Do you believe that sex addictions are real or an excuse ?

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   loveofnightposted 10 years ago

   Do you believe that sex addictions are real or an excuse ?
   
   

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   PurvisBobbi44posted 10 years ago

   I believe that “Sex Addiction” is an excuse to satisfy and not accept the blame or responsibility of one’s deeds.

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   sheilamyersposted 10 years ago

   I think being addicted can be a legitimate reason and people can be addicted to sex just as they are to other things. That said, I agree with Purvis that many people use it as an excuse for their bad behavior.

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      loveofnightposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You are so true sheilamyers, it is not so much that you cannot be addicted to a thing but I believe that more often than not it is an excuse for bad behavior.

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   jaydawg808posted 10 years ago

   I believe that this is REAL.  But only because of an underlying reason.  It's not an excuse, but rather a cause of something else.

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   I believe it is real in a way. Human nature does not make us attracted to ONLY one person ever. Really human nature tells us all the time that having sex with just one person isn't what the body desires. When you put a sexual person in a committed relationship where they are required to be monogamous it is the equivalent to putting a crack head in a room with no crack. Eventually they want to get out of the room to get some crack.  There is no way to really get all the needs met by one person. This all leads to pent up sexual issues. Which can easily lead to a an addiction to certain sexual activities.
   On another side, many sexually abused children (along with other people who suffer a traumatic issue early in life)  suffer with a need to act out sexually when they get older. This could be seen as a an "addiction" when really it is a coping mechanism.

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      loveofnightposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I really like the angle of your approach, especially from the direction of abused kids. We do more often than not act out to cover underlying trauma.

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   duffsmomposted 10 years ago

   I think a human being can become addicted to anything.  Gambling, sex, overeating.  The body becomes habituated to the behavior and the person genuinely suffers.
   
   Now do I think someone might use the excuse of sexual addiction to explain misbehavior...yes I do.

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   Tusitala Tomposted 10 years ago

   DuffsMum's got it right in my opinion.   
   
   Just about everyone in the world, it seems, is subject to some sort of addiction.  Some of us quite a few.   The rational mind and the emotive mind are so often at loggerheads.  Only a couple of days back a woman told me she'd had a really bad turn, and had had to have medical treatment because she could not breath properly.   Asked if she was going to give up her smoking habit, she said "No."
   
   People eating themselve to death and knowing that they're doing it often can't give up over-eating.   Certainly people who are on hard drugs that they know will eventually  ruin their lives also cannot. 
   
   Okay, so we know people can claim to have an addiciton when they do not.   But I'd say they would be a minority.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   If an addiction can be identified as an activity which one is unable to control their impulses and are willing to risk everything in order to get their fix.... then I would say it's possible to have a sex addiction.
   However as a society we tend to frown upon "sin addictions" such as porn, sex, and gambling as being "legitimate". Nonetheless there are scientific studies that have been conducted which show similar brain activity as those who are addicted to tobacco, alcohol, or caffeine.
   The primary reasons why we have such a difficult accepting "sin addictions" is because they do not involve (ingesting) a substance  and are viewed as nothing more than selfish impulsive behavior. Last but not least the bulk of the pain is felt by those who loved and trusted them. If they are diagnosed as being "addicted"  we see it as a convenient story to (excuse) their bad behavior. Naturally not (everyone) who professes to have an "addiction" has one. And even if such an "addiction" could be proven most likely it would not change the minds of those who view these actions as being a "deal breaker".
   Today more and more (behavior) is being diagnosed as addictions or a form of mental illness. These include "food addiction", "shopping addiction", "hoarding"  and even shoplifting. In fact there is an organization called "Cleptomaniacs And Shoplifters Anonymous". However none of these "addictions' cause the same amount of heartbreak as discovering one's mate is having sex with others.

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      loveofnightposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It sounds as if you have your next hub; you have given me many angles to view....Thanks

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   jennshealthstoreposted 10 years ago

   Most of the time when there is depression present or if we are chemically imbalanced, people resort to different things to increase endorphin's. The release of these chemicals make us feel happy. When these endorphin's are released we crave more to feel the satisfaction of what we felt. The more we engage in the activity the less effective it will be making the person get deeper and deeper into the addiction. So while addictions are not an excuse, often times it becomes uncontrollable without help.

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