Let's discuss marriage folks!!!!!!

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   worldgrandeurposted 14 years ago

   Now, married or unmarried yet, what is a sucessful marriage and how do you think it can be successful? What are the factors behind a successful mariage.............?

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      akirchnerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Being successful would mean marrying or being with someone who could also be your best friend.  Going on 35 years, that is what I've found to be the "secret" to success. If you are lucky enough to find someone who you can trust no matter WHAT and who will love you no matter WHAT, that is the key!

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      dutchman1951posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Real Love, and "GIVE and TAKE Equaly!" in my humble opinion that is
      
      Jon

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      rebekahELLEposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      a successful marriage is whatever works for the two people who made the commitment. love is required, trust, desire, working together. if you're not willing to work at it, it will fail.
      
      spending time together~
      spending time apart~
      doing things for each other and not depending on the other to do everything~
      having common interests~
      having personal interests~

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      Daniel Carterposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Wouldn't have a clue.
      However, I think a successful relationship is complicated and tremendous work, at best. It's about each being able to be who they need to be without it threatening the other, and feeling safe with the other. There's some autonomy, and there's some real commitment, at whatever is agreeable to both.
      
      There's much more, but that's it in a nutshell.
      That's what I think.

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      dohn121posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Communication is the key to good marriage...I've seen so many marriages fall apart because of the lack thereof.

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         Useful Knowledgeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I agree with you Dohn.

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   shamelabboushposted 14 years ago

   Understanding and love... i think!

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   Wendi Mposted 14 years ago

   Maturity...having been divorced 3 times, I can honestly say that maturity was a key factor that was missing within myself.

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   Dominionmaster2posted 14 years ago

   I think a good marriage is based on trust and a great deal of mutual respect. Allowing your husband or wife the room to be themselves is very important. At least to me it is

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   yoshi97posted 14 years ago

   marriage is mutual understanding, and realizing that no two minds will ever totally agree on anything.

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   GLORYposted 14 years ago

   Marriage is companionship.Husband,wife and children are a small unit of society.All happy members make a sound marriage.

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   bloodnlatexposted 14 years ago

   Marriage is  sentence, not a word!

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      frogdroppingposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I see you're spreading good vibes and happiness as always. Good skull that

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         bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I'm just trying to brighten your day Dammit!

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            frogdroppingposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            You do. I can't tell you how much your name and avatar lightens my darker moments

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               bloodnlatexposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               It's comments like yours that make my time on here worth it.

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   NaomiRposted 14 years ago

   I'm going on 10 years now, and we've been together for 12. That said, I think a good marriage is based on love, trust, equality and communication. It's also important, I think, to maintain some of your individuality. Both of us have our own hobbies and groups of friends who we spend time with. Though we do most things together, we often do things separately, too ... and it's nice because then we can come home and share what we did. It gives us some space and keeps things interesting -- and we appreciate the time we have together even more.

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   Wonder_Womanposted 14 years ago

   Hmm…well.. my bf and I have been dating for over 5 years. I think of him as my best friend. We broke up  when he got laid off, he just became depressed and pushed himself away from everyone. In my heart I knew he was worth it so I stood by his side even though I watched him do many things that would make any other women just pack her things and leave. Once he came out of his depression, did some soul searching he realized that we had was worth it.  getting to the point… no relationship is perfect their will be times your relationship will be tested. If you genuinely love that person you will be by their side to help them and not use that as any type of ammunition for future arguments. I also believe a couple should be free to do their own things, like he has poker night with his friends once or twice a week. We try to plan dates, even if its going to a movie, going to the park, going to a museum, the fact that you continue adding some romantic time for each other will create memories that help you bond. I’m surprised no one has mentioned, sex. Sure when you have been with someone for an amount of time maybe sex might not seem just as exiting as the first time but the way I see it, your spouse is your outlet for fantasies. Have fun, be crazy! Have sex in new places, buy role play outfits, buy new lingerie, experiment on fantasies. Well that’s just my 2 cents

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      PWalkerposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree with you more on many of your statements! My husband and I went through a similar situation with his job while we were dating and he tried to break up with me so many times, but I stuck through because I could see who he really was at the time. Being there for your spouse no matter what is what is missing in today's marriages. Nobody wants to stick around and work it out. People are just like "Divorce! Divorce!" as soon as the roses stop blooming. There are a few exceptions like adultery or abuse that should fall into the divorce category, but other than that...work it out! Communication, Unconditional Love (ex.for richer or poorer), patience, sensitivity, etc. are all needed for a successful marriage.

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         Wonder_Womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yes exactly, I learned that we almost broke up bc he felt ashamed that he didn’t have a job, he  felt I could find someone better. I agree with you as well, If that person is worth it don’t give up

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    hinckles komaposted 14 years ago

    Marriage is a commitment to raise kids.  I love him but the truth is not to much in love, is there a difference? its not exiting anymore and too constantly try and try,it takes the whole point away sometimes. The reality is its soo hard to keep a relationship flowing natural when kids are in the spot light. Marriage: i just tell strangers were going out a week and iam babysitting kids. lol They tell us wait till you have your own kids. Wow i cant wait i say while my son laughs at me. Its a blast to forget your married and start over. ok seriously when marriage becomes work or work on marriage its basically over in my opinion. We work already why should love be work? Is it work in the beginning?

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    Rehma Jamshedposted 14 years ago

    Married. I think the most important factors for a successful marriage are transparency and respect.

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    Linda Myshrallposted 14 years ago

    Marriage...
    
    You're either fer it or agin' it.  I guess I'm fer it, because I've signed on the dotted line more than once.
    
    Here's what I know about it.  Choose carefully, and keep in mind all of the good advice listed above... excepting what the creepy looking skull said
    
    Pick someone you're attracted to (remember 'til death do you part is a long time) and pick someone who has your back.  That way you can avoid all that fighting.  blech.
    
    11-years this time and it's easy and fun because HE kicks rump and takes names.  I say two thumbs up for it.

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    europewalkerposted 14 years ago

    Trust and not trying to change each other. You connected for a reason, keep your own personalities and interests. That has worked for me and my husband for 24 years.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    Male obedience.

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