If you could travel back through time and give yourself some advice...

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   H.C Porterposted 14 years ago

   If you had the chance to travel back in time, to give yourself some advice or encouragement, what would the advice be, and at what age would you be traveling back to, to give this advice?
   
   I am not talking about traveling back and giving yourself some tips on the stock market or lottery numbers to pick. Something more real than that-you can’t change your life-just the way that you perceived things at a particular venture.
   
   Example- I would go back to when my first son was alive, I would tell myself to stop putting off things that I wanted to do-like taking more pictures of him and I together-because there is no guarantee that when you have the time and money, you will still have a chance. I would go back an tell myself to stop doubting myself and be who I am, because it doesn’t really matter what people think-most tend to drift in and out of our lives anyway. I would tell myself-things are going to suck for awhile, and you will feel like you are suffocating and nothing will ever get better, but hold onto your faith, and find comfort in it; things will become easier and you will once again see things clearly. I would encourage myself to allow people in and continue to be kind & optimistic, attempting to be anything other-doesn’t work out for me.
   
   How about you? What time would you go back to, to help yourself out, what would you say to yourself?

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   UPStarposted 14 years ago

   I would go back and tell my high school self that she would be okay!! (I was so insecure) That she shouldn't put off college, but she should GO! I couldn't decide what I wanted to do with my life so I vascillated until I ended up married instead. LOL. I loved raising my kids, but today a degree would help me out alot!

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   RedSonja94posted 14 years ago

   I would tell myself to be more choosy in who I marry.  I would tell myself to look for someone more like I want to be and not someone I just depend on.  I would also tell myself to always be true to myself and do what ever is best for me and my kids first and formost.

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   spartanking1978posted 14 years ago

   I would have been present for my wife during her abusive childhood. Sometimes all it takes is a true friend to turn a negative situation into a positive learning experience.
   
   Love in my heart, always.
   
   Bryce

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      UPStarposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That is really sweet, Bryce

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   Mrvoodooposted 14 years ago

   "Don't do it!" (age 24).
   
   And that's all I'm sharing, sorry.

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      UPStarposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      LOL.. Yes! I relate. Although I would have said it to myself at age 40.

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      wyanjenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Hey.
      You are older than 24?
      
      
      I'm waiting for my future self to come back and advise me today. Apparently we still haven't figured it out....

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         Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         at 24, would you really have listened?

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            Mrvoodooposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Probably not.

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         Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Hey Jen,
         
         You do realize that you could live long enough to make it happen.
         
         The only thing preventing you from getting there is those who are around you and their inability to see their own existence for meaning or purpose.
         
         It's a shame. So, I guess there more than a 100% chance you'll never make it happen, but there is still a 100% chance that it could still possibly happen.
         
         If that's not a real mind-numbing concept, then I don't what is.

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            wyanjenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Well at 40-ish, I'm thinking... not gonna happen.   sure as hell not holding my breath
            Reminds me of one of my favorite songs:
            
            I don't want to be buried
            in a Pet Semetary.
            I don't want to live my life again.
            (ramones - yeah!)

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               Denno66posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               They are always Soooo relevant,

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               Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               i wanna be sedated!!!!!

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         Mrvoodooposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Considerably older.
         
         Good luck figuring it all out, if you find the secrets please share them.

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   fishtiger58posted 14 years ago

   Go back to last year of high school and tell myself to go to college, will be enough of the working world after that.

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   elayne001posted 14 years ago

   Great question! I would go back to my teen years and tell myself to not look at boys until I was much older. I wasted a lot of time chasing them instead of getting the most out of my education. It took me some 30 years to graduate from college after all of my children finished their degrees. It would have helped our family immensely if I had been able to work in a job that paid more than minimum wage.

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   ralwusposted 14 years ago

   I just did.

