What is Love?

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   Susan Searsposted 6 years ago

   What is Love?
   
   I am sitting with my son who is struggling with a relationship and possibly going through a divorce, and he asks me a simple question…what is love? I mean we hear the songs playing “All you need is Love” or “Love me simply, Love me true,” along with millions of other love songs. It seems to be something we are all seeking; all desiring, something we hope to find. What is it though? Is it a feeling, is it an act? How can we know that we have most certainly found it if we do not know what it is?

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   ChitrangadaSharanposted 6 years ago

   Love can be defined in many ways. In my opinion it means commitment and mutual respect and understanding.
   Expectations sometimes have to take a back seat.
   Both the partners must accept each other with their positives as well as negatives.
   Sometimes one has to ignore mistakes , at other  times forget and forgive.
   Love demands lot of sacrifices from both partners to make the relationship deeper.
   Love means more giving than taking.

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      Susan Searsposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Chitrangada,
      If that is the definition? What if that has been violated - one did not accept the others positives as well as the negatives.  What if one always gives and the other does not...or mistakes were made. What is love then?

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      ChitrangadaSharanposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I can completely relate to what you mean.Yes the commitment should be reciprocal. And one should know where to draw the line. Self respect should not be sacrificed. Even after trying hard, if one is not able to save it, then it's wise to part ways.

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   Ericdierkerposted 6 years ago

   I reckon, though I have not counted, that I written over 100 hubs that in some way deal with love. I wonder if 30,000 views or so would suggest I kind of understand a smidgen, then again maybe not.
   People love to talk about different loves. Different types. One 100 words in Latin, Greek and English and ad in the romantic languages, Italian and Castillon Spanish being my faves but Vietnamese, Japanese and French are right up there. Then add in the easy differences with Muslim, Christian, Shinto and Buddhist.
   Love is a choice. No I do not mean we choose to love. I mean that we choose to let us love or not. Or maybe better said, we choose the love we have over eclipsing it with human garbage. (had to use eclipse today ;-)
   The woman loves a man, after a few years it is deeper than amore  and more an agape or a partnership love. We determine to let love allow us to be part and parcel with the other. Empathy, sympathy and selfishness. Really a "one".
   Something happens that does not need be any blame or sin. And one party rejects love. Oh I guarantee they have to give up love of other things also. Like a switch that turns off the flow of love from others and God. And the flow out is just horribly transfered into resentment of all kinds true and some just made up to justify a cold heart.
   In your son's wife case it becomes obvious that she has lost sight of what is important and is letting worldly tangible things cover her with a cold kind of darkness.
   I tell you the love is still there. But not really because she has put a black out on that news. Can your son reignite the life, the candle in her heart. Probably not.
   Can another? Probably not.
   I was counting up because my elder son asked me and I have been in at least 25 countries. I have stayed at 5 stars and I have visited a place where 200,000 live in a dump and a place where it is not weird to see bodies floating by. But I have never seen a place without love. It is clearly her decision to block that out.
   But here is the fantastic news. Your son's innate and valued decision to be a loving person is not dictated by her. He must open his heart and love without return.
   For fun I think he ought a figure all the others he can love -- like you, you great mom!
   Maybe he might like down in "Luckenbock Texas." It reminds us that we have a ton of other people to love, starting with ourselves.
   Personally I like the God angle but that is not for everyone.

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      Susan Searsposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting response. It provokes a lot of thought. I often wonder if that is two people that lose site of love and get caught up in-who knows what-but then realize-kinda of you don't know what you have until it is gone idea...maybe that can rekindle

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   Alan Graceposted 6 years ago

   The word love is commonly used but it has a very deep meaning. In love you don't see faults, there is no conflict. The true definition of love https://goo.gl/PtzbmE

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      Susan Searsposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Is there no faults noticed and no conflicts or in true love do we just learn to resolve these and continue on?

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      Alan Graceposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      When you completely attains flawless vision, the pure love will arise

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      Susan Searsposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      As a nurse, I see couples that have been married 50+ years. Do they not have true love? They see faults, but to me, love is in their eyes. Is it faultless or accepting of the flaws? Maybe a desire to look beyond them?

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