White adults are frequently adopt kids of non white ethnicity, do you think the

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   My2GreenBeansposted 12 years ago

   White adults are frequently adopt kids of non white ethnicity, do you think the reverse is okay?
   
   If you were to see a minority adult parent of white (not mixed) child would you feel differently than if you saw an adult white parent of minority (not mixed) ethnic child? When my daughter started kindgarten my husband did the morning drop-offs. When I went one morning I saw a (black) woman about my age waiting with a (white) kindergarten boy from my daughter’s class. We chatted & I said my daughter really thought he was nice. She said “thanks”. I later found out she was his nanny but I thought she was his mom for the longest time! It didn’t occur to me to exclude her because their skin tone.
   
   

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   adawnmorrisonposted 12 years ago

   Of course it's okay, although it is clearly not that common.  Possibly, because there are a disproportionately large number of minority children in the foster care system, and a small number of minority foster/adoptive parents.  Some minority children have specifically requested to placed with someone of their own heritage.When minorities do foster or adopt/ they may lean toward adopting minority children, for obvious reasons.

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      My2GreenBeansposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I agree this is likely to be the reason it is rarely seen. Though I have had inter-racial friends where their children favored the white parent and especially, if the white parent happened to be the mom and the black parent the dad, where the dad was

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   breathe2travelposted 12 years ago

   As long as a man and wife love each other and love the child(ren) whom they adopt, I think race is a non-issue.

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   lovelife08posted 12 years ago

   It's perfectly okay. Why wouldn't it be? If I were available for adoption as a child, I wouldn't really care who adopted me, black, white, purple....as long as I got a family, I would have been satisfied. And I wouldn't think anything of a black couple with a white child if I saw them.

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      My2GreenBeansposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the comment! I agree the child would be happy just to have a one or two loving parents. Though they would definitely need to be ready to be routinely answer the question “YES, that IS my mom/dad!”. Kids don’t develop a verbal/social filter

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   mizjoposted 12 years ago

   Definitely.
   
   Whatever different ethnicity the adoptee is from the  adoptive parent, after a period of living together, the question of color fades into the background.  Living together, eating the same food, sharing experiences, how could a parent and child of different ethnicities not forget the different colors of their skin?
   
   The experience of interracial marriage cannot be that different from interracial adoption either.
   
   In this multiracial society, especially, color should be so secondary to one's personality.  So, yes, a black person may adopt a non-black, as much as a white may adopt a non-white, if they so chose.

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      My2GreenBeansposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It is true that after a while, you don’t even think about skin tone. I know when I am out with my family including husband’s extended family, that although I have extremely fair skin and probably stick out very noticeably to someone who does not know

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   I think if a family can provide a loving home, then color is irrelevant.  Love and support is what makes a child flourish.

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   Lizam1posted 12 years ago

   of course.  The ethnicity of a person should not matter at all.

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   Asalexanderposted 12 years ago

   As an adoptive Mom myself, I see the big picture.  There are hundreds of thousands of children needing homes.  All children deserve a home.  End of story.

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