Can a person be too nice for his/her own good?

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  1. pmorries profile image66
    pmorriesposted 11 years ago

    Can a person be too nice for his/her own good?

    Do nice gals and guys finish last? What are your thought on the subject?

  2. whonunuwho profile image51
    whonunuwhoposted 11 years ago

    I'm glad that you chose this photo. The man in the picture has a most unusual background especially prior to his serving as the lead on "The Neighborhood".He served in the military forces, as a sniper in the Vietnam War, he was an author, wrote music, and was active in many public services, even testifying before congress once. and was also a Presbyterian minister.There have been others, such as Capt.Kangaroo, who was a WWII decorated veteran and war hero. The old adage, "you can't tell a book by its cover", is often very truthful in its metaphoric message. Can you live with a very poor self - esteem or would you prefer to have a descent opinion and sense of self worth...the option is up to each of us, despite the consequences. Are we nice with some reservations in certain circumstances, or are we selfish and arrogant when it comes to others in our society?

    1. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for the information on Mr Roberts (I did not know he had been a sniper). Also, I hate the answer I am going to give you on your last two questions and say yes and yes.

    2. Blond Logic profile image93
      Blond Logicposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Actually, I think you'll find the story about Mr Rogers being a sniper is false. This is one of many urban legends which plague  the internet.

  3. ptosis profile image67
    ptosisposted 11 years ago

    What is being nice? Never starting a row? Passive-aggressive person. Perhaps you mean 'Pleasant' or 'easygoing' Is there no way to be a vibrant nice? Only a quiet nice?

    Like Tina Turner said, "we not going to nice and easy - we're going to nice and rough" from  'Rollin' on a River'

    1. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Also, Jesus, who most people would agree was the nicest person ever(whatever one may believe about him), was not always a quiet nice.

  4. Li Galo profile image77
    Li Galoposted 11 years ago

    When you walk with peace in your heart, you CAN be nice and mean it.  It doesn't make you a pushover and it doesn't mean you have to put up with people who aren't nice.  You always have the right to walk away from the rude, crude, and lewd... That's called being nice to yourself!

    As for Mr. Rogers, he was a nice guy from TV land but I never considered him a doormat.  Now that I know he was a sniper, I KNOW he wasn't a doormat!  Sometimes, the nicest guys are some of the toughest guys there are.

    1. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You make some great points, and I thank you for your answer.

    2. M E Whelan profile image57
      M E Whelanposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I like your answer here.  Being nice is generally a matter of having a kind and/or understanding heart/mind and not wanting to hurt or put down others.  I does NOT mean being weak or being too stupid not to be nice.

  5. profile image0
    Garifaliaposted 11 years ago

    Yes, a person can be too nice for his own good. That's when he is giving and understanding but leaves room for those ill meaning people to walk all over him. These are people who have grown up believing that in order to have friends or be approved by his social circle he has to be kind and considerate and not tell others off; else he'll be alone out in the cold. Sad but true---this is why many people with this characteristic are overweight; they suppress their anger and hurt and punish themselves.

    However, being kind and considerate is a virtue missing from society. It's a gift as long as the person can put those ill meaning people in their place.

    1. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you  for your answer, and there is a lot of truth in your comment.

  6. edhan profile image36
    edhanposted 11 years ago

    My children are being nice to everyone around even though some of them are backstabbers. Anyway, that is what I taught them even when others may not return for kindness. Now it is becoming part of their nature to be nice and kind to everyone. Sometimes other friends may see as a bad thing since people kinda taking advantages over nice & kindness for granted.

    1. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You sound like you are great father.

  7. sirifly profile image61
    siriflyposted 11 years ago

    Yes indeed. If you're too nice the unfortunate reality is that people can take advantage of you. You need to adapt to the people you're with and situation

    1. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I would say that your comment is a good piece of advice.

  8. Opulent1 profile image59
    Opulent1posted 11 years ago

    Oh yes, been there, done that. Lots of times you do it because you don't want to hurt others' feelings or that you were taught to be nice and not mean. Trouble is, where do we draw the line? I have learned to be appropriately nice, knowing when to say no. It's not a matter of being selfish, it's self-respect.

    1. whonunuwho profile image51
      whonunuwhoposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I like you comment and agree,Opulent1.

    2. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think I would have to completely agree with you and whonunuwho.

  9. Ira periyavallur profile image58
    Ira periyavallurposted 11 years ago

    Most people are nice to others for their own good. Think this way- you are nice and polite to people because you obviously do not want to throw yourself in the bad light in front of the whole world by being rude and arrogant. After all, we all have just one precious life which we all want to enjoy and be happy with.

  10. CrescentSkies profile image65
    CrescentSkiesposted 11 years ago

    Yup, if you watch a lot of murder shows there are two main reasons people get killed.

    1. Gang/Drug related activity (Buying, selling, using, etc.)
    2. Misplaced kindness

    Good people die young, that saying's around for a reason.

    1. pmorries profile image66
      pmorriesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your answer, and I hope you are wrong that good people die young.


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