people have to acknowledge there is a problem and commit to making things better by following certain steps.
   If your husband is willing to go through marriage counseling you may have a (slim shot) of saving your marriage.
   
   Becoming his doormat just so that everything goes his way is not going to make him love you more. If he won't meet you half way then he's not "emotionally connected" to you.
   My guess is when you were dating he never went 10 days without talking to you. His actions indicate you are not as high as you once were on his priority list. A wife should out rank the status of a girlfriend in everyway. (Therefore you should be getting MORE respect today than you got when you were dating him.)
   
   You might do better to start looking out for yourself and make plans for a future that does not include him.
   I know that sounds harsh but only YOU can decide if you can continue to live your life with a man who treats you like this.
   
   We have the power to either accept things as they are in our life or change our life. "Waiting" for someone else to decide your fait is a very weak position to be in.

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   prettydarkhorseposted 13 years ago

   Most men are like that, they are not comfortable in sharing their emotions. Try to approach him and tell him that it is important for you to know what he is thinking about. Approach him when he is in the mood and happy. I don't know the familiarity level between you and your hubby, I guess you might pick up a hint or two about what he likes and doesn't like.

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   kallini2010posted 13 years ago

   "Most men are like that..." - I disagree.  This is clearly a passive-aggressive behaviour and usually it is a signature of a weaker sex.  I meant women, but I just stopped for a second and thought...  maybe your husband is weak if he cannot find ways to communicate with you.
   
   I don't see any love here, because such treatment is a torture.  The only reason I see why this relationship is not broken yet is your husband is controlling and you are submissive.  You have "a subjugation lifetrap" - look it up, if you want.  The only solution is taking control over your own life.  I would not want to say this, but reevaluating your life might lead to the dissolution of your marriage.

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