Family member being possible crazy.

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   politzerposted 15 years ago

   Okay, so here is the story.....
   
   
   
   My brother met this woman during highschool. During their first few weeks of going out, she was caught by me, giving a blowjob to another student during school hours. I approached my brother with my findings and he just pushed it off his shoulder like it was nothing. I soon did as well. A few months later, this same girl (Who was still dating my brother) brough a well built football player to "Beat" my brother up. My brother pushed this aside and just walked away like a smart person should.
   
   
   After their relationship getting sketchy, over time of course, they were still toghether, she had gotten put into a foster home. She randomly freaks out at my brother (her husband) about anything. If he gets home late she is mad at him. If he asks her to get the baby a new bottle, she freaks out at him... anything between this girl and anyone else will make her freak out.
   
   This opens a new chapter of the issues that happen.... She is a foster child being shoved around DHS custody most of her childhood.
   
   Her and my brother soon wed after that and she got pregnant. When they got married, my brother and her moved in with my parents. That is when most of the issues began. She would randomly explode with anger at my parents and then try to run away. When this happened my mom having a degree in psychology, would try to make excuses for her as to why this just happened. My mother seemed to put up a wall as to what was really happening.
   
   She had her child 7 months ago. Ever since she had her kid, her mental health as i see it has gone down hill. My mother has cats in her house. Any time that she is eating food, if a cat even so much as glances in her direction she freaks out and chases the cat across the house. She plays no role in supporting the child. She does not work, and sits around, doesnt even clean house.
   
   She never finished high school. She is constantly disrespecting my parents. I can NOT have this going on to my parents.... I know my parents could simply kick them out of the house... but my mother putting up the wall, will not do that. Her child was having fun in his johnny jump up when one of the cats walked up to him, and smelled him. She then freaked out and nearly started to pull her hair out because of the situation. What she did instead was kicked the cat four times across the kitched.....
   
   
   Does anyone else see what i see going on here?
   
   Please i need some information on this......

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      Nickny79posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds like a perfectly ordinary female to me.  Did you learn this story from Style, Mystery or DeAngelo?

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         the eyeposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I know this situation it is hard. Sometimes it is difficult to undertand why the people act like that. But we don´t get anything desperating. Just imagine how many people are in your same situation, or even worse. It would be great if nothing of this will happen. The Buddhists say that when we desire to release of the suffering to all the people that are in our situation our suffering disappear.
         To do this it is not a selfish act. We see much clear all the situations when we´re in peace.
         This woman is so impulsive. In one second she turns from laughs to tears. She is so Impatient. So when she has a problem, she needs to do something fast. To decide too fast, and in a mental state of anger or fear bring us in wrong ways.
         You are the one that look for help, not her. So, don't wait to change her, not straight. What you can do is to change yourself. You have the chance of to bring some patient to your home, to put some water on the fire.
         Your sister-in-law have something inside her, that she has not been able to release. So she get angry to any interruption. Be patient with her. Her live has change in a way that maybe she didn't expect. So she just need some time to accept her new situation.
         Don't worry not even one sigle moment of our life define us. When we are troubled with something we think that it will be forever, but it is not. The life change. Be patient.
         Everybody that hurt us is sick and cannot act in any other way.
         I wish to help you more, but that's all i can.
         Take care

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   Mighty Momposted 15 years ago

   Sounds like she's off her meds and needs to get looked at by a shrink. Anger management classes would do her a world of good, too.
   Good luck. MM

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   LegendaryN8posted 15 years ago

   She seems to be affected by some form of psychosis caused by years of stressful conditions associated with her lifestyle as a child and teenager.
   
   At the very least, I would recommend psychiatric counseling.

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   Leah Wingertposted 15 years ago

   Making excuses in this situation will not help, neither will condemnation.  Get her into a MHMR (mental health and mental retardation) program stat.  This sounds like a severe mental health issue, such as Bi-polar disorder, PTSD (from which quite a few children and adults who have gone through the trauma of foster care suffer from), or some sort of Pshychosis which could be helped with pschycotropic medications.  Good luck and God bless.

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   dana825posted 14 years ago

   Well, as I have never met the girl I cannot make a definitive diagnosis. However, calling anyone crazy is not a good thing to do. She sounds like she is around the right age to develop schizophrenia and her paranoia and anger would certainly match up with that. The thing is, because her mental health has gone down after her pregnancy I would think it has to do with the pregnancy. Ever heard of post-partum depression? There's a thing called post-partum psychosis. More severe but controllable with antipsychotics, don't leave her alone with the child.

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