What causes people to be afraid of solitude and being alone?
In this society, people are pressurized to be a couple or part of a group. People who choose to be alone are often stigmatized as the odd person out or have other pejorative names attached to them. There are people who do not want to be part of a group or a couple. They prefer to be alone; some actually enjoy being alone.
There are many reasons for this including psychological, physical, emotional and all the rest of it. For me, its probably the way I have been brought up, all on my own where you get used to being on your own. The problem starts when you have to go back and start living in a gregarious society. This is where the real coping serves as a challenge.
In an extrovert society, being an introvert is considered as unacceptable. There is nothing wrong with being alone. if you are comfortable with yourself, why look for company.
Couldn't have agreed with you more. Extroversion is a plus in this society, People are told that in order to be normal, they must be w/people and socialize, socialize. If you elect not to fall into the societal construct, you are ODD or worse.
Personally I like to adopt to any situation. I enjoy being alone and staying home or staying at a quiet place with no people to make noises. But on the other hand I love to spend time with my friends too.
People should be adoptable. People need a bit of both-socialization and isolation. That is called a 'balanced' life.
It has been found that some people try to avoid solitude and lonliness because they have an extrovert pesronality, whereas introverts do not do so. This is because these both types have their inherent personality traits. They feel comfortable with their traits. Socially, both personality types are acceptable. We should not stigmatize the introverts for their inherent nature because they will feel hurt if they are sensitive, which will further make them avoid the company of people.
There are some people who enjoy being alone. This is because they can easily connect with their inner self, which is a reservoir of peace and happiness. So, when such people are tuned in to their inner soul, they are basking in peace and happiness when being alone. Such people enjoy inner silence. They are spiritually quite strong and, therefore, they can easily handle the challenges of life.
In this world, there are both extroverts and introverts. Even when it comes to introverts, you have the type who likes to be alone most of the time and does little communication with others, and you also have the type who likes to socialize but prefers close friendships, even if it's only with a few people, over socializing in large groups. I admit I belong to the latter type of introvert, preferring to have a drink or a meal with my few close friends than to have outings or parties with large numbers of people with whom I may only share superficial relationships. It depends on the person's nature and, as you've rightfully pointed out, peer pressure, especially when they are very conscious about how others perceive them and value them by how "popular" they are. Just a piece of thought from a semi-introvert like me.
Then again, it is good to have time for socializing, and time for solitude. Too much of either one, in my opinion, may not be good psychologically.
Mr. gmwilliams. I'm going to be 50 next year. When I was younger, I did not care who my friends were. Some friends come and go. The life style does not allow them to stay. Some friends are just work. They like to take , and they do not give time to the friendship. Now, that I'm older . I select my friends carefully. Give and take are the most powerful words for a friendship. I select activites that goes with my free time.I have a nice group of friends that are good to me, and I'm good to them too. The way I see it .About people who like to be alone. Some people are busy working to earn money, and they have little time for friends. I like the picture of your question.
Humans are community animals, being alone they are vulnerable to attack and predation,
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