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Can any marriage be saved?

  1. ananceleste profile image71
    anancelesteposted 6 years ago

    Can any marriage be saved?

    Right now the divorce rate is up the roof. And people split up over nothing. Is it posible to save a relationship that is on the rocks?


  2. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    It is possible if both people want it and are willing to work at it.  A good marriage takes a lot of work, a lot of compromise and knowing when to keep your trap shut when what you really want to do is have the last word.

    If both people want it they can save it. They need to identify the areas of tension and discord and work on them. A professional counselor would be a good idea to guide them.

  3. MickS profile image72
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    Only if both parties want to, and only if both parties try. It takes 2, to make and 2, to break.

  4. shazwellyn profile image54
    shazwellynposted 6 years ago

    This is purely to do with will and love.  People need to look for common ground - the thing that brought them together in the first place.  Can they still be friends or find that warmth that they used to know?

    The willingness of both parties has to be addressed. This is where councilling comes into play, where a mediator directs the couple toward gratitude and appreciation of the individuals that make a couple.  The councillor peels back the sands of time, breaking down the emotional walls of discontent and clearing the disease of past misgivings.  Once forgiving has occured, then there is room to move on.

    Of course a relationship can break down with no return, but even so, councilling is important for both to close the chapter on a past life and love, especially when children are involved.

    Yes, it is possible for any marriage to be saved, but is dependant on the willingness of the participants.

  5. gabrielthomas72 profile image76
    gabrielthomas72posted 6 years ago

    Having been in this position and now divorced, I would agree with what other people have written in reply to this question.
    It can only happen if both parties are willing to work exremely hard at what ever has caused the distress in the relationship and ultimately love each other.
    If there is any doubt from either side, it won't work, it just won't.
    This was the case in my relationship, and with myself and my ex wife being intelligent people we knew the best thing was to seperate.
    5 years later, we have a great relationship as friends and our two sons are the most fantastic, intelligent and happy children you would wish to meet.

  6. Ask Queenmother profile image71
    Ask Queenmotherposted 6 years ago

    Can any marriage be saved?

    The answer is absolutely! Although, I agreed with what duffsmom stated "if both people want it and are willing to work ", however wanting it to work is not enough for a marriage to be saved. A good marriage has to begin with a strong foundation for it work and have longevity. The elements of a strong foundation in a marriage includes honesty, honor and humility. Selfishness can work in a marriage and it will  be a questionable marriage that may not be long lasting in the 21st century  as the new energy is about honoring the inner truth in one's own heart. Saving a marriage that is bad may be a good idea on the surface, but in the long term the same consequences will occur over and over again.  Good question!

  7. hillymillydee profile image61
    hillymillydeeposted 6 years ago

    It is possible and it not.
    Sometimes a couple thought that divorce is the only solution to their marital problems. There's no more room for improvement. They thought their being together will just worsen their situation.

    But some couple endeavor to mend it, they repaired successfully because both of them were determined to do so. Both of them still love each other and that they cannot let their love go. They feel as a song says: " Loving you is easier than anything I ever do again" that is they know the consequences of divorce and they don't like to undergo. They would better reconcile together and start all over again. They would rather forgive each other than for their hearts to suffer. They still have care for each other and have the willingness to mend and do some repairs in their marriage. With this reason we can believe that marriage can saved.

  8. Marcy Goodfleisch profile image97
    Marcy Goodfleischposted 6 years ago

    I think there are some marriages that cannot be saved. In cases of serious abuse or deception (the sociopathic kind), all the power rests with the abuser or deceiver, and there is no true marriage relationship. Abuser can sometimes change, but sociopaths are considers incurable.

  9. researchpapers profile image55
    researchpapersposted 6 years ago

    Marriage is the biggest mistake which humans do in there life I must say because I am going through it.

  10. pstraubie48 profile image85
    pstraubie48posted 6 years ago

    no....i would say in marriages where physical, sexual, or mental abuse are present , i would say not. those things having gone wrong in a marriage, under most circumstances the damage cannot be undone. there are promises to never do whatever it was again...but the cycle continues.
    and, parting from the abuser is usually the salvation for the abused. it is an extremely difficult journey but it can happen.

  11. nina64 profile image82
    nina64posted 6 years ago

    It all depends on the two people who are in the marriage. If they want to save their marriage, they will do whatever it takes to save it. When people get married, I don't think they realize what it takes to keep those sacred vows. With the high rate of divorce, people just don't think that marriage is worth getting into. It takes hard work, sacrifice, compromise, and trust. Love is not enough, you have to constantly work at keeping your marriage alive. Some people tend to think that marriage is a game. I truly feel sorry for those whose view marriage as a vehicle for financial gain or whatever the reason may be. Everyone has their own opinion as to how they feel about this issue. I'm all for marriage!!!!!!!!!!

  12. Globetrekkermel profile image78
    Globetrekkermelposted 5 years ago

    I believe it is possible to save a marriage on the rocks.That will be a tough call though and it may take a lot of work but anything is possible.That depends how hard and how much would you like to save the marriage.