Do you think it possible to find love after 50?

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   moneyfairyposted 12 years ago

   Do you think it possible to find love after 50?
   
   If someone has not yet found a significant other by the age of 50, do you still think it is a possibility?Do true soulmates really exist?

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   innerspinposted 12 years ago

   My spinster auntie met and married her husband, a widower, at age 70. They are still going strong 14 years later. So yes, it's entirely possible!

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      moneyfairyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That is great for your Auntie, Thanks for sharing!!!

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   Yes I believe in "soul mates" but I do not believe in a "(sole) mate". There are over 7 billion people on this planet. I would imagine there is far more than one individual that would have the traits any of us could want in a mate. The underlying definition of a soul mate is finding someone that shares your same values, naturally agrees with you on the major things in life, wants the same things for a relationship/marriage and the two of you have (mutual feelings).
   The reason why some people have such a difficult time of finding such a person is (they) limit their options or have unrealistic expectations.
   We have a tendency to (Exclude) rather than (Include) when it comes to finding love. For example if I say "the one" must be of my same race that may eliminate 6 Billion or more people right off the bat! If I say she or he must have the same faith that could eliminate billions people, If I say they must live in the same country, state, town...etc
   This is all (before) you get to height, weight, career, hobbies or interests. Last but not least we say, "the one" must be liked/loved by our family and friends and vice versa! Each of has to decide what is most important to us. Naturally the less options you leave yourself the more difficult it becomes to find a suitable mate. Awhile back I wrote a hub on this subject offering more of my opinions. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … venbillion

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      moneyfairyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Well you are right we all have our likes and dislikes and sometimes that can prevent us from possibly meeting someone wonderful . But if we don't follow our hearts and what it is we want we could just be settling for less.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      "Never separate your mind from your heart when making relationship decisions. The purpose of the mind is to protect the heart." Simply "following our heart" often leads to forming "impulsive relationships" based solely on chemistry. That's not wise.

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      moneyfairyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I wasn't saying to seperate your mind from your heart. Use your mind to decifer what your likes and dislikes are. What you truly want in a relationship and don't settle for less. That's what I was trying to say.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      moneyfairy, I hear you. So many people I deal with tell me how they "follow their heart" and they mean they throw logic/thinking out the window when pursuing relationships. I talk about this in my book: My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany)

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   Petra Vlahposted 12 years ago

   It all depends on what do you mean by love....The very young consider "love" what in reality is mostly infatuation. People over 50, usually know better. If by love you mean a serene relationship based on comfortable understanding, tolerance and respect for the other person's space, I believe it is very possible to find love at any age

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      moneyfairyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I was thinking more along the lines of unconditional true love, not just tolerance but knowing the worst about that person and loving them anyway warts and all

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   savvydatingposted 12 years ago

   Yes, of course. However, it helps to keep up one's appearance. Have the good haircut, do the exercise thing. (Just like we did at age 25). We still have to make a first impression, no matter our age. The good thing about being 50, is that one has a lot of life experiences to bring to the table, thus we can be more interesting than when we were very young.
   
   But let's face it, you have to care about your appearance. That doesn't mean you have to run out and get liposuction or have botox up the kazoo. You just have to be the most attractive 50 you can be, but keep your look natural and age appropriate. When it is all said and done, we all have fascinating qualities, such as charm or poise, or whatever. Those qualities never leave us. Use them to your advantage because they absolutely draw people to you.

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      moneyfairyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      savvydating: all true points you have mentioned!! Thanks for you comment!!!

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   Junegirl58posted 12 years ago

   I recently commented on a similar subject about soul mates that Mamadrama wrote about.  At 54 and married for over 27 years (known each other four years prior) I could not imagine being with anyone else.  My husband is my soulmate, so yes true soulmates do exist. 
   
   After being together for so long, raising our daughters and having the occasional fight or heated discussion which is normal, I would still want to be with him forever. He loves me for me and has the biggest heart.
   
   Whenever that day comes that I am alone, I would hope that in time I could maybe find someone maybe not to love like I did, but to just be together or in sync with.  Who knows what the future will hold, but right now I plan to be with my hubby forever.

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      moneyfairyposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Junegirl58: Glad you are so over the moon happy and in love with your husband. Glad that you found someone early on in life!!!
      good for you!!!

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