What is your personal definition of marriage?

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   elayne001posted 8 years ago

   What is your personal definition of marriage?
   
   In some cultures, prearranged marriages are normal. My husband's sister and her husband only knew each other for one week. Now they have eight children and have done fine. Does love have to be part of marriage?

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   Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years ago

   Apparently not!  Love comes and goes, and being in love doesn't necessarily mean people will treat each other right.  John Denver was madly in love with Annie Martell; she was the love of his life, and it broke his heart when she finally left him, but look how he abused her.
   
   Congratulations for your sister-in-law and her husband!

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   Marriage is two or more people legally joining together to build a life together. Laws vary from country to country or culture to culture.
   Does love have to be part of marriage? Clearly the answer is no. According to statistics there are lots of "emotionally divorced" and "sexless marriages".
   Some couples just decide to stay in unhappy marriages if they feel the benefits outweigh going through a divorce and starting over. They may even have an arrangement to discretely date other people or even become swingers.
   The most important thing is finding someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the marriage as you do, and naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things.
   Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys!

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      Austinstarposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly the answer I would have given to this question. It's a legal agreement between people. It used to function as a genetic pool for breeding, but we don't need that anymore.

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Austinstar - we don't need a genetic pool for breeding? How can we prevent two half-siblings having a child? (Half-siblings through cheating, polygamy, etc.)

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      TheBizWhizposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Say yes. I thought the same thing but Austin does not respond 2 well 2 my comments. Also notice dashing defined marriage as 2 or more?

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   TheBizWhizposted 8 years ago

   My definition of marriage is between a man and a woman who, I hope, love each other very much and want to start a life and a family together. But I would also think we should all have a million dollars in the bank, so what do I know.
   
   While your sister-in-law and her husband may be doing 'just fine' I hope they are also very happy.
   
   Great question by the way.

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   connorjposted 8 years ago

   
   
   Some will disagree; however, here it is. A matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, that is for the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring. Keep in mind, that This covenant has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament.

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Are you saying people of other faiths or those who practice no religion, their marriages aren't legitimate? Should people who can't have children or don't desire to have them not get married? What about seniors who want to marry?

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      TheBizWhizposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      dashing, I didn't see where he said that a person had 2 believe n a certain faith. He just said the matrimonial covenant was raised by Christ as a sacrament. As 4 those that cannot have children, nothing in life is 100%, so I would consider the intnt

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      BizWhiz, He said: "covenant has been raised by Christ the Lord". If someone has different faith that does not believe in Christ or doesn't believe Christ was the lord they would appear to be excluded from his marriage definition.

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      TheBizWhizposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      He is saying Christ created it. That doesn't mean it is limited to Christians only

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      However if someone doesn't believe in Christ let alone that he created it then for them marriage has nothing to do with religion. The use of the photo of a priest also indicates he feels marriage is tied to Christian religion.

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      TheBizWhizposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      If he did create it then he does have something to do w/ it. It still doesn't mean it is limited 2 Christians.

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      BizWhiz , My point is marriage existed before Christianity!
      According to the bible there was no Christianity until after Jesus/Chirist and his disciples came along. Marriage had be alive and well long before then. I think we've worn this one out

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      TheBizWhizposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Gotcha. No need to get heated.

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      connorjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Not at all! Did I text that? No... Confused Scorpio, the question is: " What is your personal definition of..."

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   aguasilverposted 8 years ago

   Marriage, in Gods eyes, is defined by the equation:
   
   promise + consummation = marriage
   
   By that standard anyone can be married to each other, however God does also state that there are restrictions, one being "in the sight of the congregation" - but the 'congregation' can equally be friends not just your spiritual brothers and sisters.
   
   He also adds "in the sight of God" and there are certain 'marriages' that God does not condone and will therefore not attend.
   
   In legal terms it's simply a way to handle taxation and inheritance laws, it's purely a legal definition that allows for accurate book keeping financially.
   
   So differentiate between marriage approved and blessed by God and marriage approved and blessed by man and you have a solution for most situations.
   
   A Christian marriage is where God has presented the perfect partner for someone, (though that is not say they are perfect yet)  and they have agreed to observe Gods covenant with humanity.
   
   The man accepts that now two people have become one body, he is responsible to God for everything that happens in that marriage, whether he likes it or not, even if he delegates authority  to his wife, he is still responsible.
   
   Likewise the wife accepts that the husband is responsible to God for the marriage, and as such (he will bear the penalties if he lets it go wrong) also has the ultimate authority in the marriage.
   
   A wise husband knows that he would be foolish to ignore his wifes wishes, UNLESS to do so would be against what God has stated.
   
   Both partners should love Yeshua more than each other, then as they get closer to Yeshua, they will also draw closer to each other, as they both are drawn towards the same point: Yeshua.
   
   Marriage is not a game, it's Gods way of preserving the thing He loves most, the family, and ensuring a solid scriptural foundation for children to be nurtured in and protected.
   
   As most will see, the worlds definition of marriage varies greatly from Gods, with predictably bad results.
   
   Love has three levels; agape (unconditional love) / philos (intellectual love) and eros (physical love or lust) and all three will function in unity in a complete marriage, where each partners seeks to please the other.
   
   Men need respect, it's hardwired into them.
   
   Women need love.
   
   If either party fails to provide the others needs, there will be problems.
   
   As Forrest says, "That's all I have to say on the matter" (for now at least)

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds great - except there are no perfect people.  It also doesn't explain why nondenominational Christians have the highest divorce rates, while atheists have the lowest.

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      aguasilverposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Like I said... they are not perfect yet, cos they are still living, but when they are known by and know Yeshua, then they have become eternal, and in eternity they are perfect.

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      Say Yes To Lifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      If their marriages last that long!  Like the old country western song said, "Forever wasn't as long as we planned..."

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      aguasilverposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yoleen, the point is that IF God is in the driving seat, and in today's world, that is a big IF, then the marriage will last, for if He appointed it, blesses it and guides it, no 'man' can pull it asunder
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