Do You Consider It Manly For A Husband To Simply Pack And Leave His Wife Never To Come Back Again?
The Man Would Usually Leave Without Word After Finding Their Marriage Relationship Isn’t Getting Any Better From His Sharp-Tongued Wife.
Running away is never manly. Men and women don't always get along. Try to work things out. It takes a lot to do so. If for some reason you can't work things out, then confront your spouse. Taking off without saying anything is chickenstuff.
If she is just sharp-tongued, no, it isn't manly. Sometimes though if a situation has gone on and on, and there is no way either will change, getting out is the best thing.
Are you out of your mind? Manly!? Totally irresponsible to disappear. I see you've added some caveats about the wife having a sharp tongue. Hmmm.
Wimp. Go to counseling. Work on a partnership or have a mutual separation. A marriage means there are two people involved [that's not talking about any children.] The man got himself into the arrangement, now figure out an equitable solution.
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Manly? I think it's awkward positioning of the question. Men usually don't like soap opera farewells and high dramatic scenes of bitter accusations; instead they leave. It's not like they fear something or they are afraid of facing the problem. They know the problem is there and it cannot be fixed. Plus there's a bit of mystery and unsaid words left... Something left for the future...
What do you mean by "manly"? What does that have to do with being "manly"? Is it "womanly" for a wife to pack up and leave an abusive husband? Why should a husband have to stick around and take cr****p? Why should he subject himself to further verbal abuse and drama by being "manly" and providing her his itinerary?
I don't know whether it's manly, but if what you packed and left is your wife, then it is a criminal act!
Unless if there's a danger of physical harm from telling her to her face what he's doing, then it's not manly, it's cowardly. If there's a chance she'll try to kill him or something, as there sometimes is with abusive relationships, then it's only safe to wait until you're out of harm's way and then call or let your lawyer call your spouse and let them know what's going on. However, except for those circumstances, simply packing up and leaving without a word is simply making it easier on yourself and being completely inconsiderate of the person you're leaving behind.
My guess would be that the "sharp tongued wife" was reacting to less than a "man" to start with.
His walking away without word, in my opinion, would be proof of that.
A real MAN is a leader of his family, and would be finding a solution that made them both happy.
If you have tried everything possible to make a marriage work, including marriage counseling. Still both parties remain unhappy then it is sometimes best to leave, in order to create space between you. This is sometimes better than to subject both parties to an ongoing unpleasant situation.
With that being said, if a man leaves his wife because he found a young honey he would rather set up housekeeping with. This is an entirely different situation altogether. In my humble opinion, this is a character flaw and the women is really better off without him as he really is not very "manly" to not honor his marriage commitment.
ill answer with a another question...... is it any better if the wife does it..... like in some cases... leaving behind children as well?????
I read the rest of the comments which were good.
Only one that I didn't see was...
We do not know if he did communicate and she just didn't hear Maybe he did say good by many times and she still refuses to hear any such thing.
knowing what he knows ??? just leaving was the last option.
Without knowing the couple there is just no way for us to know diddly about it.
Thats the most horrible thing i have heard about a relationship
If its not working get a marriage counsellor and if after trying nothing works just part ways like a man not like a coward
If god closes one way it opens others doors.
Dont run away from your problems Bud
If your definition of manly is cowardly, immature and incapable of handling any situation in a manner appropriate to how an adult should behave.
Funny enough, "Manly" may be the perfect adjective to describe this behavior as it relates to men, in general, today. I'm one of the lucky few to have a man in my life who is a "Man" in the best sense of the word. He is strong, chivalrous, courageous and owning of his own decisions and responsibilities. This is so very far from the norm, and I'm sure he's the last of a dying breed.
The more I see in the way of men scurrying off because they are overwhelmed by adult responsibility, sulking back into an existence that belongs to childhood, what the word "manly," may have once appropriately described, is endangered, if not extinct.
I am no feminist, quite the opposite, actually. I enjoy the old school outlook that women are the emotional creatures, and men have a strong sense of pride and dedication to their wife and family. In my life, I've seen so far only women have a sense of pride and protection, true strength and the willingness to sacrifice.
In the severe trials of life, I've watched Men weaken, fall and fail without even giving up a fight.
Sadly, in today's lack of honorable masculine nature in men, this probably is entirely appropriate "manly" behavior. An action that should seemingly belong to a boy, to a child.
That coarse of action is not manly at all. It is an act of a coward. It takes more courage to tell the truth, accept the responses,give an sincere appology for your part and simply move on.
In my view it is irresponsible to simply walk out on a marriage without notice - unless there was threat or danger involved. When a marriage is formed, vows and promise to God is that boths couples will honor each other for better or worse utill death. It is ironic how couples completely leave God out of the equation when there are dissagreement between couples.
My point is that it is always better to apply biblical principles and seek counseling if lifes are not threathened. We are imperfect beings and leaving for someone else is not likely going to make too much change. You may still be confronted with the same problems with other people. It is expecially heart breaking when there are children involved.
Oh,, it is not manly or womanly when either couple walkout on a marriage.
Not at all. It takes a real man to stick with his wife-for whatever reason. A real man will be willing to build his own character to promote the beauty of the woman he married. In other words, admit when he is wrong, realize his mistakes, repent before God, and love his wife. I refuse to believe that it is ever all her fault. Marriage is a two way street.
I think there are circumstances that would justify those actions, and this would actually be the best thing he could do. In this situation I think you would need to give credit where credit is due. Any time a person honestly does the best they can, or the best thing they can do, they are maximizing their potential. This is not something that should be considered to be unmanly in my opinion.
Here's one set of circumstances to consider.
The man involved has spent three years trying to find a way to leave his wife to protect her from him. The relationship is 13 years old at the time. Physical harm is not an issue in this scenerio but emotional, verbal, and financial abuses are a occurance. There are two children involved and the man has no time for his kids. He blames his childhood and the lack of parenting skills his parents posessed as the reason for his lack of them.
The man finally comes to the conclusion that the only way he can help his kids and his wife is to have no intereference what so ever in their lives. By forcing his wife to leave him he will finally allow her and his kids to have a chance at a normal family life.
Now, is the man right or wrong for admitting he didn't have the courage or the ability to break off the relationship? Is he right or wrong for forcing his wife to leave him based on this lack of courage? Is it possible to walk away from a marriage and never look back and, have it be the right thing to do?
Depends. If he's a philandering lout then no. he's a bastard and a git.
If he's marriedto a hen-pecking, conniving, contolling, ill-tempered, lazy, shiftless, paranoid, spendthrift who keeps tabs on his every move and is suspicious about daily acts of kindness then yes, he's more of a man for dumping that Satan's minion than staying. Otherwise he'd be that hunched over, submissive little Igor people make fun of.
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