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How loneliness affects you?

  1. nikkikhan10 profile image80
    nikkikhan10posted 2 months ago

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    Loneliness can have both negative and positive effects.It does effect every individual in different way.On my side,it gives me more time to think,explore,read and write.How does it effect you?
    Share your stories.

    1. theraggededge profile image100
      theraggededgeposted 2 months agoin reply to this

      These kinds of posts should really be in the topical forums. This side of the forum is for HubPages-related threads, but no-one seems to take any notice so never mind.

      I think you are mixing up loneliness with solitude. If you are engaged with what you are doing, it's solitude; being on your own. You can be on your own and be angry and that's still not loneliness.

      Loneliness is when you crave companionship of some sort, whether people or animals. Loneliness is based on fear, so is negative.

      I love being on my own and have rarely experienced loneliness. It's about having inner resources and external interests. Once you get into that, 'Oh poor me, I'm all alone...' then you can spiral into loneliness and depression.

    2. Readmikenow profile image95
      Readmikenowposted 2 months agoin reply to this

      When I read this I thought about all the great religious leaders who would go off and be alone to think.  Jesus, Buddha, just to name a few.  I believe there are times when a person can only understand their life's situation by thinking about it without any outside distractions.  This is when being alone is important.  If a person is lonely, they aren't able to get the social interaction they desire.  Many people who believe in a higher power believe they are never alone.  Their belief is always with them.

      1. nikkikhan10 profile image80
        nikkikhan10posted 2 months agoin reply to this

        Thanks for comment,,everyone is different,some keep their belief with them,some need spare alone time to think and meditate,some don't think at all.

  2. nikkikhan10 profile image80
    nikkikhan10posted 2 months ago

    Thanks for your guidance dear,solitude is somehow connected to loneliness as well,,there are two forms of loneliness:Solitude and sadness.
    When you feel joys in being alone and being alone is a pleasure then it is solitude, the other one is when you feel sad and depressed because of loneliness and want a way out of it.

    1. Gregory DeVictor profile image98
      Gregory DeVictorposted 2 months agoin reply to this

      Loneliness can be manifested in the form of a self-pity party because you are not getting want you want (for example, more money, recognition, or success).

      1. nikkikhan10 profile image80
        nikkikhan10posted 2 months agoin reply to this

        Excuse me,,I am not writing for anything above,,so pity on you who is using this type of behaviour on this writing site,,people like you don't deserve to come on this site and abuse others.

        1. theraggededge profile image100
          theraggededgeposted 2 months agoin reply to this

          It's a valid comment. You don't have to take it personally, and I'm pretty sure Gregory is not abusing anyone. It's true, but I would think it's the other way around. Loneliness first followed by self-pity. Of course, it depends how you define self-pity. It may be a form of depression.

          In your earlier response, Nikki, you are still confusing solitude with loneliness. They are not the same. Solitude just means being on your own. Loneliness is an emotional response to the desire for company. Perhaps the word you are looking for is 'aloneness'?

          1. nikkikhan10 profile image80
            nikkikhan10posted 2 months agoin reply to this

            thanks dear,,May be you are right as solitude is being alone too but joyful one and depression is being alone as well but trying to get rid of this type of loneliness...

  3. Sustainable Sue profile image99
    Sustainable Sueposted 2 months ago

    I agree. I spend a lot of time alone. That's where I do some of my best thinking, and where I recover from too much time with other people. It's when I meditate or read or write and center myself again.

    Most of the time I'm not lonely when alone, unless I'd really rather hang out with others. But then, I can be in a crowd and feel lonely too.

    Loneliness for me means I hunger to be with someone I can relate to, that I trust and like being with. Sometimes I'm alone when I get that feeling, sometimes I'm out and about. I want to cry. Life doesn't seem as worthwhile anymore, but it usually doesn't last long.

    1. nikkikhan10 profile image80
      nikkikhan10posted 2 months agoin reply to this

      Its good to know,you use your time to meditate and write.I also don't feel comfortable with people I don't have understanding with.
      But life is very important,and everyone gets only once,so dear,always try to think about positive aspects of life and there are so many blessings God has given us,if we don't get what we want sometimes,there must be some plan on His side and He will definitely do better for us..
      Always be happy

  4. JoanneKristin profile image86
    JoanneKristinposted 2 months ago

    The only difference between being alone and being lonely is your thoughts.

    1. nikkikhan10 profile image80
      nikkikhan10posted 2 months agoin reply to this

      Yup,,Of course,Always try to be positive,,if you remain positive,,won't feel loneliness or depression.

 
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