Why people love being alone?

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   GFS TEAMposted 15 years ago

   I am still trying to find its answer, but its true that even I love to be alone. But dont know the reason yet

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      rebekahELLEposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be alone unless you are isolating yourself from people or situations you don't want to face.
      
      some people are more outgoing and like people around, others prefer being alone. I would go crazy if I always had people around.. how do people think when they are always surrounded by others?
      
      being alone gives time to think clearly, focus, dream, be.
      those are all pluses.
      
      I have a dear friend who never wanted to be alone because it made her feel worthless and lonely, but eventually she saw that her self worth did not come from others and now enjoys her alone time.
      it wasn't being alone that made her feel worthless, but her own thoughts that she didn't have to hear when surrounded by others.
      I think, as with anything, there is a balance.

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   Ghost32posted 15 years ago

   A few reasons, for me at least:
   
   1.  Nobody telling you what to do.
   
   2.  You can hear yourself think, not to mentions hear the crickets chirp and the stream burble outside the window.
   
   3.  Nobody telling you what NOT to do.
   
   4.  No guilty conscience for not listening to others.
   
   The list goes on....

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   pooja0908posted 15 years ago

   Coz Loneliness is the best companion

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   pooja0908posted 15 years ago

   We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.

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      ShallyDposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      oh!! my  God..!! ...what an illusion

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      LegendaryHeroposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      That's deep.

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      timrshepposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      1. We're not born alone. All human beings are born in the presence of their birth-mother.
      
      2. We may live alone.
      
      3. We may die alone.
      
      Do you really believe that "we create the illusion"? Perhaps the illusion has already been created for us.

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         Friendlywordposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Nobody should be alone unless they have no choice; due to money problems or medical conditions etc...
         
         There is somebody for everybody in this world!  Get out there and find them.

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            WriteAngledposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            This statement is extremely patronising and also very belittling of people who have made a deliberate choice, at whatever point in their lives, to be alone!

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      cheaptrickposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's why schizophrenia can be a good thing to have...sometimes.
      
      Roses are red
      Violets are blue
      I'm a schizophrenic
      And so...am I!

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         schoolgirlforrealposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         

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   Flightkeeperposted 15 years ago

   I don't know if people love being alone. It just depends on your circumstances.  You can be part of a large, loud family where you can't get any time to yourself, I can see why you'd love to be alone.

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   Glenn S.posted 15 years ago

   Idon't like to be alone all the time, I would say 5 - 6 hours a week. I like the down time that lets me meditate and recoupe.

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   wychicposted 15 years ago

   There's less responsibility toward others, you can just kind of float along and do what you want, take care of yourself, and that's it. You don't have to worry about hurting someone's feelings by not spending enough time with them, or failing to meet their expectations, and you never have to worry what others will think about the way you manage your home, time, and money.
   
   For me, I used to be extremely lonely...and someone was right there in the same house. Some reason it's a lot easier being lonely if no one is around, because then it's understandable and you don't have to wonder why the loneliness is there. Now I have a wonderful husband, but aside from his company still prefer to be alone for the most part...I'm a full-time freelancer and really don't have to see anyone outside of the house if I don't want to, and I generally opt not to. Once a week I go out with one of my friends, but otherwise enjoy the uncomplicated solitude and the freedom to devote my energies to my work, my dog, my son, and my husband.

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   kirstenblogposted 15 years ago

   I can find people to be a drain on my energy. I love being alone because my energy levels go up and up and up when I can just let my mind wander and talk to myself and whatever else. There is a saying that goes 'hell is other people' and I can totally see why that saying came about.

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   lyricsingrayposted 15 years ago

   so they don't have to hold their farts in, sorry it was unavoidable

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    tantrumposted 15 years ago

    I love to be alone !
    I love to travel alone sometimes . It's the sense of freedom.
    
    But I like to be alone, because I have very good friends to turn to ,when I want company.

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    tobey100posted 15 years ago

    Sometimes it as simple as being comfortable with who you are.  I like having people around but I also like being alone.

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    Ultimate Hubberposted 15 years ago

    I don't really love being alone, so can't tell. But in certain situations I don't mind being alone like when I am doing something really important, when I am gardening or watching one of my favorite movies at home.
    
    Will you guys like being alone when you have nothing to do really except getting bored?

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       wychicposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       What's this bored thing? Between work, hobbies, books, exercise, etc. I don't think I've ever experienced not having anything to do. I suppose one might seek companionship of others if they didn't have anything at all to do...though some of us seize the opportunity to play inside our own minds.

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    skyfireposted 15 years ago

    Well big family or family that hardly cares for individual opinion can force people to choose loneliness.

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    TheGlassSpiderposted 15 years ago

    Check out my hubs about the people I live with...and you'll see why you like to be alone

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    mod2vintposted 15 years ago

    If you work in a field where you deal with the public, you crave being alone

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       Ohmaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       yep same for me!

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    Sab Ohposted 15 years ago

    We love to be alone because our default state is not being alone.

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    Georzettaposted 15 years ago

    Other people are often too much work. It's a minefield out there with all those egos. It's just too exhausting to be truthful and avoid hurt feelings and placate all the toes you step on.

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    Mamelodyposted 15 years ago

    Oh I love being alone big time! The best company I enjoy is of my own. I find being alone actually makes me a better person because I'm free to do what I want, nobody nagging me or telling me what to do, I can wonder around my house naked all day long, I can take off and go anywhere I want and at anytime, I can eat ANYTHING without some idiot telling me to watch my weight!
    
    People really are energy drainers and usually I'm not that happy around people and happier alone.

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    IntimatEvolutionposted 15 years ago

    I love it because I love it.  I have never needed a reason to just be me.  I'm me.

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    tony0724posted 15 years ago

    In a world that gets crazier by the day , and schedules that are ever more demanding I find it imperative to decompress from the world outside of me. And as most of us here at HP love to write is it not true that most writers are solitary figures ? I cannot articulate my thoughts properly with numerous distractions.

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    Crisramasposted 15 years ago

    To be alone is something you enjoy when you're thinking deeply on problems you alone is involve to concentrate. But not all the time, solitary situation is good, especially if you're on a depression moment. You need someone to share your problems, to lean on and get advice to untie you from deeply in trouble.
    
    You need a companion to burst out what you feel inside is disturbing you.

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       csillahanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       Q: why do most great thinkers love solitude ?????

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    cookibuqposted 14 years ago

    <--natural born loner ._.
    so sad and yet not so sad...

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    ssbrookhaven65posted 14 years ago

    Being alone is not a choice, but it is heroin in my arm. It will not escape me, nor will I escape it.

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       adrienne2posted 14 years agoin reply to this

       I enjoy being around others mainly cuz I can be a ham sometimes. However I do enjoy being alone.  One reason I do love being alone is to enjoy the quite.  I love the still quiteness in being alone. Another reason I like being alone if I feel like being a slob - nobody will know it lol.

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    mega1posted 14 years ago

    Because I am my own best friend - and because it is not easy to get much done when not alone.

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    mega1posted 12 years ago

    love being alone in order to get things done, listen to good music, get things done, think, get things done!

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    prettydarkhorseposted 12 years ago

    I don't talk that much!

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