In a lesbian/gay couple do you feel like there MUST be a masculine figure?
I think the masculine/feminine roles are expected and often stereotyped because they were created between hetero couples (obviously) so it makes people believe that there needs to be a feminine/masculine balance. I honestly don't believe that these roles NEED to exist in a gay relationship. In my relationship with my wife we are both pretty feminine. We both wear make-up, dresses, etc. If you mean a physical balance, I don't think it's absolutely necessary but everyone is different and has different styles. I mean, the point of being a lesbian is being attracted to someone of the SAME sex, right? It doesn't make sense to me to date someone of the same sex who resembled someone of the opposite. But people like what they like, I don't judge.
My relationship is slightly different. I am a pre-op M-F transsexual with a partner whose only same sex experience was with the standard thirteen year old comparing of equipment with his best friend. I am a real girly-girl - makeup, nails, hair, clothes, and he is the undisputed masculine figure in the relationship.
Mind you, he is brilliant in the kitchen!
I think it's an expectation that there should be a masculine figure, but in reality I don't really think that is the case. Even in many heterosexual relationships, yes there is a man, but is there always a masculine figure? It implies that the male makes the decisions or is the breadwinner, when often nowadays neither of those things are true. Even if they were, I don't think homosexual relationships should aim to necessarily heterosexual ones. If there just so happens to be a more masculine figure out of the two then great, if there isn't that's no big deal either. It's all about finding a path that works for the individual couple. There's no magic formula or check box list.
Definitly wierd if there ain't one, but honestly who cares? It is a free country for chris sake
Quite honestly, I don't give any thought to those relationships. Makes me feel a little queasy.
No, I don't think there MUST be a masculine figure...but, sometimes it seems like that's how it plays out. Not always...but sometimes.
Thank you for this question. It's not required and usually depends on the couple. If the two of you identify with either masculine or feminine then the relationship will model behind that concept. If the two of you identify as both fem for example then most likely you'll see that sort of dynamic between the two of you. If you can rise above labels or stereotypes and simple see a person there, the person you love you'll enjoy a real connection.
Yes, there will always be a masculine and feminine in relationships, all relationships straight or gay. The two even exists within each of us. Carl Jung studied this and presents a clear understanding of the two and their relationship within a relationship. Many marriages may have the male as the feminine. Welcome to the dynamics of life. Thanks the question.
I always find it interesting that some couples don't need a the female and male. I know if I was in a lesbian relationship I would feel uncomfortable having to chose what role to play, there might be times that I would want to be the girl and maybe even the guy. I don't think you need to have one of each is what i am really saying
No there doesn't. My partner and I are more a mix of both femme, and androgynous together. I don't like dresses, but will wear one from time to time - yet, I'm not butch.
Yes, there needs to be differences in a relationship, but not necessarily that one. I'm a gay woman, I like women.
In the 'heteronormative' way of thinking, yes there does have to be a masculine and feminine side - but there doesn't. Two femmes are great together, two butch are great together, two femme/butch are great together, just as a butch lesbian and femme are great together.
We love who we love, gay bi trans and straight, it doesn't have to fit a stereotype.
Sorry, I have to continue what I was saying to Emily Sparks.
I know what you're coming from and I understand why you could be mad. I am a Christian, but, I am also a lesbian. And I'm 12 (and in a relationship). But I also understand that God does not want you being a hater towards LGBT people. Even though He doesn't want people to be this way, he doesn't shun or dislike us. God loves ALL people and if you don't know that then how could you be Christian. And I know God apparently didn't make us born this way, but it's how we feel now. You don't understand how it feels like to be gay. You don't know how much hate you can get just from your sexual orientation. I'm not saying you have to condone us, just take it under consideration that we ARE people too. We have a reason for being this way. I used to be straight but then I found a girl and I knew she could make me happier than a man. If I could be straight again, I would. I think I speak for all gays when I say that. No one wants to feel like they're weird or get hate because of who they are.
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