Why aren't we happy single? have you got any tips to help?

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   livingeverydayposted 12 years ago

   Why aren't we happy single?
   have you got any tips to help?
   
   why is there a sense of failure if we are on our own

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   CyclingFitnessposted 12 years ago

   Keep yourself busy and have a broad circle of friends is my personal advice to any singleton.
   
   Some people are more comfortable being single whereas others feel insecurity being single
   
   Doubts start to enter your mind when you become bored.

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   Daffy Duckposted 12 years ago

   I'm on my own and happy.  There is no sense of failure there.

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   Jeannieinabottleposted 12 years ago

   I am quite happy single.  If someone is desperate and ends up settling for the first person that comes along, that person is the failure.  I am selective and living my life the way I want to live it.  I get to do what I want and when I want.  No one tells me what to do in my personal life.  How can that possibly make me failure?

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   Rosie2010posted 12 years ago

   I am single due to my husband dying on me.  How dare he!  For three years after my husband died, I might as well been dead myself because that was how I felt... dead.  But life goes on.  Time is a good healer.  I am now enjoying my new found singlehood.   I am alone but I am not lonely.
   
   I keep myself busy.  I work, I volunteer, I go to the movies and theater, I joined a karaoke club even if I can't sing, I go to the library a lot, I write blogs and hubs, I visit my kids who have their own apartment, and I belong to a dating/friendship site which I haven't visited since I started hubbing... why? because I'm not really looking and I hate hurting other people's feelings. 
   
   So, do what I do, keep yourself busy.  Oh I also love to read, watch tv and love donating money to the casinos.  Once in a while, I also go to the racetrack and I do my own handicapping. 
   
   I never feel I'm a failure because I am on my own.  Don't be... you are not a failure just because you are single. 
   
   And keep on smiling, you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

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   reeltaulkposted 12 years ago

   Because you are caught up in the hype.......how can you relate failure to being single?  If you ask most couples, especially if they were being honest they would tell you that their relationship or marriage is a failure.  And if they had sense would get out before it dooms them.  You have no idea what it is to be happy and content on you own so how are you going to be that way in a relationship.  As a single person you should have had the time to discover so many things about yourself. Hobbies, crafts, pass times, likes dis likes, passions, desires, the list goes on.  Just imagine being with someone who feels the same way you do.  What a boring relationship, two people bringing boredom to the table.  No excitement or uniqueness to admire.  Come on get into yourself spread your wings like the phoenix in your pic, I'm quite sure it would be impossible for him to get anywhere if he doesn't fly.
   
   P.s I justt read a comment after I submitted mine about keeping yourself busy!  Keeping yourself busy doesn't mean anything.  If you couldn't keep yourself busy initially how are you going to find all the amazing things to keep yourself busy and occupied now.  Focus on finding your true self and your happiness and all of the above will eventually float to the surface
   
   
   Vonda G. Nelson

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   stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

   I'm happy single.  I feel content.  I have the attitude that I enjoy my freedom - being able do do whatever it is I want without having to worry about someone else's feelings, or permission.  My tips for staying happy being single would be - Join a social group (Something you always wanted to do but haven't done while you were in your past relationship) whether it be a ballroom dance class, tennis, craft of Gym - Anywhere you can socialise with new people - You will find you'll make a new circle of friends, this helps with making a fresh start.  Date again when you're feeling in the mood for it, but don't take it seriously or be looking to rush into a new relationship, just enjoy a date for what it is.  Catch up with old friends and family you haven't seen in a while (And your single friends) and plan yourself a holiday, even if it's just a weekend away to go shopping with a friend.  There is no sense of failure in being single, it's so much better than being in a rut with someone who is not going to come through for you.  Enjoy having your time all to your self while you can, afterall if you end up married you may be married for the rest of your life.

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   livingeverydayposted 12 years ago

   thank you it all makes me feel more positive

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