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      lyricsingrayposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        nice

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   ralwusposted 14 years ago

   LOL:D

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    Justine76posted 14 years ago

    id go back to last week and say... dont worry, youll live

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    Scott.Lifeposted 14 years ago

    I would tell myself first to go to college, not the Marines, blowing stuff up was only fun for a little while then they started shooting back. Second I would tell myself to take the red pill this time not the blue one, NEO was wrong.

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       Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       no kidding. steak is good.

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    UPStarposted 14 years ago

    I parted ways with 24 long ago. She needed some advice but I wasn't there to give it. I surely could now though!!!

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    Justine76posted 14 years ago

    yesterdday
    dont let your dog eat THAT

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    believeinhimposted 14 years ago

    Good question and good answers!
    I wish I would have opened up more to my friends.

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    Denno66posted 14 years ago

    Ah, so round, what? Cagsjillion? begins.....

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       Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       What's up denno?

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          Denno66posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          How's it goin?

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             Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

             It's going, just working out the details in which I want it to go. I'm sure you'll try to distract, as usual, and that's okay.
             
             Sometimes, you're really funny. But, I see it as learning. So, it's all good.

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                drej2522posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                when I spotted this forum I was just knew Cagsil would throw in a response!!

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    wyanjenposted 14 years ago

    If I could travel back in time, I would tell myself to buy this MUCH sooner than I did
    
    

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    Denno66posted 14 years ago

    I would go to CBGB's to watch them

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    All for Funposted 14 years ago

    I would go back to tell myself not to be afraid, don't be shy, just go for it. Be more active, light into that bully in school, forget about the trouble you'll get into. Go to College sooner. Don't be afraid of boys, your the one who's holding all the cards. Just be more bold, and do what you want. Live life fully.

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    MHilbertposted 14 years ago

    Well, looking back on my high school years I would go back to tell myself to have more confidence and take more risks in regards to participating in more activities, and getting to know people better. Because I was really shy in high school. Really looking back, I didn't have anything to lose but pride, but there is so much to be gained by taking chances.

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    Hanna Bambinaposted 14 years ago

    take that year off. Don't disrespect yourself.

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    Dink96posted 14 years ago

    Stop listening to your depressed mother; you CAN reach the stars, all you have to do is dream and work hard toward your goals.  And go to school with a vengeance while you have that $$ to go.  (Of course I didn't and now I regret THAT move.)

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    Justine76posted 14 years ago

    Ive been thinking about this, wich is fairly pathetic I realize..but I wouldn't go back. I think I wouldn't learn anythin if someone (myself inculded) were to protect me.

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    Don Wposted 14 years ago

    I'd tell myself to invest in a startup company called Google.

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    Jane@CMposted 14 years ago

    I'd go back 29 years to my senior year in HS (or earlier) to get to know my mom.

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    Dink96posted 14 years ago

    Okay, if we're going to talk stock, I would have begged borrowed and stolen to buy stock in the IPO of Genentech back in the mid 80's.  I remember telling my boss at the time that "this company's going to go places."  Another one that caught my eye in the IPO was "Boston Chicken" now "Boston Market."  Google, Apple, WHO KNEW?!

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    thirdmilleniumposted 14 years ago

    I am the one who needs advice most.
    I would advise me not to fall in love.

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    The Ropeposted 14 years ago

    Listen to my gut, don't put too much weight on what others say - think big!  Just do it...

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    dejajolieposted 14 years ago

    @ my 13-year-old self I would say, "You'll be great, You don't have to be a product of your situation" I overcame sure enough but I beat myself up over minor things and things I couldn't control wasted energy.

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    wvlegacyposted 14 years ago

    I would pay more attention to the parents of the person I married and realized that the one I married would turn out to be like them.

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    xiao_kangposted 14 years ago

    I'd go back to my pre-pubescent self and tell myself that it's ok to be gay and to live with confidence because I will grow to be a strong and motivated man.

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    Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years ago

    I would go back to a specific day in my early 20's and I would tell her that I loved her with all my heart and that my whole world revolved around her and that living without her was not living at all. And I would hold her close and never, ever let her go.

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