If you had a choice, to be married and happy or single and happy, what would you

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   mdiggs1234posted 11 years ago

   If you had a choice, to be married and happy or single and happy, what would you choose?

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   jaydawg808posted 11 years ago

   My answer would be to be married and happy.

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      mdiggs1234posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi jaydawg,  thanks for ir comment..most omportant thing is being happy

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   manatita44posted 11 years ago

   Happiness is an inner state and does not rely on outer circumstances. The Buddha was married and so was Sri Ramakrishna and Anandamayi Ma. Still, there is a point, as demonstrated by all faiths, when the Higher Teaching requires celibacy. Without purity one cannot hold the Higher Forces that come down from above. Still, one must be ready. An intense faith in Something Higher and a one-pointed submission to this Will is paramount. Slow and steady is the approach for many.
   Still, if one sincerely and surely wish to find God, then the transcendence of lower forces/desires are necessary, married or single. It is the misuse of the vital prana (life-energy), that is significant. I practice celibacy, but I started in the married life many years ago.
   Still, one should choose wisely, as the life of marriage can also push one in a backward spiral. Choose well.

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      mdiggs1234posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi manatita,  thanks for ur comment..it is most important to be happy..and im glad u are wise enough to see how ur relationship affect ur devotion to God...took me a while to see being single is best for me to serve God

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      manatita44posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Happy for you, Mdiggs.
      You can read A Child's Heart and a Child's Dream by Sri Chinmoy or Ten Divine Secrets.  I have also written a book which is with the printers. It's called My Guru, Sri Chinmoy: Life And Teachings.Let me know if you need one.

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   Georgie Loweryposted 11 years ago

   Well, I am single and happy. When I was married, I was mostly unhappy. So, from experience, I'm going to choose single and happy!

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      mdiggs1234posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi georgie,  I appreciate ur comment and glad u are happy...

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   Larry Wallposted 11 years ago

   I made that choice almost 33 years ago when I married my wife. Before then I was single, happy, but unfulfilled.
   
   A good marriage requires work, patience, some compromise, acceptance, loyalty and above all else love. If you are not ready to give that to the marriage, then you probably will not be happy.

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      mdiggs1234posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thx  larry for ur comment...glad u are happy in your marriage..and u realize what it takes to have a good one

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   Borsiaposted 11 years ago

   Given that happiness includes feeling fulfilled and complete I choose single.
   There is a freedom in being single that is difficult, if not impossible, to attain in a relation that requires a great deal of compromise.
   Some feel a need for that balance of freedom while others don't so there is no right or wrong answer.
   I have been in long committed relationships (27 years) and I didn't feel crushed but it did keep me from exploring some aspects of life.

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      mdiggs1234posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi borsia,  thanks for ur comment..it is a blessing to be with the right person...and the most important thing is to be happy

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   Moniquesjposted 11 years ago

   I don't believe in marriage, because people always get divorce...but it took a the right man to make me see that divorce is not optional! It made me see that we are in it together and no one is leaving.

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      mdiggs1234posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      gm Moniquesj,  thanks for your comment....Im glad that you were able to meet someone who changed your mind...hope that you are happy...

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   DexisViewposted 11 years ago

   The key here is happiness.  In both instances you say "happy", so with that in mind...I would choose married and "happy" over single and "happy".  I love being in a happy relationship.  It is such a wonderful feeling to have the special someone in your life to care about and be cared about by.  It's all about finding the right person that remain by your side through the crazy ups and downs of life.
   Happy and married begins with happy and single....If you're happy with yourself, someone is bound to fall in love with that.

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      mdiggs1234posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good morning DexisView,
      thanks for your answer....Im glad you brought up the point of being happy with yourself first before wanting to get married...that is most important....

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