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How to make my husband stop drinking alcohol?

  1. profile image44
    vani_2k8posted 8 years ago

    How to make my husband stop drinking alcohol?

    ideas to stop drinking alcohol, confirm is it harmful to health & how many times can take per month.

  2. Lisa HW profile image74
    Lisa HWposted 8 years ago

    Based on what is generally known about people thought to be drinking more than they should, I don't think there is any way for you to stop him.  He, himself, has to be the one to want to stop.\

    One question you need to have the answer to first is whether or not he's an alcoholic and someone who would have trouble eliminating some or all of the drinks; or whether he's not an alcoholic and is just drinking more than is healthy (or even more than you believe is healthy).

    If he's an alcoholic he needs to get help from someone who deals with alcoholism.  If he's not, and he just drinks more than he should (or more than you think he should), I don't think you can do much than look online for information about possible detrimental health (and other) effects of alcohol, print it out, and ask him to read it.

    Another question to consider is what I've mentioned above:  Does he really drink so much that there may be a serious concern for the health effects, or are you someone who doesn't like alcohol at all and who wishes he would stop drinking altogether?

    I'm sorry if this isn't much of an answer, and there's no doubt that people are generally better off not drinking (although wine has been shown to sometimes be beneficial in preventing some potential heart problems in men), but there is no simple answer to this question, which just has too many variables to answer adequately.

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    The Alcoholicposted 8 years ago

    Forget about making anyone quit anything.  Whether it be drinking alcohol or mowing the lawn.  You can control your behavior, period.  If you expect to make anyone do anything your in for a long, frustrating life.  I've tried to control other people only to find out I can only control my own behavior.

    You can tell your husband he can either stop drinking or pack his bags.  However, if you tell him to stop or pack, make sure it's not a bluff.  If it is a bluff, all the alcoholics or heavy drinkers I know will blow you off.

    If your husband's drinking is causing serious life problems, he is an alcoholic.  What you can do is go to AlAnon.  You can not cure him.  You didn't cause it, can't control nor cure it.

    I wish you the best.

  4. manthy profile image75
    manthyposted 7 years ago

    You cannot change your husband only he can do that.
    Alcohol in moderation is actually good for your health.
    A glass of wine a day won't hurt a healthy person, but if your husband is taking any prescription medicine then one drink could kill him, I would recommend that you try to get him into a rehab program, you can also ask people to pray for him, I will keep him and your family in my prayers ;0)
    I hope this helps in someway

  5. wordsscriber profile image60
    wordsscriberposted 7 years ago

    contact your local AA for some suggesstions.  An intervention might help him realize how he is affecting the family.  The bottom line is no one can make him stop, he has to decide when.

  6. LillyGrillzit profile image77
    LillyGrillzitposted 7 years ago

    We are not allowed to live other peoples' lives for them, and after finding Al-Anon (Families and Loved ones of Alcoholics), I learned that my wanting to control another person was just as bad as the drinker drinking.

    Once, my husband (ex now), was in the parking lot of a bar, I tracked him down in, I almost ran over him in my rage - The worse thing, is I was completely sober.
    Peace and Good Luck.

  7. Tirzah Laughs profile image82
    Tirzah Laughsposted 7 years ago

    You can't make anyone do anything.  That's the truth. 

    You can do the following:

    A) Learn to live with it.
    B) Tell him you'll leave if he doesn't stop and then when he doesn't stop, then leave.  Then if everything else in his life goes south, he may hit bottom and decide to stop drinking.  But he will decide.  If his life is still good and functional, he probably won't stop.

    Everyone knows that alcohol will damage your liver in large doses, everyone knows that driving will drunk will get someone killed.

    But people never apply any of that knowledge to themselves unless they hit bottom.

    Sometimes not even then.

    And if he's a social drinker and not an alcoholic then he has even less reason to stop.

    My brother drank heavily.  You can't make a drinker stop until he wants to stop.

  8. Harry Santos profile image55
    Harry Santosposted 7 years ago

    The answer is simple: Make him a sandwich.


  9. cathyaddams567 profile image59
    cathyaddams567posted 5 years ago

    Talk to him is the fist thing you must do. If he is willing to change for you, try showing him this site: http://abusetreatmentcenters.net/substa … t-centers/

  10. Anna Sternfeldt profile image61
    Anna Sternfeldtposted 5 years ago

    I see this question was raised several years ago, but I still think it is a very important question..but I miss vani coming back and make any comments...

    I agree with the people who have said that you can't change anyone except yourself. Join Alanon is a very good idea, as being "co-dependent" needs to be healed as well.
    As a sober alcoholic myself I know that the decision to make changes must come from yourself.

  11. lostohanababy profile image59
    lostohanababyposted 3 years ago

    Patch or Pill, prescriptions made by your doctor, to help your husband, curb his crave for 'drinking' alcohol!  Changes in his behavior may lead to 'loss' of job, uncaring about his health and either promote violence and abuse in the home or to you and children, if there are kids in the house with you.  Can bring about bizarre personality, and so forth.  Get help, if it endangers your safety or the safety of your children!   Don't deal with it alone!

  12. m abdullah javed profile image77
    m abdullah javedposted 3 years ago

    Make your love, concern and a caring attitude more tastier than alcohol. Your husband has addicted to alcohol as it might have attracted him, try, try, try time and again to make your hubby addicted to you. May Allah shower His mercy on both of you.

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    Madhuvani talamposted 2 years ago

    I know that it is harmful, I want my husband to complete ly stop drinking