What age group of kids handle their parents divorce better than the other age gr

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   IntimatEvolutionposted 12 years ago

   What age group of kids handle their parents divorce better than the other age groups?
   
   When parents get a divorce what age group of the kids involved handles it better: young children, teenagers, or the adult children?

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   Borsiaposted 12 years ago

   I think that if the children are at or near the end of their schooling it is easy on them. I was 18 and entering my senior year in high school and my parents divorce had little, if any, effect on me.
   I suspect that I would have been fine with it at 16.
   Once the children are old enough to understand what is happening and why they will be fine although it usually means a big downgrade in lifestyle.

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   Smart is Goodposted 12 years ago

   Won't depend on the age only but in the maturity of the kid. My parents are getting a divorce and I'm 18. I'm taking it quite ok actually. I'd rather see them happy and apart, than fighting all the time and creating a tense environment in my house. And my sister is about to turn 14, she cried a lot at first and didn't want to accept it, but as time went on she realised the fights were never going to end so she accepted it and said that her parents were better off on their own and that it's not worth it to hurt yourself trying to put the pieces of a broken jar back together.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   I suspect the younger the easier it is.
   An infant or toddler is not likely to notice a major change.
   Oddly enough I read somewhere that it's the grown children that often take it the hardest. This is especially true if they believed their parent's marriage was rock solid. It may have been the reason they had enough faith in marriage to get married themselves. Once they witness a 25 or 30+ year marriage fall apart they realize you're never "out of the woods". Whether we want to admit it or not most of us look forward to getting to a place or time where we can "relax" and "take things for granted". In reality there is no such place or time! Marriage is an "at will" contract. Being in a committed relationship does not mean you can stop being good to your mate and they won't go anywhere. No one is "stuck" with anyone. You have to keep "impressing" someone to keep them. Competition never really goes away.

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