Treat children with love and care. When involved in a blended family you must ca

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   realtalk247posted 9 years ago

   Treat children with love and care. When involved in a blended family you must care for all children.
   
   Please remember that you must treat children the same when it comes to gift giving for the holiday. That's as cruel as bringing food for one person into a home and leaving the others to starve.
   Please share if you experienced different treatment compared to your brothers and sisters when it came to Christmas. Share how you felt about the experience.  Lastly, please address how those feelings will allow you to play it forward for children this Christmas.  Playing it forward could include donating to charity to spending time/bearing gifts to a friends child or a relative. Share your experience.
   
   

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   
   
   In most blended families, there is always preferential treatment of one's child of origin over the child by marriage.  Stepparents are notorious for treating their own children better than the children by marriage.  Studies have confirmed that stepparents treat the child by marriage in a less than positive fashion.  After all, such children are not theirs so they feel that they have no filial obligation as far as the former go.
   
   I was reading a study a decade and a half ago which stated that stepparents, on the average, cared for the children from marriage less.  Such children received only cursory treatment at the hands of stepparents including little or no health care and no savings for future education.   Children who live w/stepparents many times receive the shaft. 
   
   They are more likely to be abused physically, mentally, and psychologically than children who do not have stepparents.   Many stepparents also view the children by marriage as a noisome inconvenience to be tolerated at best.  It is seldom that there are stepparents who love the children by marriage as well as their own.

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      realtalk247posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      It's only fair if you sign up for the entire package that you take the entire package.  If you don't want a package then pick someone without children.It is wrong  to disregard children and take part in wrecking their self-esteem is wrong.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      It CERTAINLY IS.  However, many people are not evolved enough to realize this.  They put the significant other over the children.  This is EGREGIOUS!

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