I'm tired of being lied on, I have proof and emails to shut the lies down,should

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   Rastamermaidposted 13 years ago

   I'm tired of being lied on, I have proof and emails to shut the lies down,should I?
   
   I want to write an expose on an ex-friend,and use actual emails and blogs as evidence for verification. Should I?
   
   

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   Sky9106posted 13 years ago

   Only if you are truly tired of the lies and can sincerely do without it!
   
   Bless.

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   heather92383posted 13 years ago

   It really depends on what the motives are behind the expose. A good objective expose that shows all sides of a person, good and bad, can protect you in the long run and make you less likely to get accused of writing something slanderous. Personally, I choose to write something that could be deemed explosive in a fictional manner that way it can't entirely come back to bite me on the butt. The thing I would think about before doing an expose on anyone is what it'll accomplish in the long run. Unless you're Woodward and Bernstein looking to uncover Watergate in "All the President's Men," I would suggest maybe looking to out the ex-friend in a manner that doesn't push you to their level or past it. I'd maybe try the direct approach in confronting the truth. If that doesn't work, it would be best to think of a more objective approach before jumping to the extreme.

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   litsabdposted 13 years ago

   I can't see why not. If you have reached that point then you are so fed up with it and sure be well off when youu are over with this situation.

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   fpherj48posted 13 years ago

   Rastamermaid,  I'm curious as to how anyone can answer this question appropriately without knowing and understanding the situation and/or your ultimate goal.  As I translate your question, it appears "someone" is telling lies ABOUT you?  Or, is that he/she lies TO you?  If they are spreading falsehoods about you, publicly, that are causing harm to your character, you have every right to publicly expose the TRUTH, in an effort to defend yourself against unture statements.  If you wish to expose this ex-friend as a liar, please be careful to use only the printed proof you have, rather than express your own personal opinions. Don't allow yourself to be placed in the same light as them. I wish you luck.  Please inform us how this works out for you, in the end.

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   Ramsa1posted 13 years ago

   I think you should. If you don't defend yourself, who will? Don't let the lies continue, put a stop to it at once.

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   Rastamermaidposted 13 years ago

   I'll clarify,being lied on,lies told about me,when people lie to me I brush that off,that's their lies and their life. This is about someone lying and talking badly about me,writing blogs and so on. I have emails where there is an exchange and it's obvious when I speak the truth she replies with foul language and statements that the people who verify are lying also.
   I've been over it,but it keeps popping up or she keeps putting my name in her mouth and this so called friendship ended in 2004,so people coming telling me negative things she's stating now in 2011 is so last season.
   A bff said to just put her on blast, post all corespondence and be done with it,I say she can say whatever because I know the truth and my real friends do also.

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   Borsiaposted 13 years ago

   If the lies are really having a bad effect on you or simply have become way too obnoxious then you should do it.
   But be sure you have all of your facts and arguments well posed and accurate.
   If you parted in 2004 and this person is still hung up on it then I suspect that they have other problems.
   Just be careful not to distort or exaggerate so that others can see that person for what they are.
   Keep your blast short and sharp.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   I see in your comment that you stopped being friends with this person back in 2004. Apparently she's having a tough time moving on! You would think that after 7 years whether something was "true or not" a person would "get a life". It's been said, "Anger is the mask that Hurt wears". Clearly this person feels hurt and possibly jealous. As long as your family and friends know the truth I wouldn't worry about it. In fact I would tell them to stop reporting what they hear to me. However if the lies kept you from getting a job or something along those lines I would sue in small claims court. Otherwise I'd let the fire die down and refuse to be lured into a mess. Life is too short to focus on negative people.

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    NiaLeeposted 13 years ago

    If it is necessary and worth it do it. I have been in that situation for years and it hurt a lot. Then, are the people who conveniently believe those lies worth your effort? Can you go away to better people? If it is family or people you really care for, or a situation that has gone overboard, it is time to let the truth reach the top floor...because lies take the elevator while the truth takes the stairs!

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    reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

    Why even waste your time, they will eventually expose themseves through their own lies, well that is if they're not only telling their lies to fools.  Anyone with an ounce of sense will do the math and ignore them.  It's almost comical as well as a waste of time to entertain anyone you know that is telling lies about you.  It's obvious they have an agenda, I just leave them so that they can eventually drown in their own madness.
    
    P.S.  If they are bold faced and becoming brazen with their actions, then do what you must!  But time and time again,  I have seen Karma make the liar as well as the fools that listen and spread whatever lies GAG!

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    Lawfull Richardposted 13 years ago

    I believe that lies can't be shut down. They will exist no matter what force you apply. There are times when you may make this complicated ad even deeper then they were. One of the examples in what you can watch in criminal court. How criminal defend their fake innocence. The best way you can approach lies and win it is when you convince the liar to stop lying. You can to make  use strategies to open his eyes.

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    pelt545posted 13 years ago

    Just move forward with your life if he/she is not willing to change and at least tell the truth.
    
    That person is not worth getting upset or so emotional and risking your freedom and life for.
    
    There is always someone better. Focus on finding him/her instead of worrying about who you are with.

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