Is it ok to stay in touch with opposite sex friends and ex-partners, while in a

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   beadreamer247posted 11 years ago

   Is it ok to stay in touch with opposite sex friends and ex-partners, while in a relationship?
   
   I would like to know how you feel about the idea of your partner being in touch with opposite sex friends and ex-partners. Would you demand to end all those relationships or would you accept them and make it an equal deal that you are allowed to have contacts the same way?

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   MsDoraposted 11 years ago

   According to the comments on my hub "How To Prevent Conflict When An Ex Makes Contact," it is okay in some situations, but not in others. 
   
   If there are children from the ex-relationship, the ex-partners may need to stay in touch, however limited.
   
   If there was a sexual relationship which ended without children, no need to stay in touch. 
   
   If there was just a platonic good-friend relationship, probably not harmful. However, respect, loyalty, trust and other relationship boundaries have to be in place.

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      beadreamer247posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I strongly agree with you in most cases. Just not sure if there is no way of also just being friends with a previous partner....

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   Diane Woodsonposted 11 years ago

   No, It could easily give the impression that he still wanted to look around for something, A definite no. The ex partner would assume that he were looking at her again, I think this only spells trouble for any good relationship.

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   algarveviewposted 11 years ago

   I guess it much depends on the personality of each person. For instance, I wouldn't like it at all, I would not demand that my partner would end all the contacts, but I would expect him to want to end it. If he wouldn't, he would not be the right man for me and I would think about moving on... But I understand there are people who think differently and don't care about that, so it much depends. You have to consider your partner and what he expects of you and also if you would or will stand for him to have contacts also...

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      beadreamer247posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It seems you have to leave any previous friendship with an opposite sex behind you? Even if it was just pure friends and never any relationship involved? So, your partner would only be allowed to have male friends and you only female?

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   savvydatingposted 11 years ago

   That depends upon whether there are any embers left from the fire. Usually, the past is best left alone. Ask yourself this: Would you be fine with having your current mate along whenever you meet with your old partner?

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      Diane Woodsonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I like your way of thinking...doing what you say could keep allot of fights from taking place over this issue.

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      beadreamer247posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well, that would never be the case, unless the ex partner and current have been friends before or such. By staying in touch I mean much more a separate thing - I would not want to have an ex and a current partner at the same table.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Long story short, it is best to stay away from an ex if you have a current partner. Why risk hurt feelings? My opinion is that you make a clean break from your past, once and for all.

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   feenixposted 11 years ago

   All I know is that always worked out very well for "Seinfeld" and "Elaine."

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