Is it alright if the guy who loves you actually admires another girls too?

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   Sweetpea Flurposted 10 years ago

   Is it alright if the guy who loves you actually admires another girls too?
   
   What if you can tell that the one your in relationship with is seriously in love with you however at some point he is also attracted to another but they're just friends. Is it alright to be jealous or hurt a little? I mean what if he tells you "I considered those friends as more than friends but they're not above you because you're the one I'm in love with".

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   If he really loves you and with you there shouldn't be anything to worry about. Trust is very important between two people.

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      Sweetpea Flurposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you DDE for this comment. It is true that when you encounter this kind of issue in a relationship TRUST is everything to make it work.

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   "I considered those friends as more than friends" For me, that is a BIG red flag. In a monogamous relationship (well in my relationship) NO ONE should be considered more than friends if they are outside the relationship. Is it normal for my husband to find other women attractive or sexually interesting, of course, he's human. However if there is sexual attraction then there isn't to be any form of a relationship. There's a big difference in a guy having a few female friends, and a guy having a few female friends he'd "DO". Just my opinion.

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      Sweetpea Flurposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You actually have a point peeples. Well as far as the attraction is concern I'm talking about just a friendly admiration towards others. What I'm worried about is that it could blossom into something else. Its a big red flag I guess

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   You have to ask him: What does "more than friends" mean?
   After you ask then remain quiet and (let him come up with his own explanation). Don't extend him any type of safety branch such as
   Does he mean they're like his sisters? (Naturally he'd say yes to that.)
   As for a man simply admiring other girls/women while in a relationship or married...that would be considered normal. Women also notice strikingly good looking guys as well.
   When they say; "Love is blind" they mean (you) don't see any faults in your mate; not that either of you can't visually see/admire other beautiful people around you.
   Know yourself, love yourself, trust yourself.
   If something doesn't "feel right to you" then it's probably not right for you. Ignoring "red flags" often leads to regret and heartache.

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      Sweetpea Flurposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks a lot dashingscorpio. It's such a great advice not to jump into a conclusion right away. Yes its cool to ask questions first but with caution as you stated. It might just be a misunderstanding but if it feels different it really needs action.

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   Damanee Baileyposted 10 years ago

   "Love is blind", that is what we all say but we still fall in love. The best thing is to be realistic, "love is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experience". There are risk involve when we are in a relationship, but love covers a multitude of sins. It don't make any sense you worry because it won't help the situation. Do not try to change him it won't work, treat him good but this do not guarantee he will stay, if he leave he will have to live with his conscience for the rest of his life. The time you spend worrying, use that time to improve your well being. These are my opinions.

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      Sweetpea Flurposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Certainly! Worrying is a waste of time. Though when you love there's always a risk. A lot of things can happen. Its beyond our control to change people who we are in love with. Besides if they're playing with love, its their loss.

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   deecoleworldposted 10 years ago

   I think its alright!!!! It's natural to be attracted to and admire someone's personality or energy. Its alright to be jealous or hurt. I would even say its normal to be attracted to someone else (in a physical way) even if you are in a relationship. However if you feel disrespected or it turns to something else know that is not ok and you don't have to put up with that. By the way the best thing you can do is to work on yourself. I don't mean change yourself but try to figure out why you are jealous or hurt. Get to the bottom of those feelings before these feelings get to the bottom of you!!!! Good luck!!!

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      Sweetpea Flurposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Human as we are it really is natural to be attracted to others as long as you don't pursue those feelings, if not it could turn to something else. But you're right you need to help your self too, not to drown at these emotions.

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      deecoleworldposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      yes!!! emotions and feelings are important but dont allow the emotions to keep you from seeing clearly (unless there is evidence) ..... Good luck!!!

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