Why are men so mean to women?

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   Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years ago

   Why are men so mean to women?
   
   All the men I meet seem to have some sort of attitude problem. Are there anymore nice men out there or have the whole "too nice" theory killed any chance of ever finding a gentleman?

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   Organised Kaosposted 11 years ago

   It's not 'just' Men that are mean to Women, it's more Human's being mean to each other...
   
   As a very, very general answer to your question; in some cases, some Men feel more dominant than the female. Often, women being peace makers do not reprimand the male enough, therefore he feels his behaviour was acceptable.
   
   There are many great guys out there, unfortunately they are not often wrapped in the 'good looking' package...and are often passed over!
   
   Good luck in finding a nice partner, they are out there ~ !

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      Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much for answering my question without judging me. And it's because of that why you win the prize! God bless.

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   MickSposted 11 years ago

   Probably for the same reasons that SOME men are mean to women, seems like another sloppy use of all to me.  Perhaps if 'all' the men you become involved with have this mythological problem, perhaps you had better look at yourself, to see if the problem is with you.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   How many men do (you) ignore or not speak to?
   Certainly not (all) men are mean to women or else their would be no marriages or courtships. The next time you go out to dinner, the movies, the mall, the beach, the park, or church. I'm fairly certain you will see lots of men being (nice) to their women, laughing, and having a great time.
   It's possible you are attracted to the wrong type of men or you are interested in men who are NOT attracted to you. If a man is "into" a woman he treats her one way and if he's not he will treat her a different way. Everyone gets rejected or has their feelings hurt.
   Some women mistake being treated (equal) as being mean. If a guy isn't holding doors open, pulling out chairs, or giving up his seat on the train/bus he is treating the women (no different) than he does the men. No one is obligated to speak to or be kind towards strangers. Being friendly is a choice. Everyone is selective!
   Thankfully there are 7 billion people on this planet so the odds are in your favor that there are enough men who will like you. The real question is; Will you like them?

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      Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      See, you started off your answer to me assuming I'm a snob!

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      No I assumed you are like most of (us)! :-)
      It's human nature to ignore people we have no interest in meeting. Are you the exception? My point is everyone chooses who they are going to be "friendly" towards, sit next to, or spend time with.

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      Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well then, yes, I guess I am the exception (or in this case), the acception. I speak to everyone I meet or at least smile.

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   savvydatingposted 11 years ago

   I'm not sure what the "too nice theory" is. At any rate, there are lots of good men out there. If you are consistently attracting jerks, then I'm sorry to say, but you must take a closer look at yourself. Are you too nice, to the point where you come off as a pushover? This is the #1 way to attract selfish men.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      The "too nice theory" - men who are "too nice" finish last.  Therefore they start to behave like the "bad boy" who appears to get all of the girls who seem to say: "We adore those who ignore us and ignore those who adore us."  Being aloof attracts.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks dashingscorpio. I had no idea. Wow! That theory is depressing, although I have witnessed it... just didn't know there was a name for it.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not sure if there is a widely recognized name for it. People tend to model what appears to be working. Fortunately most human beings evolve overtime. Most women eventually abandon the "bad boy" phase and most bad boys settle down becoming loving

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      Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Attention all of you!!!!!!!!!  All I asked was a simple question about men in general and none of you answered the question. Instead you made me out to be a victim. Perhaps before you answer another question learn to listen first!

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Alaina Smith Cain, Just because most people don't believe your (generalization) that "men are mean to women." This does not imply they are calling you a victim! (Some) men are mean just as (some) women are mean however (MOST) people aren't mean :-)

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      Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You obviously didn't read the rest of these answers beyond yours. I only commented under your post because it was at the top. It was only a matter of position not selection.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Alaina Smith Cain, Please review your comment using (ALL) and (NONE)
      Here is what you said: "Attention (all) of you!!!!!!!!! All I asked was a simple question about men in general and (none) of you answered the question."
      Did I read that wrong?

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      Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You answered the question another commenter said. You explained what "too nice" was NOT why men can be so mean. You answered a question but it wasn't mine.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I apologize for making you feel judged, Alaina Smith Cain. The reason some men are so mean is because they were never taught to respect women. Whenever we encounter such men, the best thing to do is walk the the other way.

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       Alaina Smith Cainposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       It's okay savvy, really. I answer questions like these all the time and so many bloggers lose focus on the question at hand. True enough I wanted an answer, but mainly I posted the question to prove a point.

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   I think you're not hanging around with the right men. But yes, I know many men who are mean to women. They really don't care once they reach 30 and it's a miserable life they have. I'm still waiting for my old roommate, a man who used many women, to keel over from alcohol poisoning, wrap his car around a tree, or a heart attack. He tried to lose weight through programs, but never cut down on his drinking. As if he doesn't know that he's fat because it's a beer belly.
   Luckily, I found a gentleman. But it took a little bit of work to get there.

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