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Does Single Life Rocks?

  1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
    rdsparrowriterposted 5 years ago

    Being single, is it a blessing or a curse? To enjoy life , do you need to get married? How to enjoy singleness?

    1. Pearldiver profile image85
      Pearldiverposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Being single is always whatever life you choose to make it.  Being married is often whatever someone else chooses your life should be!  smile

      I don't believe that getting married is the answer to enjoying life.  I believe it is far more important to understand and appreciate who you are as an individual, before you seek to find out who you are as pair.

      Enjoy the soul that lives within and you will enjoy life... good luck.. be happy.  smile

      1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
        rdsparrowriterposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Thank you smile

    2. psycheskinner profile image81
      psycheskinnerposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      It depends on the person.  I prefer being single.

      1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
        rdsparrowriterposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        yes it's true smile

  2. WriteAngled profile image91
    WriteAngledposted 5 years ago

    I spent over 30 years of my life in four major relationships, two of which were marriages. These resulted from a mixture of affection (even crazy head-over-heels love sometimes), a stupid fear that I could not deal with life on my own, and the social pressure to marry, which used to be much stronger when I was young.

    Now I am single and having the best time of my whole life. I can truly say that, apart from the fact one marriage resulted in my two lovely daughters, none of the so-called advantages people attribute to relationships can in any way match the glorious feeling that finally I am free to do what I want to do, when I want to do it and without having to consult anyone else!

    I know being single is not a good situation for some. I think it really depends on personality. For me, freedom has turned out to be the most important issue that affects my happiness and well-being. I am totally happy with my own company. In fact, after seeing people, I am always happy to return back home, where I can be alone with my thoughts and interests!

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for sharing your view smile God bless you!

  3. WryLilt profile image84
    WryLiltposted 5 years ago

    I've been with the same man since I was 18. But that said, our marriage isn't like normal marriages for the most part. We get on well but he's happy for me to do anything I want and lets me do what I want with the money,  house and kids. Occasionally his foot will come down but he's generally very easy going and I only seen him one week a month, so it works for us. smile

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Nice to hear from you Lilt smile

  4. Kangaroo_Jase profile image82
    Kangaroo_Jaseposted 5 years ago

    Be happy with who you are first. Then when your are single or involved with someone else, love you and love them and be happy.

    Happiness is not derived from relationships, you still have to live with yourself, whether its just you, or two!

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Jase for the advice smile God bless you!

  5. Hollie Thomas profile image60
    Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago

    Like Writeangled, I have been married twice, both disastrous, but I also have great kids so I don't regret the experience. All I can say is that singledom for me equates to freedom and it's fantastic! I wouldn't change anything about my life, except I'd really like a caravan in Wales. :lol;

    The single life isn't for everyone though, some people need to be in relationships for whatever reason. I guess it just comes down to understanding yourself and knowing how you function best.

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for sharing your insight Hollie smile God bless you!

  6. Guilty pleasures profile image56
    Guilty pleasuresposted 4 years ago

    According to the dictionary, happiness means "a state of well-being and contentment" but a mere definition doesn't quite embody just was is happiness. I believe one can find happiness within themselves and doesn't always need a relationship to be happy. There are perks to being single and in a relationships, of course you have someone to share your interests with or bring a smile on your face or cheer you up when you are down in the slumps. Who doesn't want to find someone to share these moments with? But that doesn't mean you can't create or find these moments by yourself, you can still do activities that makes you happy. And the best part is you come to learn about yourself and in turn, love yourself better than anyone else. Remember no one can love you more or better than yourself and you don't always need a relationship just be happy. We often underestimate the power and ability being can have because we are so caught up with what others have, thinking we need someone else in order to be happy. But you can be happy just being you.

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you smile This is very helpful smile God bless you!

  7. TheMagician profile image93
    TheMagicianposted 4 years ago

    being single is the best!
    well, at least i think it is.

    i honestly couldn't imagine having to live with another person in terms of sharing a room and to constantly be around each other. i like having my own space, and i enjoy going days at a time disappearing without seeing anyone. living with 4 of my best friends is enough for me. i can hang out with them when i'm feeling social, and then retreat to my bedroom to avoid the world smile

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you smile Seems like you enjoy your own company. Nice .. Yes, friends can be very comforting smile

  8. abbykorinnelee profile image76
    abbykorinneleeposted 4 years ago

    I never believed I would enjoy being single.  I started my first relationship in ninth grade and virtually since 15 haven't been single but for a few days or weeks at best.  I think it was a fear of being alone.  I didn't become single until two years ago and I have to say its quite liberating.

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Whatever it is just enjoy life .. smile Thanks for your comment smile

  9. Klavdija Frahm profile image69
    Klavdija Frahmposted 4 years ago

    It depends on your personality. But I agree that at first you have to love yourself, otherwise you can't love someone else and be in a relationship. I've been in relationships for about 4 years, I was single for just a couple of weeks. But at the end of last failed relationship I was finally single for half of the year and it was gooood. I was missing having a boyfriend when I was having bad moments, but in general it was good because I was alone with myself, I realized what I want in future relationship and what I will never tolerate in them anymore. I was single for whole summer and autumn, but at New Year's work party I met my boyfriend and we're together for almost 2 years now. It's my longest and strongest relationship, maybe this is it? I'm not born to be alone, I'm sure, but some people are and that's just fine, whatever makes us happy smile

    1. rdsparrowriter profile image60
      rdsparrowriterposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      So happy for you smile God bless you both !

    2. abbykorinnelee profile image76
      abbykorinneleeposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I think what you have said is so very true!!!

  10. abbykorinnelee profile image76
    abbykorinneleeposted 4 years ago

    You know being single is really great once you have gotten through the healing of the breakup, the swing of things raising your kids by yourself in you are a single mom like me.  I have found peace with not dating anyone, I have learned how to appraoch people again and have made a couple new friends, I have learned how to keep older friends in my life and not needing their physical presecence for comfort.  I have learned how to hog the bed, and perm. have Lifetime on when I watch TV.  I think I like having my own rules and realized how much I need control of things in my life and how much control I gave up just for a man.  I want to be in a relationship again but I don't know that it will be anytime soon because I have found that I have struggled alot maybe and had a few setbacks emotionally and have made a few more mistakes, but i have learned a lot about myself.  It was like getting to know myself for the first time.

    1. Lady_E profile image82
      Lady_Eposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That was touching to read, Abby. I'm sure Love will find you again.

  11. lovendar profile image60
    lovendarposted 4 years ago

    I think it depends upon person to person and thus replies will be different, but in my opinion being single is not a curse. One can live their life more enjoyable and more freely. There will be no interfere of any person in your life and you will rule yourself. So, if you are a single person enjoy the life in your way. smile

 
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