Should you give someone false hope?
Someone you know is in a desperate situation. You want to comfort them. Should you say whatever necessary to ease their pain and possibly give them false hope? Or should you
be realistic no matter how they might take it?
Giving someone false hope only makes matters worse. Tell them the truth even if it hurts at the end they will thank you for your honesty.
Thanks for your input. I was thinking that if it was a near death situation, a person might like to hear something that could help them hold on a little longer. But even in a desperate situation, I think honesty is the best policy.
I personally would rather have the truth than false hope. False hope to me is the same as lying to me. Better to just be truthful.
Being realistic is always the best bet. Soft-soaping over what is probably obvious will do your friend more harm than good. But when you're telling your friend hard truths be as decent and accessible as possible. Let them know you always have their back so if they fall you'll be there to help them back up. They may not appreciate it at the time but they will later on. Oh, and don't EVER use the "I told you so" card. No one likes to be reminded of their failings.
Very well put BobMonger. You have a lot of insight and compassion for others. Thanks for taking the time to give me your input. It was very thought-provoking.
When is hope ever false? Reality is a point of view.
By being realistic you are saying when you sit down and tell someone the reality of a situation that your point of view is more correct that someone else's.
By being realistic and by not giving someone any hope, or taking away the hope that they might have-- makes their hope less important than your ego, because you are saying that you are right.
Many people who give advice to others put them down and tell them that they can't accomplish a goal. Typically, the person who is giving the advice could never do what the other is trying to accomplish. They let their ego get in the way and try to make the person feel like they could not do it..
Hope is something everyone deserves and needs.
People have moved the world with their imagination and their belief that they could overcome an obstacle. Point of view is everything.
The only thing they may need from you is guidance, a shoulder to lean upon, a friend, and some hope.
You are right. My reality may not, and most likely, is not, your reality. You have an excellent point and one worth considering.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!
Wow, what a powerful question! The truth is sometimes harsh and painful, but it is necessary. I think that delivery is 90% of the battle. If you can deliver your message with love and respect, you can say just about anything. If you say something that isn't true you're going to have to come clean eventually and that will deteriorate respect and trust.
You're right about the delivery. The truth can sometimes be brutal. But if we are careful about how we express the reality of the situation, we will keep the integrity of our relationship with the person, and they will thanks us for it later.
Comfort words should be better for those who are in desperate situation. Realistic words would hurt them again.
Should you give someone false hope? Yes, hope in itself is the medicine for curing the incurable diseases regardless of .whether its true hope or false hope. You can give false hope to buy time.
Of course, there is nobody who would like to be given false hope. But situations do arises where you just have to give false hope. For example: Your cousin knows very well that you have thousands of dollars with you. And just when you least expect it, she ask you to loan her $1000 which she will refund back next month. At the back of your mind you know this cousin may never repay you. And in your culture, it is considered rude to tell a blood relative to go and borrow money from the bank where such treatments can be replayed from one generation to the other. What do you tell her? Just give her false hope that all will be well so that you can buy time to cook a convincing story as to why you can not afford to loan money to her, at least for the time being.
Again, there is nobody in this world who would like to be given false hope.
by rikabothra 6 years ago
Hi everyone,Here's a thought...We have been taught to speak the truth, but it is right to do so in the cost of hurting/harming someone? Especially if that someone is a person we care for? It is one of the biggest dilemmas, what do you think?
by Grace Marguerite Williams 10 years ago
that other people must believe as THEY do?
by jaydawg808 7 years ago
Is it better to lie than to hurt someone's feelings for being honest?
by Rastamermaid 12 years ago
I'm tired of being lied on, I have proof and emails to shut the lies down,should I?I want to write an expose on an ex-friend,and use actual emails and blogs as evidence for verification. Should I?
by mrpooper 11 years ago
Which is more powerful, Hope or Fear?
by paarsurrey 14 years ago
Hi friendsBoth Paul and Joseph Smith Jr. were false Prophets hence their fate that they got killed.Jesus was a truthful Messenger Prophet of the Creator- God Allah YHWH; and hence he was saved a cursed death on Cross.I love Jesus and Mary as mentioned in QuranThanksI am an Ahmadi peaceful Muslim
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