What is considered too soon saying I love you in a new relationship? How long do

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  1. abbykorinnelee profile image74
    abbykorinneleeposted 5 years ago

    What is considered too soon saying I love you in a new relationship? How long do you wait?

    Also give your thoughts on if the phrase I love you has lost its meaning compared to generations past.

  2. NornsMercy profile image61
    NornsMercyposted 5 years ago

    I think that depends on if there's actually love or not. Some people say "I love you" when they don't even love a person (usually confusing it with admiration, desperation, dependence, etc.). I think there's no such thing as too soon if love actually exists. That's my opinion, anyway. big_smile

    I think the word "love" was as abused in the past as it is now. People were just a bit more dramatic and romantic back then when they confessed (which I think is totally awesome). <3

  3. Alphadogg16 profile image90
    Alphadogg16posted 5 years ago

    Everyone who answers this question is going to give a different answer, and all of the answers are neither right or wrong. There's really no definitive answer, everyone interrupts love in a different manner. If you know the meaning of love and feel that way towards someone, then there really isn't a such thing as too soon. Some people believe in love at first sight.

    1. abbykorinnelee profile image74
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That's why I asked a question like this. Knowing others views helps us as individuals develop our own and make us think about what love means so we don't just toss the phrase around.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    I believe in order to love someone you have to (know) them!
    The first few weeks  AKA "the infatuation phase" is a time where both people tend to bend over backwards to impress each other. Their number one priority is to make sure the other person is happy. The word "no" is seldom if ever uttered during the first 12 weeks of any new relationship.
    Naturally this could lead one to believe they've found their "soul-mate". (Again). The next thing you know you're saying: "I love you" and they're saying "I love you too" and then you're saying "I love you more!" and your hearts take flight until you have your first (real) fight.
    Disagreements, arguments, and fights are about learning what each other's boundaries and expectations are. With each bump in the road the "rose colored glasses" become clearer. Each person starts to reveal their "authentic self".  Once you've witnessed the good, bad, and ugly that is when you'll truly know if he or she is "the one" for you.
    "Love isn't finding the perfect person. It's seeing the imperfect person perfectly." - Sam Keen

    1. abbykorinnelee profile image74
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I definitely agree with you. I believe building a solid foundation of friendship is imperitive. Love grows over time. So I don't believe in love at first sight but I do believe in an instant connection.

  5. The Frog Prince profile image73
    The Frog Princeposted 5 years ago

    You wait until your heart says that it is so.  There is a difference between "I love you" and "I'm in love with you."  Merry Christmas to you Abby.

    The Frog Prince

    1. abbykorinnelee profile image74
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Merry Christmas:) it's been awhile. And I totally agree. I would add that a lot of people confuse love with lust. When u are aware it's lust and feelings start to change, admitting its love can be hard.

  6. DDE profile image27
    DDEposted 5 years ago

    It took me a while to say ''I love you to my husband but he told me right away.  ''I love you'' hasn't  lost its meaning   the new generation don't see ''I love you'' as important as it used to be. The many changes have made people think ''I love you''  should be meaningful before committment and before actually telling someone.

    1. abbykorinnelee profile image74
      abbykorinneleeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I see people say I love you to someone and sometimes it seems they try to convince themselves they do, other times I think they don't know what love is.

  7. daydreamer13 profile image61
    daydreamer13posted 5 years ago

    You wait until you mean it. If you truly love someone you should not be afraid to tell them so.


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